Freedom Friday: Change is not your enemy!

Hello everybody and welcome once again to the EmLent podcast. I am your host, ruth Abigail Smith, and today is once again Freedom Friday, which is when me, or me and one of my friends, comes and shares something we've unlearned this week and how it has made us just a little bit more free. So change. There's been a lot of change happening in my world recently and I have really had to learn how to manage my levels of anxiety as a result of it, and I really have. It's something we've all heard, and something I find myself reiterating is that the reality is that the only thing constant in life is change. But if I can learn how to manage the change in my life, I can learn how to manage my life, because I'm not going to have a life without it. But this is the thing that I've been unlearning that change is not my enemy, change is my teammate. Change isn't my opponent. I'm not playing against change. I have to learn how to. I have to learn how to make change my teammate. How do I play on the same team with it? How do I use it to my advantage? How do I use change to win Right? That's, to me, been a really interesting concept, because change allows us to do a couple of things. I mean, it allows you to learn new things, become a new person, grow. It introduces you to new concepts and introduces you to new ideas. It puts you in a position to have to innovate where you wouldn't have had to before. So it challenges you, it ups your game a little bit, it introduces you to new information. In a lot of ways, change can be your teammate. You can play on the same team and it can be mutually beneficial. I think we just are so used to living in a world where we feel as though we have control over things we don't actually have control over, and so when something happens, that's that we're not expecting or is completely outside of our realm of control, then a lot of times I we tend to get undone Like we, we aren't able to function as a result, like this happened, but it wasn't supposed to happen. And and I find that, I find that in my own life, I find the lives of young people all the time right, when anything, when anything changes, when there's something that's one way, it's supposed to be one way, or you think it's going to be this way, or it's always been this way, and all of a sudden it changes and it's different. It's as if it's almost like it almost feels like an attack, and I think what I want to, to challenge myself and others to do, is to not see it as an attack, but an asset. See change as an, as an, as an asset, not an attack, because the reality is we have to be willing to continue to to, to grow, to be molded, to be shaped, and that all requires change, but it doesn't have to deflate or defeat us. It doesn't have to. Change Doesn't have to be our undoing. It can be our remolding, it can be the stepping stone to who, who we want to be. But but change, we have to learn how to use it to our advantage. I have to learn how to use it to my advantage, and that's my challenge, it's my challenge to myself and it's what it's truly what I'm unlearning Like how, how do I? How do I manage change? How do I manage change? How do I, or do I allow it to manage me? What? Where am I on that spectrum? Do I manage change Well, or do I allow it to manage me and take me over and Completely run me down to where I Am kind of frozen in time and almost refused to move forward, and so that's that's it. That's my, that's. My thought is, like you know, ask yourself the question Is change, is change my opponent? Is it my teammate? Do I see it as an attack or an asset? Is it managing me or am I managing it? Because if you can change, if you can manage here, if you can manage change well, then you'll be able to manage your life well, and the things that come at us Throughout our life most of which we can't control won't Defeat or deflate us, and that's it. Stay tuned. One change is coming on. Coming up in my life is Marriage, and some of y'all know that I'm getting married in just a little bit of time, and so that's, that's definitely a part of change, and we're gonna be talking about it in our next series, unlearning Marriage, which the first episode of that is gonna drop on July 25th. I'm really excited about these conversations that I get to have with with, with couples around around unlearning marriage and really just Getting getting good information for myself, but also, hopefully, you guys can get something as well. Whether you're in a relationship or you are Single, you're, you're dating it's. It's really interesting. I think it'll be a really interesting conversation, so tune into that. It'll drop July 25th that's a Tuesday but until then, keep tuning into freedom Fridays and let's keep keep getting free together. Y'all. Let's keep unlearning. All right, peace. Thank you once again for listening to the unlearned podcast. We would love to hear your comments and your feedback about the episode. Feel free to follow us on Facebook and Instagram and to let us know what you think. We're looking forward to the next time when we are able to Unlearn together to move forward towards freedom. See you then.