Freedom Friday: They Not Like You!

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Hello everybody and welcome once again to the Unlearned Podcast.

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I'm your host, ruth Abigail, aka RA, and this is Freedom Friday, where we come and share something we've unlearned recently and how it has made us just a little bit more free.

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And this unlearning is very recent I mean minutes ago, recent and I'm recording at a time I don't normally record, but I really, really wanted to share this and knew that if I waited I might forget it.

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So here we are.

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So Angel Street, the organization I have the privilege of serving it, has a pretty big fundraising event coming up and it's a first time event, so it's the first time we've done this event before.

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And if you know anything about doing first-time events, which I'm sure a lot of you do, there is a ton of excitement around it, a lot of unknowns, a lot of nerves, a lot of questions that don't get answered, things that happen at the last minute.

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Of course, that's with any event, but with a first-time event there are things that happen at the last minute that you may not know how to plan for because you've never done it before.

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Or there are things that happen that are unexpected, that you just didn't know to think of because, again, you've never done the event before.

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And so when you have all these questions around something, the number one thing you need is help and resources, and so we have incredible relationships with people, and so we've got a ton of folks that are helping text that morning, and so I realized I was like, oh shoot, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to text you this early, but you know, my husband was on the way to pick up the items.

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I said if you're not there, then you know who can he talk to.

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And she said, well, I'm already here, given my number.

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And it was at a time that y'all I mean, maybe she gets to work that early, maybe she doesn't.

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I mean, maybe she gets to work that early, maybe she doesn't, I don't know, but what I do know is I was very grateful that in that moment she was so accessible, and I just thought about man, there are not a lot of people that you can count on to be that accessible, that you can count on to be available when you need them.

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Available when you need them.

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There's a certain level of work ethic and there's a certain level of commitment and service mindedness that comes with people, or that comes with people that you just can't replicate and it got me thinking sometimes.

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I, as as a leader and just as a human, you so appreciate those people and it's it's who I strive to be as well.

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But the thing that we have to unlearn, I think, is two things.

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Number one we have to unlearn that everybody's going to show up that way.

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Everyone's not going to show up in the way you need them to show up and everyone's not going to show up the way you show up, and that's hard to accept, especially when you're feeling under pressure.

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The second thing is that, even though you may not be wired naturally to show up as the most committed, dependable, accessible, servant-minded person, you can learn and I think that is something we have to unlearn that you have to unlearn that it's not possible to learn how to show up well for people.

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You can learn how to do it and it can be trained.

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For some people it's natural.

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For some people it's natural.

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For some people it is a desire.

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Right, I want to show up for people in this way.

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For some people it's harder to do, for whatever reason.

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There's a ton of reasons.

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It could just be because they're one of those people that have a one-track mind, which those are some of the best people, because if you're on their mind, you've got everything that they need.

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But if you're not, it could be tough, and then sometimes you might have somebody who is just very focused on a routine.

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So when something comes up that's outside of their routine, then it can throw them and it can feel like they don't care.

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But it's not that they don't care, they're just wired to do routine really well.

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So for those types of people, the expectation is if you're in their routine, they got you.

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If they're not, then it might come across as oh, they're not dependable, or they don't care about service.

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That's not necessarily true.

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Again, everybody doesn't show up the way you show up, and so we have to remember that these things are possible.

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You can train into these things, you can learn these things, and it's possible to do things that you're not wired to do.

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It's possible to show up in ways that maybe you're not wired to show up as and I think even more importantly it is possible to manage your expectations of other people so that you are not unduly disappointed that people don't show up the way you would show up or the way you need them to show up or the way that you have an expectation that people should show up, right, you as an individual can manage and learn to manage your expectations of people, and so those are things that, uh, that I think I've unlearned.

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You know, I've unlearned even the last few minutes.

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It's like I'm so grateful for people who are naturally wired that way, who just show up, and it's like, man, thank you so much for being that person.

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And also I'm grateful that I can manage my expectations that everybody's not going to show up that way and that's okay.

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That's okay, cause they're going to show up in a way that, hopefully, is healthy, but everybody's not going to do that, and so that's it, y'all.

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I hope that was helpful.

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It was a little rushed, unplanned, so forgive the rambling, forgive the sneezing I don't know what's going on there, but yeah, we are back at Freedom Fridays, took a little bit of a hiatus just to do some planning around this event, but we are back and thank you so much for continuing to listen to the Unlearned Podcast.

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Man, I love doing this with y'all.

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So we will be back next week and until then, let's keep unlearning together so that we can experience more freedom.

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Thank you once again for listening to the Unlearned Podcast.

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We're looking forward to the next time when we are able to unlearn together to move forward towards freedom.

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See you then.

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