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Dec. 17, 2024

Home For The Holidays Pt. 2: Embracing Grace in Life Transitions, Counting the Cost of Growth, Thriving in Unsettled Places, And Embracing Hope Through Community

Home For The Holidays Pt. 2: Embracing Grace in Life Transitions, Counting the Cost of Growth, Thriving in Unsettled Places, And Embracing Hope Through Community
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Have you ever felt the weight of transitioning into a new life stage, especially during the bustling holiday season? Join us as we explore the themes of grace, patience, and hope in navigating these shifts. We share stories and insights on reconciling current realities with past dreams, highlighting the importance of self-compassion and the biblical perspective of grace as a sustaining force in our weaknesses. From marriage and parenting to career advancements, we acknowledge the responsibilities that come with these changes and emphasize the need to embrace our present circumstances with hope for what lies ahead.

Unexpected blessings often arise in unsettling places, and we share personal tales of vulnerability, from financial struggles to feelings of being overwhelmed. By examining the impact of the voices we listen to and the courage required to relinquish control, we uncover the transformative power of community and shared experiences. As the season concludes, we express gratitude for the journey we've undertaken together, looking forward to continued growth and freedom in the coming year. Celebrate with us as we embrace hope, trust in God's plan, and anticipate a joyful holiday season.

Chapters

00:00 - Navigating Grace and Hope in Adulthood

14:29 - Counting the Cost of Growth

28:05 - Trusting in God's Timing and Plan

36:55 - Thriving in Unsettled Places

45:32 - Discovering Hope Through Patience and Surrender

57:44 - Embracing Hope Through Community

01:06:49 - Reflecting on Growth and Community

Transcript
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Hey friends, listen.

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If you enjoyed last week's Home for the Holidays, we are back tonight for part two.

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We're about to kick it off.

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It is going to be absolutely amazing.

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We're going to talk about what do you do to get to the fulfillment of that hope.

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Right, and it is time for us to walk into the next season of our lives.

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So join us for the second part of Home for the Holidays, where we're going to kick it off, and so that we can finish December strong and go into our next season.

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So we're making this pivot right.

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Let's make this pivot because I think now the question is well, how do I go about doing that?

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How do I go about living in this current reality and being open and receiving where God has me today, as opposed to living in and trying to recreate what I used to want and who my younger self wanted, recreate who I used to, what I used to want and who my younger self wanted, um, what is it?

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What are the things that I have to have?

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What are the things that I need to be unlearning now in order to do that?

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How do I start that process?

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Because, again, going home, it feels like going back, and it feels and so it puts you in the mindset of going back, and so when I go back, I'm reminded of what I don't have yet, right, and I'm reminded of what I have to go back to and all this stuff.

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So it's like, what do I do with that, especially during this holiday season?

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How do I manage that?

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And what's the where's the encouragement?

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How do I stay hopeful?

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So, um, I.

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Hopeful, so um, I I have.

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There are three words that we kind of talked about earlier.

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We were kind of as we were talking about this episode, quita like that.

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I was just reflecting on that.

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I think, um, unlearning this is going to take three things, right?

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Okay, it's going to take having grace with yourself, it's going to take having patience and it's going to take hope having hope.

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So you have to have grace.

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You have to give yourself grace, because don't put so much pressure on trying to figure it all out in the next two weeks.

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First of all, right, give yourself some grace and in that you're going to have to have patience and that'll help you.

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The hopefulness I think will begin to flow out of you being intentional and giving yourself those things.

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So let's talk a little bit about what it looks like to be give yourself grace.

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There's a scripture that came to mind, but I got to think of it to get it.

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Let patience have its perfect work.

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James.

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What I love having saved friends.

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Man, that's perfect, that is just perfect.

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And you said it like how do you not know that?

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How do you not know that?

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Okay, Um, but uh, wait, no, I don't think that's the I was thinking of, but nevertheless nevertheless, nevertheless, moving on, I think that when you think about having grace for yourself, I think you know in the Bible, in Second Corinthians 12, where it talks about you know, my strength is is is is made perfect in your weakness, right?

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That scripture actually starts off by saying my grace is made perfect in your weakness, right?

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That scripture actually starts off by saying my grace is sufficient for you, right?

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And, like I think, a lot of times, when we think about grace, we think about, like, something being passed over, like, yeah, you were wrong, but I had grace.

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You know, yeah, you were wrong, yeah, you did something that was trifling, but I'm going to have grace and give you a pardon, but I had grace, you know, yeah, you were wrong.

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Yeah, you did something that was trifling, but I'm going to have grace and give you a pardon, right.

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But I think that the strength of grace is in its ability to carry you in weakness.

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You know, and you have to know, that even in my weak points there is a grace that is still carrying me, and that this season also, I think Paul says that he boasts in his infirmities, right, because then he knows that grace is coming.

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And you have to know that when you hit areas or moments in your life where you feel really, really weak, really really down, really really downtrodden, sad, grieving, mournful, angry, all of those places, all of those things that make us feel like the weaker vessel, are like Lord, I'm not handling it like I normally would handle it and I'm not covering things like I normally would cover it, and I'm making mistakes and't feel like I can't get back up, then those are the moments that you actually need to rejoice, because grace is showing up for you right there in that moment, and so you have to, and in order to accept that grace, you have to step back and say I was never going to be able to do this on my own strength.

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That's correct.

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I was never going, I wasn't made to do this independent of God.

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That's correct.

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And also and I think the bigger thing is, when we get to these middle adult years you know some of you are married, some of you do have kids, all of us got jobs.

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You know what I'm saying Like you are at a completely different stage of life than when you built them dreams and hopes At 18, you had no job, not no real job.

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We was working retail and drive-thrus and internships, even at 25, you had to start a job.

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You wasn't out here, you had a clock-in job.

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You wasn't leading teams of people.

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You know what I'm saying.

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You weren't out here.

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You know envisioning programs and building businesses and being doctors and lawyers and leading families, and you know like we weren't doing those things when we started creating all these hopes.

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But now you are in a space, middle adults, talking to us.

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You are in a space where there is a weight on you of I got to hold these things up, and what I'm telling you right now is is that if you continue to maneuver through life where you're constantly getting better and growing in areas of your life but you're not growing in grace, you will get to a point where the things that you're carrying will overwhelm you.

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You are going to have to absolutely learn how to accept the grace of God and give your.

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When we say, give myself grace, what we're really saying is allow yourself to live in the grace that God has already provided for you, so that you can find strength in the moment to keep going forward.

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And I think that that is.

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You know that, that that, right, there is something, personally, that I've had to.

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Really, I mean, I told myself that today, like with Abigail, you got to give yourself grace.

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Um, we, we went to a church today to sing, and this particular church is one of our most supportive churches.

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They're amazing, we've gone back to sing during Christmas time for like five years and most of the time we've been there, we have had, um, these, we, we sell merchandise things like these sweaters, sweatshirts, t-shirts, and these people love them, they buy them up, they love them.

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Well, um, last year we was the first year.

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Um, last year was the first year that we didn't have it and we didn't have it in the way we did.

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We had a little merch, we'd have the same merch, and then we, this year, we didn't have it either.

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Now, part of that, all of that, is due to the transitional kind of internal transition that we're going through and that we've gone through this year.

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Right, we've had, I mean, we have a whole new team.

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You know, the co-founder team is is is still involved, but not full time and doing different things.

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So it's it's really me having to manage things that I've never managed before.

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And so you know, everybody's asking like where's sweatshirts, where's sweatshirts, where's sweatshirts?

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And every time somebody asks it's just like a little small little just on my, just like you know and it's like oh.

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God, I feel and I did I mean I I felt like a real failure and adequate.

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I had all those feelings today Um, like I am really screwing up, like did I miss an opportunity?

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Am I losing, you know, opportunities for, um, uh, donors or whatever.

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You know, it's just like I.

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What do they think?

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Are they going to?

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You know, I don't know, it's just do they?

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Do we have that taste in their mouth?

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Are they, are we, are they starting to lose trust in the organization?

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I'm going all, I'm doing all this right, I'm going all these different ways and I had to tell myself, as I was getting my car, I said with Abigail you have, you've got to have, you've got to allow yourself to live in the grace of God.

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Be, gracious to yourself because you're doing something new to you, new to most of your team, and you know the the, what they experienced was produced by experienced people in that.

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You are not experienced in that, so you can't expect to be at that same level.

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I will get there, but we needed some time and we've needed a couple of years to kind of come back.

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And so if I had to be if I'm honest, that feeling is actually I've been feeling that all year Right, I've been feeling that all year of.

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You know, can I maintain what we've been doing?

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Um and it was a different structure and a different team.

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Yeah, and it's been really like.

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It's been very humbling, uh, I, and it's been hard, but it's.

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It's not that.

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It's not that I don't believe we can do it.

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I know we can do it, but and it's been hard, but it's it's.

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It's not that.

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It's not that I don't believe we can do it.

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I know we can do it, but at doing it at the same pace and doing it according to other people's expectations is what's really hard, and it's like you gotta give yourself grace because you're not.

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There's some things you just don't know yet, and and you have to give yourself time to learn One of the things that.

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I have as I was reflecting on, I think it's important to recognize is that unlearning anything has a cost to it, and so does learning.

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It's a cost, and I've been paying the cost of learning and unlearning this year.

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Ooh, wait a minute.

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Wait a minute.

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That was not in the show notes, it wasn't All right, that's good, that's good yeah.

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Yes, it is Right yeah.

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And one of the one of the biggest costs is time.

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Like you know, that's one of the biggest costs.

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Like I have to.

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I have to pay more time than other people in this, in this learning, with these learning curves and unlearning curves, there are things that I have to unlearn as a leader in order to learn new things.

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As a leader, there are things that I have to have time to do and so the cost like there's a cost on the front end of that and if I don't pay the cost on the front end, I'll be paying the cost for a lot longer.

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And so what I've learned and what I've been able to kind of hold on to is you're paying your dues this year this is the year Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, because I again y'all, I've been telling y'all, if you've been watching the last couple episodes, I told you you know I'm more prone to crying because you know, again I went through this healing journey and paying your dues this year, girl, girl, I promise you I got to the end of.

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You know, we're in December and as I reflect back, I'm like Lord, so much happened, you know, and I I'm like so much happened, but it's like I don't have a lot of like the things that like I thought I was gonna come out of this year with.

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But like I came out, like and I'm like I know that next year is gonna be such a hard, pivot, because it is almost like the Lord is requiring he's like you have got to get in position, like you cannot do this thing halfway anymore.

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You got to, I need you all the way in.

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And so it has been some hard pulls, man, it's been some.

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I mean it's like it's like I would.

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It's kind of like tug of war, you know, like, except it's just me on this side and the Lord on the other and he just like kind of pulling me a little bit, a little bit, but it's like jerking, like I'm jerking for it, you know, and like you know, but it has been like he's like I'm trying to get you somewhere, you know.

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But all I feel is, lord, I didn't.

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And now listen now, now I feel like I'm, like I'm, I'm, I'm trying to hold on because I'm trying to maintain, and the Lord's like I don't want you to maintain, I want you to move forward.

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Yeah.

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And I'm like, ooh, but I'm trying to.

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So I got my feet dug in the ground and I'm like I got to stay right here and the Lord's like that's not the place of purpose and he's, he's pulling you.

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Not the place of purpose and he's, he's pulling you.

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And so you know, with that pulling, with the pull of God, there comes a lot of of of of having to let go of some things and and taking your heels out of the ground and allowing God to just put you in the place that he wants you to be in, right.

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Luke.

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So in Luke 14, this is something I was reflecting on earlier today as well.

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Right, it's talking.

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It talks about, you know, uh, it's talking about this counting the cost of discipleship, like don't.

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So essentially it's telling, telling.

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It's talking about this.

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Uh, give a couple of stories.

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Um, who?

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Who builds a tower without first making sure he has all the materials to do it?

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Who?

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started right, or who, who, who goes to war without making sure you have enough money to finish the war?

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I was in a workshop this weekend and this is one, and this is one of the verses that we kind of were core to the conversation, and it was like you got to make sure, because what you run the risk of and this hit me so hard, man is, before you go down this road of growth, of unlearning, count the cost.

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Know what you're going to have to give up, know what you're going to have to let go of.

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Understand that there are some things that you're not going to be able to hold on to.

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And if you haven't made a decision to, if you haven't, if you don't fully understand that, and then you get to the middle of it, you're like I can't do this, no more.

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What you end up doing is you end up embarrassing the God you say you serve and that that when, when somebody said that this weekend, I was like so you can't give up, not for you, but for the sake, but for the sake of his name, like so it's like hey, don't, don't put if you, if you do with some just even living your, your life, right, if you are in the name of the one you serve.

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And then you go down the road and you're like, hey, this ain't for me, I can't do this, no more, it's too hard.

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I'm finna, go back, I can't do it.

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You make him look bad and so, so, so, like this journey of of what it is you have to having to unlearn, going into this next year and say, okay, we gonna, we gonna where I'm, I'm willing to go through the reconstruction, let's do it.

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But make sure you're counting that cost.

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Like I said, the learning costs you, it's going to cost you.

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So if you don't believe that you're willing to pay the cost, you might want to step back and say, am I ready for this right now?

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I mean, that's just a reality.

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Because it's going to cost you this next year.

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Because, again, you know this isn't going to happen quickly.

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Right, going and shifting your mindset of what it looks like to engage your life as it is today and not how it was 20 years ago, like that, takes time.

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That's a mindset shift.

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And so understand, be ready to give up the dreams of 25, be ready for that, you know.

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Be ready to, to embrace new dreams, um, be ready to embrace new desires.

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Be ready to embrace new desires, be ready to embrace a new community.

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Be ready to embrace the new and let go of some of those things that are no longer relevant, because you've passed that stage.

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You just haven't chosen to let go yet.

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And so I just but I do caution.

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I caution people as like and I've been going through it in several seats of my life, but specifically with work and just learning how to lead differently and being in a different area of leadership and some of the things that we do have going on in the next, in the next few years that I have, I have been the catalyst for like, hey guys, we're going, let's go, let's go do it, and then I, so I have to be like yo and you, you better be ready and and to your point, god has been getting.

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I think even the mentality this year has been a reality check, right, and a mentality check of okay, if this is where you say you want to go, then this is what it's going to cost, and I'm going to spend some time molding you into a person who's willing to pay that cost, and I feel like a lot of this year has been that for me.

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Um, because I do like I don't want to keep living in this.

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you know, 10, 15 years ago idea of what I, where I thought life would be like either in my, in my leadership life and in my personal life, in the life of my community, the life of my friends, where I thought life would be like either in my, in my leadership life and in my personal life, in the life of my community, the life of my friends, whatever, like.

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I don't want to do that.

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So I need to be prepared, and I'm grateful for this preparation season, and so now I want to move in understanding that grace, accepting the grace of God, is going to be crucial.

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I don't care what season you're in.

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Learn how to do it now, because the more you have more responsibility for, the more you're going to need the grace of God.

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And you're going to need to make sure that you don't ever get to the point to where you're beating yourself up because you aren't strong enough to your point.

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It's not, it's not your strength, um, and how do you boast in your weakness like, start doing that now.

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Accept that and and really boast on your weakness I just want to encourage anyone I know, especially my middle adults who are listening right now, as somebody who is, who this year entered into what felt like a very selfish moment.

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Right, because I, you know, just putting all my cards on the table here I went from you know a job where I was really focused on everybody else, right, like you know, like, hey, you know, I need to be there for my team and be there for the you know, the people that I mentor and the people that I serve and the people that I you know, the people, the people, the people, the people, and feeling like God brought me into a place of not isolation, but a place where it was me and him and him saying I'm giving you a time period, and so I'm in a job where I literally work by myself.

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Like you know what I'm saying, like if I wanted to go a day without seeing didn't.

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If I wanted to go a day without seeing people, if I want to go a week without seeing people, I could wow, you know.

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I'm saying, like you know, there are, like, besides the meetings that I have to go to, there's nobody.

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I have one person that I kind of leave, but she only work 10 hours a week.

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You know I'm saying I ain't really to her.

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Uh, you know, like there's no.

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You know, my leadership right now looks like get things done and and and get on about your day, you know, and so.

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But what I have surmised, or what I've concluded, is that God has given me a little space.

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You know, uh, psalm 23, where he says you know, the Lord is my shepherd.

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I shall not want he maketh me to lie in green pastures.

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The Lord made me, made me lie down.

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He said come here, sit down.

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We're about to deal with some stuff, right?

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But he gave me a space for that.

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And I think that what I'm also very aware in this hard pivot that I feel coming up is that my space, my time, my time that God gave me for the lying down, it's coming to a close and God is like did you get everything you were supposed to get with the time that I gave you?

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And what I want to encourage y'all is is that I believe that God will do that in the life of any leader, in the life of any anybody who is needing to make that pivot and to move from that place of well, lord, I don't know what I'm hoping for to Lord, I'm going to walk in the fullness of everything that I am and everything that you've created for me to be Right, like the Lord will give you a space.

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I was talking with with my hair care person not a hairstylist and this is another part of my journey Right, but I'll get to.

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But I had to go see a hair specialist because, like, literally, hair was just coming out, y'all and um and and that was really really difficult to deal with, really, really, really difficult.

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Like because, as a woman, you know, we're told your hair is your glory.

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And I think back to when I was younger and people used to pick on me about my hair.

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You know like they would be like, oh yeah, look at your queen's hair, it don't move.

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And da, da, da, da, da.

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And how I went through this whole journey of like going natural and then being like well, boom, I bet y'all ain't got curls like this, you know and like feeling like this pride in my hair and for it to like betray me.

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I was like, girl I get, I stopped the creamy crack for you and now you want to act up.

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You know it was so difficult to like really go through that season.

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But the Lord told me this morning in the church house.

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The Lord told me, um, that hair carries the memories of the past and that some of that, some of that hair, had to come out by the root because what had been growing there, god needed to to to purge so that what God had always intended could grow in my life.

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If you live in a prophetic, you know that stuff like this happens and you got to hear the Lord when he's talking, right, and so I'm like sitting here like listening hearing God say it, and I'm like, okay, I get it and I can go.

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Now.

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You know, like there are things in your life that carry the memory of where you were and you are going to have to lay those things aside because they've become burdens, they have become things that will impede you from getting to your place of purpose, and you have.

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They gotta be pulled up.

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Y'all hear me, so that I can say that I didn't go through this for no reason.

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Okay, I'm serious, very, very serious.

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You have got to know that there are some things in your life that God is going to pull up by the root and it is going to be painful because you because you had hinged a part of your identity, a part of your self-worth, a part of your, a part of you feeling content and well, on that thing.

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And now it's being pulled out On that person, on that opportunity, on that job.

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I put my entire understanding of who I was into being a mentor.

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I am a mentor, it's what I do, it's who I am.

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I mentor the next generation.

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I pour into them.

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It's who I am, it's what I do, it's who I am.

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I mentor the next generation.

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Right, I pour into them.

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It's who I am, it's what I do, it's my purpose.

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And now I'm in a job where I'm not mentoring nobody, and all the people I used to mentor are grown and I'm sitting here and I'm like okay, lord, so I'm not mentoring.

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You know I do a little.

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You know like a side gig now, but you know it's not gig now, but you know it's not the main gig, you know.

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And so like, what does life mean now?

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And the Lord is saying let me get you to the place that I've always designed, but you have to allow things.

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You gotta allow things to, you gotta let them go.

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I had to let go of this idea of I am, I am people's person and it was the only.

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And doing that, y'all hear me letting go of that idea that I have to be people's person, like when, when people like, oh yeah, I just love Jaquita, she's my person, she's my mentor, she's my covering, she's my this, she's my, that.

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You know, when I let go of the idea that that's who I had to be, the Lord said now, be my person.

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And I was like, oh Lord, you know, and it's, it's a completely different mindset.

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But in order to get to the next phase of your life, there's going to be some stuff that's going to have to be let go.

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Yeah, yeah, but it's, but there's.

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So, relearning yourself and allowing God to show you the strength of his grace in the next season of your life, you can't, you can't beat that.

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So all right.

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So, with the process of having grace with yourself and giving yourself grace, accepting the grace of God Right, and just this whole process in general, it'll.

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It'll take time, like there should be no expectation that you're going to get this right away.

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So how, what does patience look like for you in these moments?

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How do you exercise patience, do you?

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exercise patience.

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Sorry, you know.

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One thing about me is I remember, you know, when you were younger, you used to say stupid stuff and then, like you look back and you'd be like why did I used to say that?

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I remember I used to say a lot.

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I'm just such a patient person.

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You know, I really am patient.

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You know I'm patient with people.

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Hey, you're screwing up, but it's all right.

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Huh, it's fine, we're okay, we're fine, it's all good.

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You know, and I used to really think like that.

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I was really patient.

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But it is really difficult when everyone around you, especially when you get in your middle adult years, and everybody is everybody's looking at your timeline.

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They're like all right, it's 38.

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You've been patient long enough.

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It's where everybody is saying to you they're like alright, man, we need to.

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Alright, I have designed a new prayer strategy for you because apparently the one you using ain't getting you to the promise quickly enough.

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You know, hey, you know, as people coming up to you looking at you like I'm praying for you, you know, because you gots to get there, because you're not there, you got to get there and you know, and then seeing everyone around you get it, you know I'm like let patience have her perfect work, you know.

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But I think that patience, I think patience is not waiting right, you can wait and be impatient while you wait.

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Absolutely, because waiting is involuntary.

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You can't.

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You're not going to have a choice.

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Yeah, it ain't here, right, it ain't here.

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You waiting, and if you think, let me tell you something if you think you're going to go out and get it, it still ain't there, okay, the Lord ain't even going to let you know where to look for it.

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You it still ain't there, okay, the Lord ain't even going to let you know where to look for it.

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You know so.

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So set out and set back.

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You know you think you can rush something.

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We cannot rush the hand of God.

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What you can do, you know, I think, that patience is acceptance.

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That's good.

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You know, patience is Lord.

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I accept your timing, I accept your purpose, I accept your plan and I accept your purpose.

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I accept your plan and I trust you.

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Yeah.

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And then when you get to a place where there is not a hand pushing you in your back saying that I got to get this thing now.

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You know this year is our year, you know this is going to happen.

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Right now it's about to happen.

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And when you say, lord, give me my daily bread, amen.

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You know what?

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What do I have on the docket for today, lord?

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I'm not, I'm not gonna.

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You know what I'm saying.

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I'm not going to worry about tomorrow.

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What's for today?

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That's right.

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What's for today?

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Because there is a beauty in today, there is a purpose in today, there is a plan in today, there is a joy in today, there is a peace in today, there is a fulfillment in today.

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And patience is saying I'm going to stay right here in today and not allow myself to get anxious about tomorrow.

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And that that is I think that's perfectly put Patience is acceptance, and it's really leaning on today, because something that I've hope and I tell a lot of people this, and I try to tell myself this is that the day you're living right now you'll never live again, ever.

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Today, every day is unique, because tomorrow will be totally different.

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If it happened today, it will not happen tomorrow Exactly the way it happened today.

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That's not possible.

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And so, when you focus on today and you focus on that, and you, you, you let today be today.

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There is hope that tomorrow won't will be another, another today, but it won't be the same day that you're living right now, and so it's.

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It's every day you have an opportunity to be patient and you, and so I think the other, the other part of that is and I've had to keep telling myself this and I hope this is encouraging to, to to somebody is uh, god really doesn't bring you to the place you are now to give up on you.

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He has not brought you to the place you are now to give up on you.

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Y'all better hear it.

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Y'all better hear it.

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He brought you here and you have to believe he's gonna bring you there.

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I wish I had one of those.

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You know, the little app where you can play the, play the little churchy music, can play the uh, play the little church music behind it.

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That's what you needed right there.

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You needed that right there.

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You needed some accompaniment.

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Because let me tell you something, yes, yes, ma'am, like Ooh, this is not the end of the plan and that's the beginning of patience.

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Oh God, lord, have mercy.

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That is the beginning of patience, that is the beginning of acceptance.

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It is saying, lord, this is not the end and I know you have more.

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So I'm going to settle in the moment and I'm trusting you with the more, because I know, I know it's coming and that's what I've been trying to tell people, cause, you know the the saints been looking at me, cause, you know, when I tell you, there are some people who I love dearly, who have been like this is your year.

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Oh, he's coming.

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You know what I'm saying the, the promise, it's here.

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You know they said that in january.

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Now they're looking at december, like did I go wrong or did you go wrong?

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Right, right, who went wrong?

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And I, I had to be like listen, I started getting fulfilled in the moment yes I started, I started getting fulfilled in the day and not looking at the tomorrow.

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I started seeing God moving in today and it made me even more excited about tomorrow, so that I can.

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But my joy is being filled in today and that, for me, is sufficient, because not only is my joy filled, my hope is not in the promise, my hope is in the giver of the promise, because I've been finding joy with him every day.

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Every day I've been like, lord, you're good, lord, I can't believe you did that for me, lord.

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I don't understand this.

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But, lord, I see you moving, doing something, because I can finally.

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I can finally see what God has been doing all along.

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Yeah.

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I can finally see okay, god in his goodness, in his love, in his mercy, in his grace, in his sovereignty has always known what he was doing, always, has always known what he was doing Always.

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Always known what he was doing.

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He's always known and the moments where I tried to go out and craft a plan.

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None of that worked.

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None of that worked.

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But when I settled into, I know, the plans that I have for you, plans of good and not of evil to give you an expected end.

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The purpose of that scripture was not for you to focus on the end, it was for you to focus on the for.

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I know.

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That's right.

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Right, it's the for, I know.

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And if God knows, I don't have to.

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That's it.

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If God knows.

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And if it's an expected, if it's an oh y'all sorry, this is good to me, okay.

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But if God knows and if the end is expected, if he's expecting an end, you get what I'm saying.

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If he is expecting a thing, if he's expecting a conclusion and the fulfillment of the promise, if God is expecting it, then I can rest in God's expectation.

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I can say Lord, you're expecting a good end for me, and if you're expecting it, I know it's going to happen, it's going.

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My expectations don't always, you know I'm saying they don't always make it all the way in, right, but god, if you're expecting it, I know.

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I know this thing is gonna happen, it's happening, it's a guarantee, it's a guarantee, like, like you, what, what, what well, let's, let's, let's, since we, since we in the word, let's just stay right there to text.

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So we preach you today.

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Y'all there we are sorry, you know I like it.

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Uh, the next verse I don't have it in front of me, but our job.

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When he was talking to them in that moment, number one, they were in captivity and number two, he's telling him, he's telling them that your job is to seek the peace of the city you don't want to be in.

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Yes, you are to plant, you're to make homes there, you're to, you're to live there.

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Yes, thrive, thrive in the very place that you are unsettled.

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Say that again thrive in the place that you are unsettled.

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Y'all better hear I don't know if y'all hearing with the same ears that I'm hearing with, but y'all better hear the word of the Lord on today, because let me tell you something, this is where the people of God are right now.

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I don't care what your political affiliation is, I don't care what you experience this year.

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What I have felt in the spirit is a great unsettling.

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People are unsettled because what they thought, what they hoped for, has not come, or it did not happen in the way that they thought that it was going to happen.

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But what I'm here to tell you is baby girl, baby boy, friends and loved ones, the Lord is getting ready to prosper us in an uncomfortable place, and that's what I need us to know.

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When we talked that few weeks ago ago and we talked about getting the stones out, preparing your soul, I felt it in the spirit then, just like I feel it now.

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Y'all, we are about to see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.

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Like it is, it is coming.

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It is coming and it's coming at a time that don't make sense, because ain't nobody else going to be able to take credit for it Come on.

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They were there.

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You're absolutely right.

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They were in captivity.

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They were not at home.

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They were in Babylon, I believe.

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Right, and they were, they were.

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They were in a desolate place.

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They were in a place that that that literally took them and said you're ours now.

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And in that place the Lord said you will build homes, you will build a city here that will be yours, you will prosper here and I will give you back everything you lost, not in the place that you came from, but in the unsettled place, in the place that didn't seem like it would have any peace.

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God's going to give you peace in a place that doesn't seem like it should have peace.

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God's going to give you joy in a place that doesn't seem like it would have any peace.

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God's going to give you peace in a place that doesn't seem like it should have peace.

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God's going to give you joy in a place that doesn't seem like it should have joy.

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It's not because one nobody can take credit for it, but God and two, your testimony, your witness.

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What God is going to do in your life has to be in a strange place.

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It has to be in a place where the people haven't been reached yet.

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It has to be in a place.

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It's because it's what you're called to.

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Don't look at the place that makes you feel unsettled.

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I think we need to look at it with different eyes.

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Yeah, I think we need to look at it with a different perspective, because the place that you're unsettled at is the place that you're needed in.

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It's the place that.

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It's the place where your testimony will thrive.

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You know what I'm saying.

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I've been talking to people so much about just what they've been through and what they've had to carry, and a lot of it.

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Some of it was not things that they did that you know, things that happened to them.

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Some of it was mistakes that they made.

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They were not in captivity because, you know, these people just came and swooped them up.

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They were in captivity because they had rebelled against the lord.

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Enough the way, the lord's all right, correct, that's correct I know I you get what I'm saying, and so we have to know that, like even in your mistakes, even in the areas of life that you didn't get it all right, even in that area God had a plan.

00:41:14.612 --> 00:41:15.255
That's good.

00:41:15.255 --> 00:41:20.677
Even in the places where you failed, god had a plan.

00:41:20.677 --> 00:41:23.885
God had a plan Y'all.

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We are about to walk into the plan of God that we don't deserve.

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Come on.

00:41:29.838 --> 00:41:30.498
That we don't deserve.

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And okay, another moment of being honest here, because these are my fellow middle adults and I want to when I tell y'all, I want us ain't the purpose of this podcast so that we can all live in more freedom.

00:41:41.590 --> 00:41:44.014
Come on, I want us free.

00:41:44.014 --> 00:41:45.271
You get what I'm saying.

00:41:45.271 --> 00:41:46.945
I want us free.

00:41:46.945 --> 00:41:53.938
I want us out of bondage and living in the prosperity and purpose of God.

00:41:53.938 --> 00:41:59.193
That is where we need to be as a people, as a, as believers.

00:41:59.193 --> 00:42:01.757
That is where we need to be in 2025.

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We need to be free.

00:42:03.119 --> 00:42:05.347
Come on, we need to be free.

00:42:05.347 --> 00:42:15.081
I promise you we need to be free, and what I'm telling y'all is free, and what I'm telling y'all is is that there are just my full transparency right now.

00:42:19.324 --> 00:42:19.907
Right, I was in church today.

00:42:19.907 --> 00:42:20.588
A lot happened in church today.

00:42:20.588 --> 00:42:27.028
I had to, you know, I took notes on the sermon, but the Lord was talking to me and he was like and I have, there are just areas of my life where I've been like Lord.

00:42:27.028 --> 00:42:28.652
I feel like I'm drowning.

00:42:28.652 --> 00:42:36.329
I feel like I'm drowning, I feel like the waves are rushing over me and I said Lord.

00:42:36.329 --> 00:42:43.429
I asked the Lord today specifically about one thing in particular, and I'll just be honest, finances right.

00:42:43.429 --> 00:42:44.572
I asked the Lord.

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I said, lord, how am I going to get out of this?

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Because I feel like I'm in a pit.

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I feel like I'm at the bottom of a pit Right.

00:42:54.025 --> 00:42:56.972
And so that meant I was over here on a high ground.

00:42:56.972 --> 00:43:00.385
Somehow I found myself at the bottom of the pit.

00:43:00.385 --> 00:43:12.581
Now you know, it's not, as it's not a terrible situation, but it's just my perspective on it changed, my perspective on my credit cards and on my, on my bills and on how I'm spending money.

00:43:12.581 --> 00:43:17.976
It shifted and I said wait a minute, I don't want to be here, no more.

00:43:17.976 --> 00:43:22.186
Yeah, I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't want all this anymore.

00:43:22.186 --> 00:43:29.972
But and when I really realized the weight of it, I was like, oh no, I got to get up out of here, come on, I can't stay.

00:43:29.972 --> 00:43:31.744
Like, and you got to get up out of here, come on, I can't stay.

00:43:31.744 --> 00:43:42.230
And you got to get to a point in your life, whatever it is for you, you have to get to a point in your life where it's oh no, I can't stay right here, this ain't for me.

00:43:42.230 --> 00:43:44.833
God has more for me than this right here.

00:43:44.833 --> 00:43:52.318
And you have got to start, and so I'm like Lord, I'm looking and I'm sitting at the bottom of this pit.

00:43:52.865 --> 00:44:07.199
But one thing I know about a pit, because I preached it when Joseph got thrown into that pit is that there is a Bible verse that says that he delivered me from the miry clay and out of the pit Right.

00:44:07.199 --> 00:44:09.487
And it says in the Bible.

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It says out of the horrible pit that he pulled me out of the horrible pit, and the word horrible in the Hebrew means noisy, right.

00:44:19.246 --> 00:44:24.257
So it's, what did I listen to that got me in this pit?

00:44:24.257 --> 00:44:29.835
What voices, what trauma, what inclinations?

00:44:29.835 --> 00:44:38.487
Right trauma, what inclinations right.

00:44:38.487 --> 00:44:38.827
What addictions.

00:44:38.827 --> 00:44:39.610
What thing was speaking in my ear?

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Right, that got me into this pit.

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You got to know the voice that got you in there and you got to know the voice that's going to get you out.

00:44:44.108 --> 00:44:52.634
You got to know what was I listening to, what was I being led by and guided by that allowed me to get stuck here?

00:44:52.634 --> 00:45:03.507
And when am I going to make the decision to take a step back and say, lord, I'm listening and hear the instructions of God, so that you can get?

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out of it and what I want us to do any area of your life where you feel overwhelmed or you feel, are you feel stuck, Are you feel like you have been living in bondage, I want you to take a moment.

00:45:20.275 --> 00:45:22.547
This is how we get those stones out, Y'all.

00:45:22.547 --> 00:45:29.246
I want you to take a moment and I want you to identify what was I listening to?

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Because the Bible says faith comes by hearing.

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Then you have to also assume that doubt also comes by hearing.

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Come on that the things in your life that have led to negative fruit, to bad fruit, to you being stuck, to you being in bondage, to you being led by fear or by disbelief or by anxiousness or by anger, that those things came by, something that you heard, that you ingested.

00:45:55.947 --> 00:46:09.119
Right, you have got to know that something led you into that place and you need to take a moment, take a step back and say Lord, what was the voice that got me here?

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Was the voice that got me here?

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What thing was I trying to to fulfill or cover up or are trying to mask that led me down into a pit?

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Yeah.

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Right.

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And then you have to take that thing and you have to say, lord, I'm giving this thing to you, this is what led me here.

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Lord, please, right Again.

00:46:35.704 --> 00:46:36.626
He's a good, oh, y'all.

00:46:36.626 --> 00:46:44.369
He's a good shepherd, right, he's a good shepherd, making me to lie down in green pastures, leading me to side distilled waters?

00:46:44.369 --> 00:46:52.052
Right, you have to know that the voice of God, the instructions of God, can lead you out of any pit.

00:46:52.052 --> 00:46:55.074
Right, I told y'all about one pit.

00:46:55.074 --> 00:46:57.675
I had a few others I had to ask God to lead me out of.

00:46:57.675 --> 00:47:01.998
Yeah, but this is I'm telling y'all, december is a good month.

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Yeah.

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December is a good month.

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Don't sleep on December.

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It's so easy.

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It's so easy to look at December and see everything that God didn't do, but y'all, we got three weeks.

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First of all.

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First of all that, right there, we got three weeks, so it's not over.

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Secondly, secondly, december is the end of your year.

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It's not the end of you and it's not the end of your life, it's just the end of a year.

00:47:34.527 --> 00:47:44.311
I just want get it started, get the ball rolling, get the ball rolling and you know, ruth Abigail, you kept saying it's going to take time.

00:47:44.311 --> 00:47:49.893
It's going to take time, it's going to take time and I understand, but y'all, let me tell you something.

00:47:49.893 --> 00:48:07.619
When the Lord, the Lord took me aside for two months and was like we about to get all this, and addressed everything in my life, two months and I'm not saying that it's finished, I'm saying God just needs your eyes on it.

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Yes.

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He just needs you, in agreement with him that.

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Oh, that wasn't right, and I'm working on it.

00:48:14.719 --> 00:48:18.271
Oh, that wasn't right, I'm surrendering in that area.

00:48:18.271 --> 00:48:21.398
Oh, I got a little off right there.

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I didn't realize I was being led by my trauma, or being led by my anxiety, or being led by my lack of hope or my lack of faith.

00:48:30.793 --> 00:48:36.027
I didn't realize that the Lord just needs your awareness and then he can get the rolling.

00:48:36.027 --> 00:48:44.369
He can get the ball rolling and that's going to take time, but it is not going to take time to get in alignment with God.

00:48:44.369 --> 00:48:45.311
It is just a yes.

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It just, it's just a yes, no, that's absolutely true.

00:48:47.655 --> 00:48:54.291
Yeah, no, you your your yes won't take any time, it's the after the yes yeah.

00:48:54.974 --> 00:48:56.657
You know it's a process, but, but.

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But you know, to your point but and also to your point like I mean, I think, knowing have an expectation that it's not going to be on your time.

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It never is right.

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So time, you know, it's very different.

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We can't understand how God sees time.

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We can't, we don't understand it.

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But what we do understand is that he sees it differently, like time is very different to God than it is for us, and so you can bet that, yes, it's going to take time, but and also it won't be your time.

00:49:31.498 --> 00:49:35.791
So you know, you might want it to take a year and it take a month.

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You might want it to take a month and it take a year, but it's not, it's not up to you, right, and I think that's.

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There's an expectation sometimes that when I decide to do something now, the process is up to me too, and that's not true, right?

00:49:48.009 --> 00:49:50.454
And so the process isn't up to you.

00:49:50.454 --> 00:49:58.856
You say yes to God and you say yes to his process, but and his process is on his time, not yours.

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But you do have to believe that if he puts you in the process, that he's going to take you to the other side of that process.

00:50:10.885 --> 00:50:12.577
There is an expected end.

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There is an expected.

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Whatever God begins in your life, he will perform it 100% he will.

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And you have to keep you know that, that again, that patience, accepting it, living.

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Know that that again, that patience, accepting it, living in today and and living in that truth on a daily basis is going to help to not dwell on.

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But I did, I don't have it, I didn't get it, I'm not there, I don't I, I, I'm telling my same, the same story.

00:50:44.148 --> 00:50:48.264
Um, I, my, my present and my past don't seem to be any different.

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You know all of those things.

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When you, when you live in the moment that God has afforded you today and don't dwell on yesterday or tomorrow, then you'll be able to experience what God has done today and rejoice in what God has done today.

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And then, if the and I, you know, I was about to say if the Lord wills.

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I feel very old saying that, but my dad says well, whatever my dad says all the time, and I and as I get older, I realized why that is the reality, is I mean it's why that is the reality, is I mean it's true if the Lord wills, there's just absolutely no guarantee that tomorrow is here, and so don't spend today worrying about tomorrow when you don't even know tomorrow's gonna come for you.

00:51:35.032 --> 00:51:42.262
I mean, that's just real you know what I'm saying whatever, it's the truth.

00:51:42.403 --> 00:51:55.956
Okay, I encourage y'all to not start thinking about the end yet no, no, no, but you don't even know if you're gonna be here tomorrow, but you don't.

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And it's like man, you don't want to spend your your days worried about something that they ain't even guaranteed.

00:52:01.429 --> 00:52:11.253
But, like love today, enjoy today and and know that, god, the expected end is good, the expected end is good.

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Here's, here's the other thing, and the kind of that last word we were talking about is hope.

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I am not naturally a hopeful person, queda is hope.

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Um, and so I struggle with hope.

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I struggle with that word I I was I was kind of sharing a little bit with some folks this weekend I'm naturally more cynical than hopeful.

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It's like, okay, yeah, but this is probably what's going to happen.

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I mean, let's just be real, this is probably what's going to happen, my Lord, that's my natural mentality, and so what I have had to continue to allow myself to do is be hopeful.

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And, if I'm honest, hope scares me because I don't like disappointment and I don't like surprises.

00:52:59.836 --> 00:53:09.085
So for me, my cynicism is safe because it keeps me unsurprised, or it keeps me unsurprised in a way that I don't want to be surprised, right?

00:53:09.085 --> 00:53:13.728
So it's like, if I'm cynical and then something good happens, oh great, that's awesome.

00:53:13.728 --> 00:53:14.190
I was wrong.

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I'm cool to be wrong on that.

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But if I hope that something bad happens, then yeah, I'm not good with that.

00:53:21.242 --> 00:53:22.344
That's just going to wash me.

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I will tell you, hope is is a life of disappointment, because it never it is.

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And I'm just.

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I don't like that.

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Hopeful life is a disappointing one.

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I'm not, I'm not for that, I'm not for the disappointment, and so I don't know I, I if I'm just being real, and some of you might feel this too I need help with hope, like I need um, I need help with that, like I need to learn how to be more hopeful, but but I, I need to learn how to be more hopeful.

00:53:50.090 --> 00:53:51.170
I don't have an answer today.

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What, what is?

00:53:51.590 --> 00:53:52.251
How would you help me?

00:53:52.251 --> 00:53:53.914
Help me, queen, help me be more hopeful.

00:53:54.735 --> 00:53:58.398
Ruth Abigail, this has been a 20 year endeavor.

00:53:58.398 --> 00:54:14.067
Okay, well, just okay, fine, on this podcast, you know, I think that hope is vulnerable.

00:54:14.067 --> 00:54:14.748
Yeah, you know, hope.

00:54:14.748 --> 00:54:15.108
Hope is, uh, it is.

00:54:15.108 --> 00:54:21.327
It is saying you know it's, it's it's being okay with what you want and what you're you know, because that's what hope is.

00:54:21.327 --> 00:54:24.817
Nobody's hoping for something that they don't want, sure, you know.

00:54:24.817 --> 00:54:28.407
But hope is saying I really really want this.

00:54:29.568 --> 00:54:45.815
And going back to our, uh, our episode from a couple of weeks ago with our sisters, you know, sometimes that big kid in us, that oldest child in us, we don't like the hope because we don't like to put our wants out there, because they don't always get fulfilled.

00:54:45.815 --> 00:54:56.112
Correct, for you know, for the sake of whatever, you know, hey, you want something, but your younger sister needs something, you know.

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And so I think you have to.

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Hope is just another area that we have to learn to be vulnerable in.

00:54:59.965 --> 00:55:06.639
You know, I am a very hopeful person and I have learned how to manage disappointment well.

00:55:06.639 --> 00:55:10.956
You know, my bounce back is strong, usually, except for this year 2024.

00:55:10.956 --> 00:55:12.429
Sure, we talk about that in a moment.

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You know, I was like all right, that bounce back is not bouncing back like I'm used to bouncing.

00:55:18.797 --> 00:55:20.320
All right, it ain't too bouncy.

00:55:20.320 --> 00:55:24.307
You know that ball is rolling, it ain't bouncing, you know somebody catch it.

00:55:24.307 --> 00:55:27.016
It's about to go down the hill and crash, okay.

00:55:27.016 --> 00:55:47.559
But the vulnerability of hope will oftentimes make you have to say it out loud and then people become aware of your hope.

00:55:47.559 --> 00:55:51.630
You know, I'm saying it's not that you're not hopeful, you're just not saying it.

00:55:51.630 --> 00:55:53.755
You know that's a good point.

00:55:53.775 --> 00:55:54.217
That's a great.

00:55:54.237 --> 00:55:56.911
Yeah, that's a great yeah, it's, it's, it's you're.

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You're not allowing it to exist outside of yourself that's very true because then you have to be accountable to all the people and all of the, all of the things that became aware of your hope.

00:56:09.920 --> 00:56:21.858
But when you are not vocalizing it right, then nobody has to know and you can be on the right side when, whatever happens, you know or you can manage yourself.

00:56:22.385 --> 00:56:41.088
You know, I'm realizing right now, you know I do, and actually I think this is a good thing to do, but I think, in lieu of that, what I do, instead of being hopeful and saying what I want, I say what I believe is going to happen and I say, you know, or this is what I'm going to do, right.

00:56:41.088 --> 00:56:44.074
So it's like I'm a very I'm and I'm very.

00:56:44.074 --> 00:56:45.898
It's just me having a moment, y'all.

00:56:45.898 --> 00:56:48.052
So you know if you need to fast forward due date, but I'm just having a little moment.

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This is for us.

00:56:49.947 --> 00:56:57.646
I'm realizing, like I, I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't say what I want or what I hope for.

00:56:57.646 --> 00:57:17.449
Um, I often, like I will more so, say this is what I'm going to do, this is what, this is how it's going to happen, like I will formulate the plan and then follow through with the plan and what I'm, what I'm willing to do, in order to get to where I believe is possible to go now.

00:57:17.489 --> 00:57:23.784
Did you just model that as a good thing, ruth Abigail did you say because you started this statement it is a good thing.

00:57:23.905 --> 00:57:25.188
I don't think it's a bad thing.

00:57:25.188 --> 00:57:26.934
It sounds like control to me.

00:57:26.934 --> 00:57:30.574
It sounds like control.

00:57:30.574 --> 00:57:32.860
It sounds like y'all got to excuse us.

00:57:32.860 --> 00:57:37.789
This is a Ruth Abigail and Jaquita moment.

00:57:37.789 --> 00:57:44.610
I want y'all to all celebrate my 20-year breakthrough here as we get Ruth Abigail to where she needs to be.

00:57:44.610 --> 00:57:50.693
This is, this is a 20 year endeavor and I gotta, I gotta, I gotta take the moment as it as it shows up.

00:57:50.693 --> 00:57:53.639
But it is, it is still.

00:57:53.639 --> 00:58:05.788
It is still you not being vulnerable and not giving it, giving giving over to the idea of this could work out a way that I didn't expect.

00:58:05.788 --> 00:58:14.655
It's you saying I want it to work out the way that I expect it to, because then I'll be able to better manage it one way or the other.

00:58:14.655 --> 00:58:21.521
And it is also you saying I'm dependent upon my efforts to produce the result.

00:58:21.521 --> 00:58:29.938
I mean very true Hope says I don't know who going to do what, but it's going to happen.

00:58:31.806 --> 00:58:36.193
I can be honest and say I feel like I'm forced into hope.

00:58:36.193 --> 00:58:43.652
Sometimes, when I feel forced into hope, I have it.

00:58:43.652 --> 00:58:53.710
Even right now'm I'm in the middle of something where I'm feeling forced into hope, like, okay, you're gonna have to do something because I don't have an answer.

00:58:53.710 --> 00:58:58.351
Or I feel like I've gone, I've gone as far as I can go, so so, god, I so.

00:58:58.351 --> 00:59:10.494
So now it's like I know, you got it, I believe in you, but if I'm, if I'm honest, if I'm honest, I, I, I feel like I have to say that because I don't have anything else, there's nothing else I can say.

00:59:10.494 --> 00:59:11.764
There's nothing else I can say that's all I got.

00:59:11.764 --> 00:59:26.356
That's all I got at this point, because I've exhausted my efforts and you're right, I am much more of a let me do all I can do, and then if I need hope, then it's available.

00:59:26.697 --> 00:59:31.425
But I'd rather not need it you know this is a problem.

00:59:31.507 --> 00:59:36.400
I realize, I recognize that and this is something I need to grow in and I need to unlearn and I will pursue that.

00:59:36.400 --> 00:59:37.927
I will pursue the unlearning of that.

00:59:37.927 --> 00:59:43.648
But as of today, that's where I am and some of you might not mad at it, not mad at it.

00:59:43.769 --> 00:59:49.317
Like I said, the goal of December is awareness that's right.

00:59:49.317 --> 01:00:04.539
Awareness and alignment Like oh because if, ruth Abigail, let me ask you this Would you be OK with a life where you only receive what you were able to create for yourself?

01:00:06.425 --> 01:00:10.632
Absolutely not the best things in my life.

01:00:10.632 --> 01:00:13.077
I did nothing to do to get nothing.

01:00:13.177 --> 01:00:14.387
I didn't do anything to get that.

01:00:14.387 --> 01:00:15.931
Intentionally, I didn't do anything.

01:00:15.931 --> 01:00:17.715
Yeah, no, the absolutely right.

01:00:17.715 --> 01:00:18.425
Yes, so the right.

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But also, you know there were like again, I'm just going back to moments where, to your point, your hope is vulnerable and I'm going to go back to this moment.

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And so I'm going back to this moment We've talked about it before, but the moment in college where I just was, I didn't have any friends, I felt like I needed a community, right, and there were moments.

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There was a moment I'm remembering very vividly in my room where and and um I.

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This is my favorite moment.

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You know it might be, but but I, I really I was like man, I want to, I need to go to dinner.

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I don't have anybody to go to dinner with, oh, I can't stand you.

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So I, I didn't have anybody to go to dinner with, oh, I can't stand you.

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So I, I didn't have anybody to go to dinner with.

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And so what I would do is this is crazy and I really do this, but this was me controlling and this is this is this is this is my example of the control piece, and then I'll get to the whole piece.

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So I figure I'll sit on my couch.

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This is really sad, sad.

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The way it's coming out is really bad.

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I'll sit on my couch with my door open, hoping that during dinner time, somebody would see me sitting there and be like hey, you want to come to dinner and invite me to dinner, because they see me on my couch, because my door is open, while they're passing down the hallway.

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Oh man, it's been a long time since I thought about this story.

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This was my strategy, guys, and I remember there being.

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It was a very intentional strategy, like this is how I'm going to do it right.

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And it didn't work.

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I mean, I had people that I went to dinner with, but we didn't really click like that.

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Then I do remember a very real moment.

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I was in my bed in my bunk, freshman year it had to be around October-ish, october September, I mean October November and I prayed and I said, lord, I need friends, like I need some friends, and I, I just and I really got to a point because everything I had tried wasn't working right.

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I tried hanging out with these people.

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I tried doing this, I tried doing that.

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It's just like it's not clicking.

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Long after that that, Go ahead and say it, I'll do it.

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Okay, so the way that me and so Queen and I had met briefly, we exchanged numbers but we never really connected again after that.

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And then I was at an ice cream shop with a few people living on my hall and we were playing this game.

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They said we want to play a game.

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I said, okay, cool.

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So it's a game where you take your cell phone and they go through your.

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You can't look at it.

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They go through your contacts and they call somebody.

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They put the phone up to your ear and you don't.

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You have to guess who's on the phone if they answer the phone without looking at them.

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Have to guess who's on the phone if they answer the phone without looking at them.

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So we did this I get the phone and pick it up.

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Now I I grew up in a school that was predominantly white.

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Most of the contacts in my phone at that time were white people.

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Just be real and so I was very clear on who.

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I knew the voices of the black folk in my life, you know, know my family, my friends in, in, uh, back in Houston and all this.

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I knew who they were and so, and I knew this person on the phone was black.

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I was like I don't, I don't know who is, and so I'm.

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And she was so excited.

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The way she answered the phone was like, and she was so excited.

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I was like, hey, you know, we go into this thing and it took me a minute.

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And then she we're talking like, and then it clicks.

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I said jaquita and she was.

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She thought I knew it was her the whole time, but anyway, uh, that's when we reconnected and then you know, we actually like, shortly after that, I joined the gospel choir and there we go, you know, and here we are doing a podcast 20 years later.

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Um, that's crazy.

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It's crazy, but it's.

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It wasn't the power of hope?

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Yes, the power of hope.

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And you're absolutely right.

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I, I want to learn.

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I want to learn how to get to hope before I get to the end of my rope.

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You know, I'm saying like I want to learn how to hope before I get to my end, but you know what?

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I think this is the power of community.

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Yeah, right, like you are not going to be naturally good at everything, and it is not even just having conversations with someone who's going to tell you, hey, ruth, you need to be hoping, right, but it is being in community with someone who is like lives, their life really, really hopeful, yeah, and it's like, yeah, you know god's gonna do it and I can't wait to see how he's gonna do it and it's gonna be amazing and completely devoid of reality, right, sometimes.

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All right, talk about myself, but it's all right, you know completely like god's gonna do it, and it don't even have to be practical at all, right, and but like the power of community, and and I, ooh, this is where I want to bring, bring the people to.

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This is a year where God is going to accomplish things in unity, right, and it just, it just literally dawned on me.

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I was listening to like the singing collective out of like I think, out of Atlanta all the singing collectives are out of like Nashville and Atlanta.

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But I was listening to them and they were like they have like a logo that says come C O M M and the unity is real big.

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And I was like, how did I never see that the end of community is unity?

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Like, how did I never notice that Like?

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And it just stuck out to me.

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And what I want to tell y'all is is that the things that God is going to do in our lives in this next season is going to happen because of community.

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It is going to happen because of who you're connected to, because of the faith that you're connected to, because of the church, the church family that you're connected to.

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Check your circle, because it is going.

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Your circle is about to produce something for you in this season.

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Right, and there are, there are things that we are strengthened by, simply because of who God has placed into our lives.

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You get what I'm saying.

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I would not care not one bit about not one practical thing, if it was not for God forcing me and Ruth Abigail into a shared bedroom.

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I remember we were so mad junior year because we were like, why are we still sharing a whole room together?

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Like we should have separate rooms by this point, you know, but but it was so intentional because there were things that we still needed to learn from each other.

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And you know there are people in community with you that have the hope that you're looking to model after that you, that that you're growing in the areas that you're growing in.

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God has provided somebody that can be be a constant reminder of how he operates in that area, which is why we, the body, have to be fitly joined together, because God does things in community with the people that we find unity with.

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That's good, that's good, that's good.

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That's good, Jaquita.

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Look at you.

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Look at you, come on Words.

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That's beautiful, okay.

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Well, they had the logo.

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They did.

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I mean, that helped you, so I'm encouraged.

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I think this, I'm encouraged good are you guys encouraged.

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We hope you're, encouraged like they can talk back hey, all right, right, right but for real though, like y'all you know what?

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Because I think this is this our last episode this year.

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It is, this is our last episode, this year it is.

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This is our last episode this year, guys.

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Season closer.

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Y'all man, like y'all you know, I think I came into this series because knowing that we were going to be doing like personality tests and assessments and all this, and I've been doing that for like the last like 15 years, like I love personality assessment, doing that for like the last like 15 years, like I love personality assessment.

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But when I tell y'all I was not prepared for the amount of revelation and just complete, like God, just it's almost like God opened a window for us on this podcast and just started pouring.

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And I know that it's because of you guys, like I know that it's because you guys are listening in on these conversations, and God has come and sat with us on this podcast and he's begin to um, there's a scripture, dang, we've been, we've been pulling the scripture, yeah and uh, I need to find the scripture, but it's.

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It's something that's like God sits in the conversations amongst friends, like he's present.

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I really need to find that one.

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And and because I really do think it's kind of like our, our, our, our foundation, yeah, yeah, you know, but I really feel like God has been sitting with us and helping us to be able to articulate what he's doing in this season and I don't think that I was anticipating.

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I was anticipating that the Lord was going to leave what we say, because that's what the Lord does, but I wasn't prepared for God to really just sit with us in these moments and just pour out, and I want you guys to know as much as you guys talk about how we have helped you all or that, like we said, something that sparked something in y'all us doing this podcast has been such a growth point, I know, for both me and Ruth Abigail, and has allowed me.

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It has aided my own healing journey, but also my own sense of knowing that God is operating in the lives of his people and doing something big for this next season and we are walking with y'all into that thing.

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Like this is not us pointing the way, this is a saying hey, y'all come on, we all moving, we all going, yeah, and so I'm just happy to be on this journey with you, ruth, and I'm just so happy to be on this journey with all of our listeners and this community.

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I really think that we're beginning to build something here and if you guys are listening right now, you are getting in on the ground floor of something that's going to be absolutely phenomenal, and I can't wait to see what God does with it.

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Man, look, you are ground floor, because it's only up from here and we are.

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This is.

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This really has been.

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It's been an incredible journey and, yeah, we're all moving into freedom.

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We're all doing it.

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What you say, like we're all doing it, and so I do truly like, for those of you that have been rocking and some of y'all been rocking with the podcast since January of 2023.

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So that you know, we're coming up on two years of this podcast, which is wild, but you've been rocking with it since then, man and like wild but, uh, you've been rocking with it since then, man and like thank you so much.

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Like you guys, I mean you, you're the reason that we keep going, because there really is a, there's a power going back in community, um, and there's power in a free people, um, in a free community and free people, free people and and I just think that we need freer people, because there are more people that need to be free, but they're not going to be freed if you're not free, and so get free, let's get free so we can help other people get free, and that's part of what this podcast is.

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That's what this podcast is about and it's like how do we need to unlearn to do that?

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What do we need to unlearn to do that?

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What are you willing to let go of?

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Shift your mind about?

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To do that.

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And um, and so these series that we do, these conversations, that we have all these different things we're able to put out there.

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We're able to do it because you guys decide to click, download and listen, and so, um, thank you, and this has been an amazing year.

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We can't wait till next year.

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We will see you next year.

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Um, we hope y'all have an amazing Christmas.

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And, um, and and this, we, we know that we're going to end this.

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We're going to end this year, uh, in a way that is glorified to God, but we're going to end this year, but we're going to begin the next season of our life.

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Man, let's go.

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And so let's go y'all All right.

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So one time for the 2024, last time, let's keep unlearning together so that we can experience more freedom in 2025.

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We'll see y'all then.

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Bye y'all Peace.

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Thank you once again for listening to the Unlearned Podcast.

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We're looking forward to the next time when we are able to unlearn together to move forward towards freedom.

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See you then.