June 7, 2024
Freedom Friday: Three Essentials For Leadership
This Freedom Friday join me as we rethink the fundamentals of leadership by emphasizing the power of genuine connections, clear communication, and creative strategies. We'll dig deep into how nurturing relationships and learning from others can lead to continuous personal growth and enhance our leadership abilities. Plus, discover how structuring your messages with clarity can drive meaningful action and eliminate confusion, ensuring your intentions are always understood.
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00:07 - Leadership and Creative Communication Strategies
12:02 - Unlearned Podcast
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Hello everybody and welcome once again to the Unlearned podcast.
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I am your host with Abigail aka Ra, and this is Freedom Friday, where me or me and a friend of mine lately it's just been me will come and share something we've unlearned recently and how it has made us just a little bit more free.
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So I believe if you have listened to our segment Talks with Middle Adults, you just heard us talk about leadership.
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Leadership is one of the topics I'm actually extremely passionate about.
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I don't know why, but I've just always been passionate about leadership, fascinated by it, and so this is a really I think it's a great episode.
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If you haven't checked it out, go ahead and check it out and let us know what you think and then share with somebody you think might be helpful that who needs to have that conversation and or who needs to hear that conversation, heard from people who are still young leaders but have a little bit of experience.
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So that is out.
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So y'all share that.
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In that particular segment, we talked about three essential habits for leadership.
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There's all kinds of information about leadership out there, and so these are just things that in my experience, I have found to be essential, uh, and so I wanted to share them.
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We're going to call them the three c's, just three.
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And uh, this is.
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There are things that we have to unlearn about each one of these things.
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So, got our three c's right.
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We got connect, communicate and create.
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Connect, communicate and create are the three C's.
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So, as leaders, the first thing we have to do is learn to connect.
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One of the things that we have to unlearn about connecting is that learning doesn't just come from books.
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Learning also comes from people.
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I think sometimes, when we make connections, we don't necessarily factor in that we are actually in a learning process.
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Anytime you're connecting with another individual, you are learning from them or you have the opportunity to learn from them.
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They become a resource, and so we don't want to think that connecting is just about filling up our contact list to make calls to people when we want something.
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That's not connecting, that's not real connection.
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Connection is also about learning from people.
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Learning from people not just books, not just podcasts, not just TED Talks, not just sermons, but learning from people.
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So you want to always make sure that you're making new connections, because there's always new things to learn.
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There's always things that other people's brains, that you won't have access to until you meet that person.
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So you want to make sure that we're doing that.
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So you want to connect, make new connections and we have to nurture old connections.
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I think that's the other thing we have to unlearn is that the connections that we have already made don't assume you've already learned all you can from those people.
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You probably haven't.
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There are other areas that they have knowledge in or experience in, outside of how you met them, that could be really useful for you.
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So let's do that right.
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Let's make connection more than exchanging cards and seeing how we can partner and seeing what we can get from each other.
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Let's make connection about learning, and not just learning from and getting information and experience from them, but contributing yours to them.
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Okay, connection.
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The second one communicate.
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So we've talked about communication before in the sense of how do you overcome fears of communication, and so I won't spend a whole lot of time on this one.
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But understand this right.
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I think one of the things about communication again, one of the things that is so crucial is the clarity piece of communication.
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We oftentimes do not spend the of the things we have to remember right, and some of us have to unlearn, is that words are always the first step to action.
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Nobody acts without first a word from something.
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Could be from another human, could be in your own mind, could be from a book, could be from an idea that you've heard, but there are words.
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Words are always the first step to action, and most of the time we're communicating with people, the end goal is an action.
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We don't talk Leaders especially don't talk just to talk.
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We talk so that action can be had, but if we are unclear about the words that we say, we won't get right action.
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We won't get action at all because, instead of taking the time to prepare something that people could grab, hold to and move on, what you have done is introduce something that is unclear, that just creates more words in the forms of questions, because there's confusion and so it delays action.
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So that's not what we want to do.
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We want to make sure that we are preparing how we speak to people, as opposed to letting our excitement drive our communication.
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Let your preparation drive your communication so that things are clear.
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Clarity is going to be your friend, even if people don't like it sometimes.
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That sometimes clarity it doesn't leave room uh, uh for for too much input sometimes, and sometimes that's okay, because we need to have a clear understanding.
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Clarity is also going to rule out some people, uh, and it's going to rule out a lot of things, things and people.
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So, but that's that's good Cause.
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You need clarity, we need to know this is the way we're going, this is how we're going to do it, this is why we're going to do it, and don't be afraid if it starts to do this you can't see me if you're not watching the video, but I'm moving my hands back and forth because sometimes clarity and the right kind of communication clears the way and clears out stuff.
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Again, that's people and things and opportunities that don't fit with where you need to be right now, but you can't know that if you're unclear.
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So clarity is your friend when it comes to communication.
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Understand if it doesn't make sense outside of your own head, then you still probably have more work to do.
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So try it on other people right Before you put out the official, the official letter or the official email, the official meeting or the official presentation, test it out.
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Have people ask questions.
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Don't be afraid to be questioned, because if people are asking questions, there probably needs to be a little bit more clarity.
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And then, once you have the clarity, you will get the right questions.
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That will add to it and not feel the need to help to clarify it, but it adds to it.
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Right, more, more input can be had when I'm clear.
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Okay, so we connecting, we're communicating with clarity, and then the third thing is create, create, create, create.
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I believe we were all born as creators.
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We were created by a creator.
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Therefore, we have creation in us.
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We have the ability to make something out of nothing.
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Most of us, unfortunately, don't believe that about ourselves ourselves, but you are a creator, you are creative, you create, you create every day.
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One of the ways we create that we don't even realize we create is we create sentences.
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The way you say something is not going to be the way I say something.
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If you look at someone or if you're talking to somebody.
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Have you ever had a conversation with somebody where you've said the exact same sentence at the exact same time, with the exact same words, the exact same inflection?
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If you have, that is really, really, really creepy.
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You probably haven't.
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Why?
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Because your brain is constantly creating and the first way it comes out comes out again is through your words.
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So for those of you who struggle seeing yourself as creative.
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The way you say something, the words you say, use to say it, when you say it is all creative.
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Why?
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Because it's never happened before.
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It's never happened before.
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It's brand new.
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And so your, your sentences are a product of creation.
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So understand that your brain, your brain are a product of creation.
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So understand that your brain, your brain is your engine for creation.
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And so you can't.
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What you don't want to do is uh, uh, you want to fuel that engine with being creative on purpose.
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Make time to do that, make time to do that, make time to create, make time to brainstorm, make time to just think and wonder it.
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It will, uh, there are things that are going to happen in your mind that won't happen while you're on the go.
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That won't happen while you are in a meeting.
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That's not going to happen while you are filling out a report.
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It's not going to happen while you're at a networking event.
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It's going to happen when you're just wondering.
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You're walking, you are driving.
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A lot of mine happens while I'm driving Excuse me While you're getting ready in the morning.
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Pay attention to those moments and when something strikes, write it down, write it down.
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Write it down the idea, write down the, the line that came into your mind, that you might, that you're like oh, that that seems like a good line.
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I want to use that someday.
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Whatever that might be.
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It could be in a song, it could be in a talk, it could be for a presentation, it could be a title of something.
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Write it down.
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Don't miss those moments, because people need you to stay creative.
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It's how you stay relevant.
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So, those three habits, right, and I call them habits because we want to be able to do them on a regular basis.
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You want them to become a regular part of your leadership connecting, not just about partnership and get things done together, but learning from each other, communicating, specifically around clarity and communication.
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Communicating with clarity and creating understanding that you are creating all the time, whether you like it or not, even when you're talking.
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But we want to make that a purposeful thing and write things down when they come to your mind.
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All right, that's it.
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That's all I got.
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Hopefully that was helpful.
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Three essential habits of leadership connecting, communicating and creating, and that's all.
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So yeah, we're done.
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Thank y'all again for listening to Freedom Friday.
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Like, share, subscribe.
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Give it to them.
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Don't hold it to yourself, and we will see you next week.
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So let's keep Unlearned together so that we can experience more freedom.
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Thank you once again for listening to the Unlearned podcast.
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We would love to hear your comments and your feedback about the episode.
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We're looking forward to the next time when we are able to unlearn together to move forward towards freedom.
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See you then.
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