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Nov. 5, 2024

Talks With Middle Adults: Unlocking Personal Growth Through DISC Assessments, Adapting to New Roles, and Embracing Authentic Leadership

Talks With Middle Adults: Unlocking Personal Growth Through DISC Assessments, Adapting to New Roles, and Embracing Authentic Leadership

Imagine stepping into a new job in your late 30s and navigating the intricate maze of workplace dynamics. On this episode of the Alert Podcast, I'm Ruth Abigail, joined by my lively co-host Jaquita, as we unravel the secrets of personal growth through the power of personality assessments. We promise to shed light on how understanding your DISC assessment results can transform not just your professional life, but also your personal journey. Jaquita shares her firsthand experiences, uncovering how these insights have been pivotal in adapting to new roles and environments. This episode isn't just about learning; it's about evolving.

We embark on a thought-provoking exploration of leadership styles and the adaptability required to thrive in diverse settings. Through personal anecdotes, including Jaquita's own transformation from "event Jaquita" to "office Jaquita," we highlight how our surroundings shape our behaviors. This adaptability is not just a skill but a pathway to unlearning past habits and embracing new challenges with open arms. By acknowledging these shifts, we aim to inspire you to harness your natural strengths and achieve a sense of freedom across different life chapters.

Our journey takes a deeper dive into the essence of authentic leadership, emphasizing the importance of rejecting victim mentality and embracing one's true self. We explore the emotional impact of criticism and the power of fostering an environment that values individual strengths. By sharing stories of generational dynamics and personal growth, we encourage listeners to engage with us, share their experiences, and find their unique voices. Join us on this path to empowerment, where unlearning and self-discovery lead to collective growth and freedom.

Chapters

00:03 - Personality Assessment

12:26 - Adapting Leadership Styles and Environments

27:12 - Navigating Personality Dynamics in Leadership

37:04 - Embracing Authentic Leadership Styles

47:52 - Empowering Leaders

57:56 - Breaking Free From Victim Mentality

Transcript
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let's go.

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What's up everybody?

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It's uh, wait a minute, I'll jack that up.

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Hold on.

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What's my intro.

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What's up everybody, and welcome once again to the alert podcast.

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Yeah, that's right, I'm your host, ruth abigail aka ra what's up, friends?

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it's your girl, jaquita yo, and this is indeed the podcast that is helping you to gain the courage to change your mind so that you, yes, you, yes, you experience just hallelujah.

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Yes, lord, freedom.

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All right, all right, all right, all right, all right, all right.

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So we're in a series, we're talking about unlearning personality, we're using different assessments to talk about this particular topic.

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So far, well, dang Ruth, no check in, I'm jumping in.

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You know what I'm saying.

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I feel like we, okay, all right, the water.

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If the water is stirring, you know what I'm saying.

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If the water is stirring, we're going to get there.

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You know what I'm saying.

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In the water, we were going to get there.

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You know what I'm saying.

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We were going to get to the check in, but I was just trying to, like you know, recap, set them up.

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Go ahead and set them up, recap.

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So we unlearned about personalities, and so this week we'll talk about a particular assessment that a lot of you may have taken maybe have not, but before we get there, how are you, jaquita?

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I'm doing fantastic.

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Thank you for asking.

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It's been, you know, a good week, but definitely, you know, these personality conversations have been coming in handy because starting a new job, oh yeah, and being at this middle adult age, let me tell y'all something starting a new job at 37, almost 38, is way different than when I was in my 20s, that's fair, you know.

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First of all, all that excitement and rah, rah, rah, it's like, hey, what do I need to do?

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Let me tell you something.

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Let me tell you something.

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Hello, friends, people that I work with, I don't need no family.

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Let me get in.

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Let me get in and get a job done and get home okay, you know, not a family, we ain't gotta do all that listen, listen, listen, listen.

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But you know what my new workplace is so much quieter than my last one.

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Anyway, like everybody, and I went from working in a space where there was a lot of young adults and three middle adults and now it's a few middle adults and grown, grown folk.

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Like they, grown, grown, like some of them like hey, about to retire in a few years.

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You know, I started meeting with all of the directors because I'm a director in this space.

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I was meeting with all the other directors and it was like was like yeah, close to retirement, thank you, man.

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And I'm like I have arrived, conversations have changed, and so knowing my personality and where I sit on all these assessments has been really helpful, because I can tell you exactly who I am.

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Well, listen, it ain't going to do that.

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Well, it ain't gonna take two years to learn me here.

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Here it is, here I go, I know that's right, like for real yeah um all right.

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How have you been, ruth?

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I've been good.

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You know I'm saying um, I've been good, I I have my tea on this, this particular come on here recording so we got a little tea.

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On one of the recordings we uh, I didn't have my tea and you got to listen to it to know why.

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But um, now I do and I feel better.

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Immediately I think I've taken four sips.

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I thought that's not good.

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You know, I'm saying like that's not good.

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I should be able to just be who I need to be with with a drink of water and some.

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You know well, you know good rest, but not so, not so.

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Let me tell you something I told.

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I told the people I'm about to be a coffee drinker, like I'm.

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I say, yeah, I'm about to, I'm about to start a coffee habit, like I'm about to start a habit.

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Because, listen, listen, it's getting harder and harder to know live without the things.

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And somebody was like ask me.

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They was like so wait, you don't, you have no caffeine habits.

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No, I don't have to have soda.

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No, tea no, no, it's not no, because I'd be tired the first two hours of every day.

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That's a good thing that's a good thing man um water ain't enough probably just need more electrolytes that's probably what it is honestly.

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So, quita, what?

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What assessment are we talking about today?

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listen, we're talking about the assessment that put the workplaces on fire.

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Okay, immediately, it had us all looking at each other like, oh so that's why you the way you is, that's why you get on my nerves.

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All right, Everybody, we're talking about the disc assessment.

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All right, Y'all.

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Some of you may remember taking it, all right, Listen, I know for me.

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I was working at Girl Scouts when I took it and we were all side-eyeing each other like that makes sense, that's funny set the workplace on fire?

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it does, I think that.

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So we, if you haven't watched it yet, check out our our talk about strength finders, which is also used a lot in the workplace.

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But it's a very different test.

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That strength finders is really about.

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You kind of um you being about like gifts and skill sets yeah, gifts and skill sets.

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This test is about behaviors and temperament and and it it's very the, the, the context of this is communal, right, and it's not like.

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It's not that these others aren't, but this is where, like when it comes to your personality and particularly your, your personality when it comes to um, a lot of times in the work environment, it is a communal assessment.

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So you understanding you is also you understanding how you behave around other different types, and it's what makes it, as Jaquita said, on fire.

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It's what makes it set on fire because you start to realize like, oh man, like, anyway, we'll get into it.

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It's crazy.

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So, if you haven't heard of it, disc it stands for four different words Dominant, influencing, steady and conscientious.

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Okay, dominant, influencing, steady and conscientious, disc.

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So when you take it, you will be rated with those four different words and you'll kind of be rated like from a scale of high style to low style, right, and it kind of it rates you in between.

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So we're going to tell you what we are and once again, let's not uh, spoiler alert we are the exact opposite of course, in everything and everything it is actually kind of wild.

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So I am a high d, meaning when I I am actually yeah, I'm a very high d, I'm not just, I'm a very on the scale.

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It goes from high, very high to high style.

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I'm a very high d.

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So I am like in the red.

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That means that I have my.

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That D stands for dominant.

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Okay, and we'll go over what that means.

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I'll tell you, when I first took it, I did not appreciate it.

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I was like who, dominant, who like that?

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I feel that I feel I feel attacked, like I, you know, and I didn't appreciate it.

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So I'm a high D and I'm also a high C, all right.

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So I'm a high D and I'm also a high C.

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My Lord, all right.

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So what are you?

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Listen, I'm a high, I OK, I am.

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We are enthusiastic, we are energy driven because we are trying to influence atmospheres and influence kind of like the mood of a room and like the mood of the people.

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Like we want to inspire, we want to motivate, we want to pump people up, and so that's very much where I sit most of the time.

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And what do you know?

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What your second one is?

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My second one is S, which is kind of the one that is really focused on, like, building structures, making plans right, we're steady, all right.

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Slow and steady, all right.

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We like to kind of, you know, build and think through and ideate and like, but we're not quick to move, but we're quick, we're, we're really good at building, kind of the underpinning of a thing.

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That's really good, that's really good.

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So as a d?

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Um I am.

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So what, what it?

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What it how it describes the d is work towards achieving goals and results.

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Absolutely, uh, they function best in active and challenging environments.

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100, that describes me very well.

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When I read it I was like all right, fine, I have to take that fine, I'll be this and then conscientious is.

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It says work towards doing things right and focus on detail, and they function best in structured and early environments.

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And so I definitely have both of those I I.

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At first I identified more with the conscientious than the dominant, because, in my mind, dominant.

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I'll be totally honest with y'all and let me preface this by saying my mom is one of my biggest role models.

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I love her so much but growing up I just was like I don't, my mom is a, my mom, I'm a high d.

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My mom is the highest d.

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She's way higher than I am on that scale, and I don't know that she has another letter.

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Pretty sure that's the only letter she's got.

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So I, growing up, it was like my mom was very, she was very dominant.

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It was very much like you know all the things about a D.

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She was at the top of and I was like yo, like I don't want to be like that.

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Like you know, you know, especially as a kid, you always get in trouble or you know you're getting criticized for something or you need to do this better, we need to make this so, but you know, be here on time, or whatever you know, and it was just like uh-uh.

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No, I don't want to do that, but you are who you come from, amen it is just what it is.

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It shows up, it's just what it is, and so I've realized.

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But I also realized that, like, a lot of why she was that way is because she, she, cares so much about us being well, and it's like you know that it, this, this is what it's going to take for you to be well, for the house to be well, for the house to be well, for everybody around us to be well, even if you don't like it.

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I'm okay with that.

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I'm doing this for your best good, and I began to realize that so like.

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But so when I read this, I associate that particular trait with my mother and I rejected it immediately.

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I am not my mom, this is me.

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it can't be and then I read it and I was like, oh man, I definitely am.

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Uh, my dad is also a high d, they're both, they're both.

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They're both very so.

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I, it comes on us.

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Just like I can't.

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It's just like I can't help it, would you say what do you know?

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Can you see where yours comes from?

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like um I would say I think my mom is a d.

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I think my mom has more, though, more of that dominance characteristic, but I think that she also has, like some of the s, like I think that she is steady, structured and you know s is, I think, tend to be a little bit more mild, tempered um, and I think can, like, exude, kindness and care for sure, in that way um, and so I definitely think I see some of that.

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I don't know about my dad.

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My dad is so reserved sometimes it's hard, not definitely not dominant um, I can see my dad having, maybe, like he probably has some eye, like he, he, I think, but I think he does it very intellectually, which is me too, you know, but I have way more energy than my dad.

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Like I'm a, I'm a pump up a crowd.

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My dad is like I said what I said go be inspired.

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I said it three minutes ago.

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I have nothing else, you know.

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So, like I definitely think that that there there are.

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But I, what I have learned, and which may be the first thing that I've unlearned, is kind of like than previous, because I had to take charge, and when I get into, especially like when I walk up to an event and things are not right immediately I engaging like hosts and, like you know, like leads of events and things, and I was telling them that I went to this one event and we thought it was going to be 200 people and there were 400.

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And it was like goat yoga.

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So we got the goats people grabbing goats, carrying goats all over the place it's 400 people.

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They're there an hour and a half early, like standing in line waiting to do goat yoga, and I was just like I went into full like dominant mode, like I was in the mic.

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I was like, excuse me, if you holding a goat, I need you back in the fence.

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Like I was not playing.

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And then I had to go back and like bring out my eyeself and like so, after I like gave all these rules and stuff, I came, came back and I was like who's ready to have some fun?

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Huh, who's ready for a good time?

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Right, yeah, thank y'all.

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But it's like an event mode.

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I switch and like we say that in the office that I was in previously, like there is like you have like your regular person, and then you have event Jaquita.

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So you have Jaquita, like you have office Jaquita.

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Then you have event Jaquita and you have to get to know event Jaquita, cause she, she different, she different.

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So you make the.

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I'm so glad you did that because you make a very this is brings us into a very um, you know important understanding about this.

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So when you take this test, you actually depending on the level of test you take right?

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I happen to take it in a leadership development course and so they really broke down every I mean, I have a 46 page document right.

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The two things that it measured were your natural style and your adaptive style, and what Queda was talking about was the difference between her natural style and adaptive style.

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So you'll see that you naturally, naturally, you adapt right.

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Especially again and I always want to draw this back because, again, those of you that are listening to this podcast if you are an unlearner, okay, then you are interested in growing and maturing and getting better and moving to the next level.

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Your mindset, like you, want a mindset shift in order to gain the freedom in the season that you're in.

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That's going to take some unlearning, which means you're growing right, and so, naturally, that type of person is going to learn and wants to learn how to adapt into their situation and adapt into what it is that they're doing.

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So you are probably adapting a lot in this season of your life which is going to be different than who you would be if you were in a, you know, just in your natural kind of laid back state where you didn't have any real expectations of you, there was nothing that you were tasked to do.

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There's, you know, you don't have a real high level leadership role or whatever that might be.

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If you're in that area at Thanksgiving, right, you may not be the person who's getting the food together, versus at your job, you may have a leadership role, but at Thanksgiving I say in my situation, my aunt is the leader.

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She does that.

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I chill, I walk in the house, I sit back, I eat food.

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I don't have any decisions I got to make, I don't have any orders I have to give, I don't have to check in with nobody.

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I could just be me.

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So a lot of how I am in the workplace is totally different in a situation where somebody else is in charge.

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But when I'm in charge, I look different, right?

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Like Queda was saying, when she's in charge she looks different, versus when she's not in charge, she looks different.

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So your style is either you adapt to your adaptive style, your natural style.

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So I happen to have mine in front of me.

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I'll give you an example of, like my, the D and the C, which are my top ones, don't change really much, like they're still at the top.

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But for the I, cuida's highest is my lowest.

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So for for me, the, the I is very low in my natural style, very low in my natural style.

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I am not, you know, that idea of creating, you know, social synergy and you know I'm, you know life of the enthusiasm high that that ain't me right.

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That's not who I am, but in a my adaptive style, because of the role I have of leading an organization, I got to have a little bit of that.

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It's still not high, but it's higher than I would be just as plain old with Abigail at her house.

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Right and same for the S.

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The S is lower.

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I actually am.

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I am perfectly fine with going with the flow.

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Most days I don't have to have a plan like we can just move days I don't have to have a plan like we can just move, but it when as a leader, that's not, that's not the case, like I have to have a plan, right, I gotta have a structure.

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You have to be able to communicate that structure.

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Again, it's, it's much higher than just in my, in my, in my lowest, you know, in my regular state.

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So is quita, what I think, what you described is exactly what that is, exactly what that was like.

00:18:27.214 --> 00:18:32.275
You know, jacquita versus office, jacquita versus at home jacquita right like listen.

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Totally, at home, jacquita is so chill, you know, um, I I think there's something about, like the social setting that just like turns things on.

00:18:44.104 --> 00:18:45.669
Yeah, you know, like, like and like.

00:18:45.669 --> 00:18:53.384
I think that, like as you, it's kind of like as you enter into different environments, like it is like hitting buttons on the inside of you.

00:18:53.384 --> 00:19:02.356
Um, because when I get to work, it is immediately like I was especially in my last position where there were so many young adults, young leaders.

00:19:02.356 --> 00:19:06.717
Um, there were so many young adults, young leaders.

00:19:06.717 --> 00:19:27.884
I was constantly like in encouraging mode and hyping them up and helping them to sit down, think through the problems, come up with strategies, you know, but at home, jaquita is like we chilling, like, and I have spent all my energy and I don't feel the need to do those things.

00:19:27.884 --> 00:19:29.291
There's also nobody at home.

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Ain't nobody here, okay, so there's nobody to turn anything on for.

00:19:39.151 --> 00:19:47.403
So, um, but I would say, like with my friends, like I don't feel the need to inspire y'all, you know, like I'm not, like I'm sorry sometimes.

00:19:48.854 --> 00:19:56.015
First of all, we need inspiration y'all be all right, but I don't feel like it's not something that always just turns on like.

00:19:56.015 --> 00:19:59.221
I'm more so thinking through life with you.

00:19:59.221 --> 00:20:03.531
You know and and pondering, and, and I think I pull more on my s?

00:20:03.531 --> 00:20:03.892
Like.

00:20:03.892 --> 00:20:06.894
I think that that's more of like, my S like.

00:20:06.894 --> 00:20:09.695
Let's think through, let's engage.

00:20:09.695 --> 00:20:15.539
You know thoughts and you know figure out the structure of things.

00:20:16.039 --> 00:20:30.518
Versus, when I am in a place where performance is expected, I immediately turn into that I, and when there is, when I'm in a space where there is a larger thing at stake, I can be a little controlling.

00:20:30.518 --> 00:20:41.971
But up until then, I think I think anybody who has ever worked for me will tell you that, like yo, she really let me have it Like my ideas, the things that I wanted to do.

00:20:41.971 --> 00:20:44.316
Like she let me do it Like.

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I was never like pushing, pushy when it came to them making their plans, amir, what do you want to do, tiana, what you want to do?

00:20:52.680 --> 00:20:53.951
You know, darby, what you doing.

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You know, like, and they would just sit down and like, detail out to me what they want to do and I was kind of not critiquing it, but helping them to like give shape to their ideas.

00:21:05.663 --> 00:21:15.317
It wasn't until I got to the thing that I was like all right, all the things haven't been you know, sure you know, and it wasn't even that they hadn't thought of things.

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It's just my mind, I think.

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In the fight or flight mode I think I have more fight than I than I previously realized.

00:21:22.635 --> 00:21:27.142
Like, when things happen, I'm like yo, what we doing?

00:21:27.142 --> 00:21:40.253
Yeah, like I rarely run unless it's an animal, but otherwise y'all, there was a frog in my garage, yeah oh my gosh, it was like no, it wasn't even.

00:21:40.535 --> 00:21:41.757
It doesn't matter.

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It doesn't matter.

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I have not parked in my garage, oh, in months.

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Okay, because the idea of getting out of my car and that frog being near my feet stressed me out.

00:21:53.163 --> 00:21:56.371
Okay, my car in the driveway right now.

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Okay, because I can't do it.

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I cannot do it.

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Animals just freak me out.

00:22:03.083 --> 00:22:07.490
I haven't been in my backyard in years just because there's a creek that runs back.

00:22:07.510 --> 00:22:08.476
I don't know what's out there.

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I let the yard man deal with that.

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Don't even tell me.

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No, that frog stressed me out and my neighbor and her three-year-old were walking around my garage trying to get it and I was just standing back there like y'all got it, I can't do it, I cannot do it.

00:22:23.592 --> 00:22:24.734
I can't, I can't do it, I just I cannot do it.

00:22:24.734 --> 00:22:26.720
A three-year-old yeah.

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She was like come on, you've held a frog before and the little three-year-old was running around and I was like I'm so grateful but nevertheless, nevertheless, like I have learned that like my fight or flight mode is fight and I think that, like when I get in those situations and there's a lot going on or there's like a critical emergency or something is happening, I had a student, we were at an event and this student was about to pass out and immediately I went into let's take care of it mode, Like and it was so funny because I walked on her and I was trying to get her to a chair and she just fell on me like in my arms, was like I'm so tired and I was like mama here, baby, mama here you're really making me.

00:23:10.636 --> 00:23:22.760
So this is, this is interesting because and I'm scrolling through because I want to I want to make sure there's a, there's a particular um, I think that's.

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Guys, let me find in my notes.

00:23:25.703 --> 00:23:27.266
Yeah, here we go, okay.

00:23:27.266 --> 00:23:33.741
So so the I and this is interesting and I'm kind of putting this together.

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So, if you're an I or if you and you have to take, take this.

00:23:36.753 --> 00:23:55.546
But if you, if you're like hey, you know, I, I typically uh, i's and s's typically uh, are more people oriented versus D's and C's are more task oriented typically, and so in that moment, right it you that what you just described?

00:23:55.546 --> 00:24:05.153
It's really interesting because it's like, as an I, yeah, like, let me ask you this do you think you would have been as intense if it wasn't a human problem?

00:24:05.536 --> 00:24:08.816
Oh, absolutely not, Absolutely not.

00:24:08.816 --> 00:24:20.122
When things happen and they're like we need this paperwork immediately, I'm like, whatever you know, like absolutely not.

00:24:20.122 --> 00:24:21.596
I could care less.

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Yes, I could care less.

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No, I'm remembering a time.

00:24:26.853 --> 00:24:39.618
So my, uh, my, my partner in crime and angel street um one of my partners in crime, her name is jill, she's also, she's also an eye, uh, and me and jill it's y'all are very similar.

00:24:39.719 --> 00:24:42.006
So we were uh, this was years ago.

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Gosh, this is over 10 years ago.

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Um, we were in germany, um, for a conference, and we were trying to get.

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We were on our way, we're at the airport, getting back home, and there was an issue with the security and the plane and all this.

00:24:57.561 --> 00:25:03.219
Anyway, we were, we were very, very close to missing our flight and we had like it wasn't an option.

00:25:03.219 --> 00:25:04.942
Like you know, we're traveling internationally.

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We have to get home.

00:25:06.413 --> 00:25:09.759
Missing your flight just isn't as simple as if you're in the States, right?

00:25:09.759 --> 00:25:19.271
So, jill, there was a point where she just literally bowed her way through the crowd and said okay, guys, we're getting through.

00:25:19.271 --> 00:25:20.453
And she said follow me.

00:25:20.453 --> 00:25:27.790
And we, she went, and we went right behind her and it was very uncomfortable for me because I don't, that's not.

00:25:27.790 --> 00:25:39.053
I would prefer to think of every other type of way than to like bother people, right, I don't want to do that, but and I and I don't think she does either but what was concerning to her was I gotta get y'all home.

00:25:39.053 --> 00:25:40.676
I gotta get y'all home.

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This was a trip I asked you to be on.

00:25:42.300 --> 00:25:49.493
I gotta get y'all home oh, yeah, so she, every sense in her was about us and the problem it.

00:25:49.493 --> 00:25:54.423
Since the problem concerned her people, she was like it ain't even a thing.

00:25:54.851 --> 00:26:00.300
Listen, I'm not an aggressive person, but mess with somebody that's up under me.

00:26:00.300 --> 00:26:01.242
I'm quick.

00:26:01.242 --> 00:26:10.194
I saw this, uh, this video on Instagram where it talked about like being a millennial boss, and the lady was on there and she was like, oh, they said what?

00:26:10.194 --> 00:26:17.759
Okay, copy me in the next email and say, bringing Jaquita in for visibility and I'll take it from there.

00:26:17.759 --> 00:26:19.701
That's very much me Like.

00:26:19.901 --> 00:26:24.243
Something similar happened and I was like yo, add me on to that next meeting.

00:26:24.243 --> 00:26:26.704
You know what I'm saying.

00:26:26.704 --> 00:26:27.746
And we're going to handle this.

00:26:27.746 --> 00:26:28.746
We're going to squash this.

00:26:28.746 --> 00:26:38.040
All right, I was quick to make a meeting Like, hey, guys want to just meet so we can all get on the same page.

00:26:38.040 --> 00:26:39.387
And I'm coming in like, so what?

00:26:39.387 --> 00:26:39.709
The problem is?

00:26:39.709 --> 00:26:41.355
Okay, we're going to fix things.

00:26:41.355 --> 00:26:58.175
When you come against, like and I think it's also because I think like as one, as a millennial or as a middle adult like we got pushed over, like we got talked about bad, y'all came for the millennials, y'all came for us.

00:26:58.175 --> 00:27:05.518
Okay, y'all try to act like we was lazy, like we ain't wanna do no work, like we was complaining all the time.

00:27:05.518 --> 00:27:06.560
Now, look at y'all.

00:27:06.560 --> 00:27:09.237
Now, y'all need us.

00:27:09.237 --> 00:27:12.105
Now, we, the middle adults running the world.

00:27:12.125 --> 00:27:19.665
Okay, y'all know what to do with these 21 year olds, yeah they, they, generation alpha gonna stress y'all out.

00:27:19.846 --> 00:27:22.093
Okay, they already don't know what to do with gen z.

00:27:22.093 --> 00:27:27.448
They like, yeah, put some respect on our names, okay.

00:27:27.448 --> 00:27:34.063
Also, most of us are close to 40, if not 40 already, but nevertheless, all right, we're not.

00:27:34.063 --> 00:27:36.234
We're not the young ones, no more Y'all talking about them.

00:27:36.234 --> 00:27:39.411
Gen Zers now, all right, we do the side part, they do the middle.

00:27:39.411 --> 00:27:42.055
It's real easy to to to tell us apart.

00:27:42.055 --> 00:27:44.138
You know they wear long socks, we wear short ones.

00:27:44.138 --> 00:27:47.324
You know them long socks be stressing me out.

00:27:47.324 --> 00:27:52.049
Do you know how hard we fought to have the no-show ankle socks?

00:27:53.493 --> 00:27:54.739
I still don't understand that.

00:27:56.537 --> 00:27:57.039
I don't get it.

00:27:57.039 --> 00:27:59.935
Nevertheless, I have learned.

00:27:59.935 --> 00:28:04.596
As I've grown older, the dominance comes out more in me.

00:28:04.596 --> 00:28:23.336
I will tell you it is quite stressful because I had a lot of issues with people with the with the d personality, like you know I was just about to say let's talk about what bothers us, sometimes about certain you know, and this is why I said that, like the disc assessment, tore these workplaces up.

00:28:23.917 --> 00:28:36.154
Okay, because I would just like to say, as soon as I learned the disc assessment, I knew I had beef with the C's, like I, I knew, cause they stress, they're always like but what about the details?

00:28:36.154 --> 00:28:37.078
What about the facts?

00:28:37.078 --> 00:28:40.156
What about compliance?

00:28:40.156 --> 00:28:43.378
Everybody has to comply, procedure, procedure, procedure.

00:28:43.378 --> 00:28:45.914
And I'm like ain't nobody got time?

00:28:45.914 --> 00:28:47.252
And you know they're always the ones.

00:28:47.252 --> 00:28:50.192
You know everybody's like all right, guys, we're all going to get it done.

00:28:50.192 --> 00:29:00.015
Yeah, and the C person's like well, I just really don't think that we thought about policy E, uh, section two, and I'm just like it's true.

00:29:01.556 --> 00:29:02.856
Please don't, nobody care.

00:29:02.856 --> 00:29:08.142
Again, I'm people oriented, so all of that, you know, policy, policy, policy.

00:29:08.142 --> 00:29:09.462
I'm like it's gone.

00:29:09.462 --> 00:29:09.942
It's gone.

00:29:09.942 --> 00:29:13.645
You know, I might have to change the policy up depending on what I'm doing.

00:29:13.645 --> 00:29:24.938
Anyway, like you know, I don't be really thinking that you know one policy going to do everything I need it to do anyway.

00:29:24.938 --> 00:29:26.825
So you know, like I quickly had to like be mindful of I don't, don't come too hard on the seas.

00:29:26.825 --> 00:29:30.173
You know, like I, I I quickly had to like be mindful of all right, don't don't come too hard on the C's.

00:29:30.173 --> 00:29:37.517
You know, and and I think, being around, it's interesting that you're a D, cause I don't know that I would have guessed that.

00:29:37.537 --> 00:29:41.233
But y'all, ruth Abigail, I learned more about Ruth Abigail every year.

00:29:41.233 --> 00:29:42.715
Like it's like another.

00:29:42.715 --> 00:29:45.721
Like you know, like when you know Shrek said he was an onion.

00:29:45.721 --> 00:29:47.884
You know Ruth Abigail has been an onion.

00:29:47.884 --> 00:29:52.922
You know she just keeps becoming more and more herself, which is beautiful.

00:29:53.371 --> 00:29:58.058
But it's 20 years of friendship and you know she was not a D in college.

00:29:58.058 --> 00:30:00.954
Well, no, she kind of was, you kind of was.

00:30:00.954 --> 00:30:04.792
I wasn't a confident D, you weren't a confident D.

00:30:04.792 --> 00:30:08.779
But I remember when we led the gospel choir together.

00:30:08.779 --> 00:30:20.743
Ruth Abigail was president, I was vice president and one rehearsal she wasn't going to be there and she left me like a list of instructions of what I needed to do so that I would do it the way that she would do it.

00:30:20.743 --> 00:30:22.497
And I was like absolutely not.

00:30:22.497 --> 00:30:30.636
Like she even left me a word y'all, because we would give like a little inspirational word at the beginning Me a whole religion major.

00:30:30.636 --> 00:30:34.621
She did not trust me to write my own words.

00:30:34.621 --> 00:30:36.436
She was like here's the word I wanted to give.

00:30:36.436 --> 00:30:39.700
I really need you to give it just as it's written on this paper.

00:30:39.700 --> 00:30:42.618
And I was like what?

00:30:42.769 --> 00:30:43.894
And she didn't do it, by the way.

00:30:44.991 --> 00:30:52.038
No, I tried to, and that's when everybody was looking at me side eye because you had a reason you want nevertheless, nevertheless.

00:30:52.038 --> 00:31:13.061
You know, I think what's interesting to me as I start to like live more in my d era, in my dominance era, is that I think back on all of the, all of the kind of really hard times I had with that personality type and it scares me sometimes because it's like some of it was traumatic.

00:31:13.061 --> 00:31:24.765
You know, like some of the stuff from growing up and just living with people and engaging with people, like some of it was traumatizing and things that I don't want to repeat ever.

00:31:24.765 --> 00:31:34.237
And I don't want to repeat ever and I don't want to make anybody else feel like, but when I get in those, when eventually it comes out, it's just so natural and immediately I'm just like.

00:31:34.237 --> 00:31:47.744
It's like after I come back to my eyeness I'm like, oh Lord, I hope I didn't like hurt anybody or traumatize anybody and you have to unlearn that there's trauma associated with what you've experienced.

00:31:47.990 --> 00:31:52.099
Yeah, yeah, yeah, and I think what you're.

00:31:52.099 --> 00:31:59.980
So one of the things that I think I'm constantly unlearning and I appreciate what you said about the onion I am constantly.

00:31:59.980 --> 00:32:12.795
I am learning more about myself, and not just learning more, but getting comfortable, right, like I said in the beginning, when I saw that D, it triggered me because it brought me back to a space I always said I never wanted to be, but I am it just.

00:32:12.795 --> 00:32:17.332
That's just who I am Like and it doesn't have to be a bad thing.

00:32:17.332 --> 00:32:21.932
Now there's an upside, there's a, there's an under underside and upside to any personality.

00:32:21.932 --> 00:32:23.940
We've talked about that before and it true.

00:32:23.940 --> 00:32:31.598
Like you, you know, I can be very controlling, like, as quita said, like you know, do this, say this, be this.

00:32:31.598 --> 00:32:33.082
You know, don't veer from that.

00:32:33.082 --> 00:32:34.772
This is my plan and I want to move that.

00:32:34.813 --> 00:32:35.394
Like that right.

00:32:35.394 --> 00:32:38.321
You ain't been in control that, and that I've got.

00:32:38.362 --> 00:32:42.631
I've gotten caught in that trap and I've had to learn how to trust and let go and let people be who they are.

00:32:42.631 --> 00:32:45.883
Um, and also there's a.

00:32:45.883 --> 00:32:47.107
There's an upside to it.

00:32:47.107 --> 00:32:53.363
It's like I don't want to get things done and it's like there's a, like you know the combination of a, d and a c.

00:32:53.363 --> 00:32:58.705
If that is who you are, you know how to you know what it's going to take to move, something like.

00:32:59.468 --> 00:33:14.020
And even though you may not know, this is key, and this is why I think the beauty of um, of of the of the difference of two people like me and quita um is I know how to move things.

00:33:14.020 --> 00:33:16.511
Quita knows how to move people, and that's true.

00:33:16.511 --> 00:33:19.417
I'm not great at moving people.

00:33:19.417 --> 00:33:33.800
I'm learning, and I have learned from people like like to quita and their personality types, but I naturally am very good at moving a thing, and, and so sometimes you have to know the difference.

00:33:33.800 --> 00:33:35.373
You have to know what's needed in the moment.

00:33:35.373 --> 00:33:37.921
Do you need to move people or do you need to move a product?

00:33:37.921 --> 00:33:38.810
Do you need to move a thing?

00:33:38.810 --> 00:33:40.353
Right?

00:33:40.353 --> 00:33:51.306
And so one of the things that I have that I've had to unlearn is you know, we say this, but again it brings up the tension.

00:33:51.306 --> 00:33:58.618
The reality is, if you want something different, if you want something different, you got to do something different, and sometimes you are not the person to do the different.

00:33:59.029 --> 00:34:08.023
You have to accept something different, and that might mean you have to accept a different way of doing something that somebody else is going to do.

00:34:08.023 --> 00:34:30.114
And I know that when I saw this, I immediately realized some gaps in my own behavior styles that didn't allow people to do what's needed for the thing that I want to see better like.

00:34:30.114 --> 00:34:41.663
I'm trying to fill in gaps that other people need to fill, not me, but in order for that to happen, I gotta let go of how I would do it right.

00:34:42.452 --> 00:34:49.353
So like, if I need my team, if I want my team to grow, which I do, but my team to grow, I want them to develop.

00:34:49.353 --> 00:34:57.980
It's not just about giving them more responsibility, that's my natural, like I'm just going to give you more stuff to do versus a quita.

00:34:57.980 --> 00:34:58.661
How would you?

00:34:58.661 --> 00:34:59.021
What?

00:34:59.021 --> 00:34:59.911
What are some things?

00:34:59.911 --> 00:35:05.711
First of all, let me ask you this, just as a different way of thinking would that be part of your plan?

00:35:05.711 --> 00:35:09.219
And if, maybe it is, maybe it isn't, but what else would you add to that?

00:35:10.306 --> 00:35:13.490
from your side when you say would what be part of my plan, Like growth?

00:35:13.530 --> 00:35:19.659
and development of a team Like my first thing is, I'm going to give you more responsibility, I'm going to watch how you do it and we're going to talk about it.

00:35:22.811 --> 00:35:52.505
I think I spent a lot of time getting to learn who my team members were individually and and what their ultimate goal was, and I crafted a kind of professional development plan that was specific to who they were and I'm just constantly aware of their strengths and weaknesses and I have a goal in mind for them and I'm like watching over the pot, like okay, yep, I see where he's growing.

00:35:52.505 --> 00:35:54.411
Let me add a little bit more of this.

00:35:54.411 --> 00:35:56.981
And it, it, I scaled it Right.

00:35:56.981 --> 00:36:11.545
So it wasn't I want you to get from A to Z by tomorrow, it was I want you to get from A to C, then I want you to get from C to F, like I want you to make incremental leaps toward like a fulfillment.

00:36:11.545 --> 00:36:14.255
And it allowed me to figure out.

00:36:14.416 --> 00:36:22.179
I'm always aware of when to be honest and when to when is when is the best time to drop truth?

00:36:22.179 --> 00:36:35.014
You know I had been, I'd had my team for almost three years about two, three years by the time I left and it wasn't until like my last two weeks in the job where I was like here's your next point of growth.

00:36:35.014 --> 00:36:44.576
Now, I had always known that, but it I dropped it at the right time, because sometimes when we're looking at people and we're like you just need to be made better.

00:36:44.576 --> 00:36:53.025
And I've been in those circumstances by these, where I got a story to tell my sister.

00:36:53.025 --> 00:37:00.490
I got a story to tell, but I've been at that point where it's just, why can't you just do all of these things and become this person, right One?

00:37:00.490 --> 00:37:02.273
I'm not that person, yep, and it took me a while to realize that.

00:37:02.273 --> 00:37:04.215
Yep, and it took me a while to realize that.

00:37:04.215 --> 00:37:11.505
It took me a while to realize that the version of me that people were making up in their head was not me.

00:37:11.505 --> 00:37:21.030
Yeah, it was not who I am.

00:37:21.030 --> 00:37:23.597
It was not my gift set, it was not my personality, it was not my strengths, it just wasn't me.

00:37:23.597 --> 00:37:26.603
And who they wanted me to be was really a different version of themselves.

00:37:26.603 --> 00:37:46.684
That's right, and you cannot mold somebody to be you, and I think that people who are more task oriented tend to do that For sure, because they are like they want it, and the biggest thing is is that they didn't care about who I was or who I would become.

00:37:46.684 --> 00:37:50.300
They cared about what I would do and what it looked like.

00:37:50.300 --> 00:38:05.050
I want you to do, act and behave in a way that symbolizes that you represent the way that I behave and act right and think and everything.

00:38:05.050 --> 00:38:05.791
You get what I'm saying.

00:38:05.851 --> 00:38:16.940
And so and it was it was stressful because I felt like I didn't have an advocate that was saying, hey, no, actually you bring value.

00:38:16.940 --> 00:38:31.969
Like, not only did I not have someone saying, no, you, you actually bring a lot of value to a space, you actually add a lot of value.

00:38:31.969 --> 00:38:53.416
It just it was affirming for me when I started realizing that there was productivity and purpose and impact in who I was and not in the me becoming someone, one of the most, and it wasn't intentional, but it really did a number on me.

00:38:53.416 --> 00:39:00.701
When I started my last position, somebody told me you're going to have to become Jaquita 2.0 to be successful in that position.

00:39:00.701 --> 00:39:04.735
Like, who you were in your last position ain't going to cut it.

00:39:04.735 --> 00:39:12.846
And I stressed myself out, trying to figure out who is this Jaquita 2.0?

00:39:12.846 --> 00:39:14.952
How do I become her?

00:39:14.952 --> 00:39:16.496
What are the things like?

00:39:16.496 --> 00:39:41.188
I have to be a different person and that is what that stalled me, because I felt defeated because I wasn't her, like, I wasn't this new version of myself, because I was thinking, in order to be successful, you're going to have to be more like the person who said that to you, are more like other people you've seen in leadership positions.

00:39:41.670 --> 00:39:59.733
The thing that helped me to be successful in that role that I think has taught me so much was that I just simply rested in being myself, and it started coming naturally when I stopped trying to be who I thought I should be and allowed myself to be like.

00:39:59.733 --> 00:40:00.516
You know what, jaquita?

00:40:00.516 --> 00:40:01.759
You are an I.

00:40:01.759 --> 00:40:03.742
I am inspirational.

00:40:03.742 --> 00:40:04.833
I am motivational.

00:40:04.833 --> 00:40:06.016
I am energetic.

00:40:06.016 --> 00:40:08.043
I am, I'm an S.

00:40:08.224 --> 00:40:08.945
Let's sit down.

00:40:08.945 --> 00:40:11.474
I want to think through who you are.

00:40:11.474 --> 00:40:13.579
You know what your strengths and weaknesses are.

00:40:13.579 --> 00:40:14.601
I want to make you better.

00:40:14.601 --> 00:40:15.831
I want to make us better.

00:40:15.831 --> 00:40:17.998
I want to build team culture.

00:40:17.998 --> 00:40:19.260
I want to build community.

00:40:19.260 --> 00:40:20.971
I want to build environments.

00:40:20.971 --> 00:40:23.094
I want to build buy-in.

00:40:23.094 --> 00:40:31.985
And the more I settled in who I was, the more freedom it gave me to even begin to delve into the D.

00:40:31.985 --> 00:40:43.813
I ain't never been a C, but the more freedom it gave me to you know, really be like okay, I can be dominant now because it's coming from an authentic place and not a place that somebody told me I have to be.

00:40:43.813 --> 00:40:46.637
This right, I can be the person in charge.

00:40:46.637 --> 00:40:47.440
I can lead.

00:40:47.440 --> 00:40:56.007
I can lead initiatives, I can think more about the task because I'm not trying so hard to squash down who I am.

00:40:56.007 --> 00:41:03.532
I'm allowing myself to just be, and I think that that was one of the things that I really had to unlearn that made the biggest difference in my life.

00:41:04.333 --> 00:41:05.034
And that's good.

00:41:05.034 --> 00:41:17.507
And even in this, this, even now, because I can definitely and I have I probably have made a statement that was, like you know, becoming a 2.0 version of yourself.

00:41:17.507 --> 00:41:22.972
I don't know, I've never used those words, I don't think, but I probably have made statements to other people that that alluded to that.

00:41:22.972 --> 00:41:38.463
And I'm sitting here and I'm thinking why would I say it that late way and why, if I heard that I would be weird, I would thinking why would I say it that way and why, if I heard that I would be weird, I would probably be motivated to find out who that was, because in my mind, I interpret that as a task to be done right.

00:41:39.251 --> 00:41:40.454
I need to do this.

00:41:40.454 --> 00:41:41.777
I am a doer.

00:41:41.777 --> 00:41:51.775
I want to do this, I want to get this done, and it would have almost been a challenge right Versus for you, obviously, obviously, that's not how you, how you interpreted it.

00:41:51.795 --> 00:41:59.338
It I interpreted as you're not good enough, you're not enough right, and I interpreted it as I can get more, I can get.

00:41:59.940 --> 00:42:02.827
I want more like it's, it's but.

00:42:02.827 --> 00:42:19.943
But I say that to say, like you know, you have to take into account, um, how your net, how, how your behavior styles and how you, how you move, impacts other people like and it's just taken into account.

00:42:20.043 --> 00:42:30.811
And I think again, with all this stuff, again, like I said, I said this in the beginning this particular um, this particular assessment is, is highly communal.

00:42:30.811 --> 00:42:46.405
It it is very much about not just you, but how your behaviors impact and affect other people and how theirs affect you and how you're able to move amongst um, a context together.

00:42:46.405 --> 00:42:51.172
Well, like, if you can make this happen, then you probably you've landed in a really good place.

00:42:51.172 --> 00:42:53.498
It is not easy to do, because it is.

00:42:53.498 --> 00:43:00.161
The temperaments are very different, the way you move is different, how you, what you, what you connect to is very different.

00:43:00.161 --> 00:43:01.112
All these things right.

00:43:01.594 --> 00:43:05.085
So I'm sitting here, I'm just like man.

00:43:05.085 --> 00:43:05.847
That's so interesting.

00:43:05.847 --> 00:43:07.934
We would have taken that total two totally different ways.

00:43:07.934 --> 00:43:20.454
It would have probably motivated me and I probably would have, you know, thrived off of a statement like that, like when people give me what I see as a goal, like I'm trying to reach it, so that that that would have been a goal.

00:43:20.454 --> 00:43:21.659
How do I become better?

00:43:21.659 --> 00:43:23.652
And you didn't take it that way.

00:43:23.652 --> 00:43:32.782
So it helps me in this moment to say am I speaking my own language to somebody else, expecting?

00:43:32.822 --> 00:43:34.063
them to get it.

00:43:34.063 --> 00:43:34.864
That's good.

00:43:35.045 --> 00:43:35.905
Or am I learning?

00:43:35.905 --> 00:43:39.871
Do I know them well enough or am I learning them well enough to speak in their own language For me?

00:43:39.871 --> 00:43:44.222
I don't think I realized this until I took the test.

00:43:44.222 --> 00:43:47.199
I actually work really well with an influencer.

00:43:47.199 --> 00:43:50.518
I think that you know I do.

00:43:50.518 --> 00:43:53.998
I work really well with the influence because I realized that.

00:43:53.998 --> 00:44:11.092
I realized that as a deficit in me, like I know that that's not who I am and so, but but one of the things that I did not realize, that I kind of thought I was and this is something I think is really important to unlearn uh is, don't like the thing.

00:44:11.092 --> 00:44:22.697
If you don't see an, if you don't see a gap in you in something, it's going to be hard for you to accept that in something else and someone else.

00:44:22.697 --> 00:44:25.262
So I see a gap of influence in me.

00:44:25.262 --> 00:44:27.556
I didn't see a gap of steadiness.

00:44:27.556 --> 00:44:32.655
I actually thought I was pretty steady in the way that I move.

00:44:32.655 --> 00:44:36.282
I actually am not that steady Right.

00:44:36.342 --> 00:44:40.514
No, you're like a little bit more explosive.

00:44:41.114 --> 00:44:41.436
I am.

00:44:42.277 --> 00:44:42.418
I.

00:44:42.577 --> 00:44:44.240
I, I, I'm and I'm not.

00:44:44.240 --> 00:44:54.264
You know, I'm like I said, I kind of take it as a kind of I'm a risk taker and I again, I didn't realize that before I took this test, but because I thought I was something.

00:44:54.264 --> 00:45:03.954
The way it shows up, the real way it should show up, bothered me, and so that steadiness behavior drives me crazy, right?

00:45:03.954 --> 00:45:11.565
Because, number one, you're not doing it the way I would do it and I'm steady and you're, you know, steady we can.

00:45:12.130 --> 00:45:16.422
The biggest thing is like in that regard is is the pace of movement.

00:45:16.422 --> 00:45:23.742
The steady behavior style is not fast.

00:45:23.742 --> 00:45:27.840
They don't move quickly, and the D behavior style does.

00:45:27.840 --> 00:45:30.458
It's a more of a fast paced deal.

00:45:31.010 --> 00:45:31.431
Child.

00:45:31.431 --> 00:45:34.902
When I tell you, I just feel everything coming up to the surface.

00:45:35.130 --> 00:45:36.094
Oh, that's good, that's good.

00:45:36.313 --> 00:45:36.755
Release it.

00:45:36.815 --> 00:45:37.619
Release it, release it.

00:45:39.231 --> 00:45:40.215
Right now, in the name of Jesus.

00:45:41.809 --> 00:45:43.353
Lift your hands, ok.

00:45:43.353 --> 00:45:56.719
So I think I think that that I've like unlearning that has been really helpful for me, unlearning that what I didn't perceive as a gap bothered me and other people, because I honestly saw myself as filling the gap.

00:45:56.719 --> 00:46:05.778
When I realized that I don't fill that gap, that's actually not who I am and I have to allow other people to be that.

00:46:05.778 --> 00:46:11.221
In my life I got to allow people who are steady to slow me down.

00:46:11.221 --> 00:46:16.719
If y'all knew me, you would know how hard that is.

00:46:16.719 --> 00:46:18.804
My husband now has not taken this.

00:46:18.804 --> 00:46:21.755
So I'm saying this, I'm I'm.

00:46:21.755 --> 00:46:31.751
I'm saying this a little prematurely, however, I am pretty sure prematurely.

00:46:31.751 --> 00:46:32.833
However, I am pretty sure he's an s.

00:46:32.833 --> 00:46:33.393
I am pretty sure about that.

00:46:33.393 --> 00:46:33.956
Um, that makes sense.

00:46:33.976 --> 00:46:37.864
I have a team member, uh, who I love and adore, who is an s, like the.

00:46:37.864 --> 00:46:38.244
It is.

00:46:38.244 --> 00:46:39.507
It is not a.

00:46:39.507 --> 00:46:43.657
If we're moving, if I'm, if I'm at 100, they're at 50.

00:46:43.657 --> 00:46:47.976
It's like, bro, you gotta keep up like you gotta keep up like, come on, let's go.

00:46:47.976 --> 00:46:54.059
But then there are moments where they're I have to accept that they're right.

00:46:54.059 --> 00:47:03.771
Right, I had a team member who's not with us anymore, but she was for a long time and she was exactly who I needed her, but we it she.

00:47:03.771 --> 00:47:07.719
Her pace drove me crazy, like we're moving.

00:47:07.719 --> 00:47:08.942
We got to get this done.

00:47:08.942 --> 00:47:10.210
We have this much time to do it.

00:47:10.210 --> 00:47:11.434
We need to move, move, move, move, move.

00:47:11.434 --> 00:47:16.657
And she was an S and she was like we need to pay attention to this and she was also conscientious.

00:47:16.657 --> 00:47:22.713
She was that that detailed kind of mindset and it slowed us down, but it was the absolute best thing.

00:47:22.773 --> 00:47:35.686
And she warned me she said hey, before she left, she warned me, she said I don't, I think we need to start taking less things and we need to pay more attention to the everyday programming and not take as many performances.

00:47:35.686 --> 00:47:47.936
And I thought I listened to her, but I didn't fully, until I, until after like it took me like a year to really hear that and she was absolutely right.

00:47:47.936 --> 00:47:51.639
But again it rubbed me the wrong way because I thought I was already that.

00:47:52.971 --> 00:48:24.634
When I tell you this is almost like y'all, like I am, literally like a tear could actually form right now, and not because of, like me and Ruth Abigail's relationship, but I'm thinking through one as an I and an S the amount of times I was shamed for the pace that I work, for the ways that I think, for the ways that I want to engage and involve people.

00:48:24.634 --> 00:48:30.923
I almost was shamed out of being myself, you know, and it was, it was.

00:48:30.923 --> 00:48:32.952
It was a difficult road.

00:48:32.952 --> 00:48:34.356
It was a difficult road.

00:48:34.356 --> 00:48:34.536
You know.

00:48:34.657 --> 00:48:38.974
I have so many young girls come up to me and, like you know, teach me how to be confident.

00:48:38.974 --> 00:48:54.047
Like you're so confident, I want to be confident like you and I'm like this was hard fought, baby, like you know, like I had, and not just, you know, being confident about the way that I look or being confident about the way that I talk or all of those physical things.

00:48:54.047 --> 00:49:02.222
But just being confident about who I am was difficult and it took time and it took me.

00:49:02.222 --> 00:49:10.204
It honestly took me having to create some space between me and those people who were demanding that I be a certain way.

00:49:10.204 --> 00:49:23.440
I had to take that space for myself until I felt strong enough in who I was to not feel the need to have to be anything other, be anything or anyone other than who I was.

00:49:23.440 --> 00:49:55.277
But as you were talking, it reminded me of my last work environment, like I was saying so many things, but because I'm not task oriented and I'm people oriented and I'm intuitive and I'm and I'm sitting here and I'm telling you exactly like what she said to you is almost verbatim Some of the things that I said before I left and it was, oh okay, all right.

00:49:55.277 --> 00:50:01.050
But I'm telling you that if you don't learn to value people, that's right.

00:50:01.050 --> 00:50:07.960
If people don't feel trusted and that was I was told I was lit and that was I was told I was literally.

00:50:07.960 --> 00:50:20.525
I was literally told that I was not trustworthy, that nobody could trust what was inside of me because it wasn't showing up in the way that it showed up in them, that that people couldn't know me.

00:50:20.990 --> 00:50:29.101
And I didn't realize until, like maybe this last year, that I have all of the good treasure I have found in myself.

00:50:29.101 --> 00:50:40.896
I have tried to hide it for fear that somebody would try to come and take it again, like it took me so long to value what I had that it was really hard.

00:50:40.896 --> 00:50:47.255
It's not that I'm necessarily afraid of preaching or speaking or getting in front of people.

00:50:47.255 --> 00:50:58.347
I am afraid that somebody will will speak, speak ill of what I fought so hard to treasure and and.

00:50:58.347 --> 00:51:03.621
And that's why criticism sometimes comes off so hard, because it's like ah, I've taken a lot of criticism in my life.

00:51:03.621 --> 00:51:12.474
Hold up, because criticism should make what's inside of me better and not tell me that what I have is not good enough.

00:51:12.474 --> 00:51:14.199
You get what I'm saying.

00:51:14.340 --> 00:51:35.222
So, like I look at it, takes me a minute to differentiate whether or not criticism is something that is constructive or something that's like literally trying to build me up, or if it is something that is trying to like, as like literally trying to build me up, or if it is something that is trying to like, tell, convince me that I don't have good things, and so, like it takes me a minute to evaluate it.

00:51:35.222 --> 00:51:50.791
Because I'm like hold up, wait a minute, because I've gone through seasons of my life where people made me feel like all the things that people love about me now those things were not even present because I didn't have access to it, because I felt so defeated.

00:51:50.791 --> 00:52:01.898
And I think that it is when we in a workplace when we trust each other, like how you said, there are things you need an eye to do.

00:52:01.898 --> 00:52:14.684
It is not I need to become all the things and do all the things, but when we trust, trust each other, we empower the people we work with to, to to be their own version, their own superheroes.

00:52:14.684 --> 00:52:19.697
Yeah, and you know I'm saying, like we empower iron man that, hey, man, go get the suit.

00:52:19.697 --> 00:52:21.623
Ain't nobody else got no suit like yours.

00:52:21.623 --> 00:52:23.072
Right, go get the suit.

00:52:23.393 --> 00:52:27.619
You know I'm saying uh, uh, hulk, bulk up.

00:52:27.619 --> 00:52:29.742
It's time, get hulk up.

00:52:29.742 --> 00:52:33.032
You know, get mad, do whatever you got to do, but we need the hulk.

00:52:33.032 --> 00:52:41.219
You know, like when in the in infinity wars, when he wasn't like showing up, he couldn't get access to it, it was all right bring out the big guy.

00:52:41.219 --> 00:52:42.449
Where's the big guy?

00:52:42.449 --> 00:52:43.994
Nobody else can be the big guy.

00:52:43.994 --> 00:52:55.152
But you know, when we treat people like that, like man, I need you to show up because can't nobody else do it like you and I don't need another me, like I don't need another version of me.

00:52:55.152 --> 00:53:12.753
But when we make it like yo, you're needed, and we make people feel value, the ways people would show up for your project, for your initiatives, for your missions, for your purposes, for your new ideas, for the thriving of the organization.

00:53:12.753 --> 00:53:21.297
The way people show up when you recognize what's in them is not only special, but it's needed and it's valued.

00:53:21.297 --> 00:53:23.121
Man, we would change the game.

00:53:23.730 --> 00:53:32.639
Yeah, you know, I want to, just if I could say something to anybody out there who is a leader a lot of leaders in this culture.

00:53:32.639 --> 00:53:36.913
First of all, in the work culture in particular, we're very task oriented.

00:53:36.913 --> 00:53:56.235
We are I think a lot of there's been a lot of books probably in the last 10 years or so talking about boundaries and, you know, vulnerability and all these things a very new concept in the workplace, right, we are still very much a task-oriented culture when it comes to working.

00:53:56.235 --> 00:54:09.592
So a lot of leaders, people that have leadership positions and have decision-making authority, have very task like you promote people who are task-oriented, because that's the type of culture that a lot of us are in.

00:54:09.592 --> 00:54:15.114
Uh, if I and I am one of those people I am a task oriented individual, I'm a task oriented leader.

00:54:15.114 --> 00:54:19.027
In my in both my natural and adaptive state, I am about tasks.

00:54:19.791 --> 00:54:49.802
Um, so one thing that I would I would really encourage uh, anyone who is like that to unlearn is that tasks are more important to develop than people you have to unlearn that, because that's not true and you're going to go against the culture, right, we're going against the grain in that because, for most people especially, you know we're in a capitalist society, so we want to stack the coins, we want to stack the resources, we want to stack the resources you want to.

00:54:49.802 --> 00:54:52.085
This is what we, this is what we're trained to do.

00:54:52.085 --> 00:54:54.858
Most people in leadership positions are trained to do that.

00:54:54.858 --> 00:55:02.981
I want to challenge you to unlearn that, and also I want to challenge you to slow your pace down.

00:55:02.981 --> 00:55:17.699
If there's two things that I've learned as a leader in the last four years, it is I've got to focus my energy on developing people more than the task, and in order to do that, I have to slow down.

00:55:17.699 --> 00:55:31.353
And it is not a natural tendency and it's not a natural tendency for a lot of people who are in leadership decisionmaking positions because you feel the need to move quickly, because you got to get this done and that done.

00:55:31.353 --> 00:55:46.454
But if your team is not running at the pace you are, then those things that you're the way you want to grow can't happen, because you can't do it by yourself.

00:55:46.454 --> 00:55:51.519
And so understand that when you, when you do slow down, you slow down.

00:55:51.601 --> 00:55:57.438
For the reason of building a team, you actually are putting yourself in a position to run faster and get more done.

00:55:57.438 --> 00:56:01.376
But you have to take that moment of slowing down and see value in that.

00:56:01.376 --> 00:56:06.655
If you have somebody on your team who you see is better, give them that responsibility.

00:56:06.655 --> 00:56:08.219
Be honest about it.

00:56:08.219 --> 00:56:11.076
Don't feel like just because you're in, you're in charge.

00:56:11.076 --> 00:56:12.177
You got to figure that out.

00:56:12.177 --> 00:56:23.793
If you, if you have somebody like a Jaquita even if they don't, they're not a decision maker I'm serious Like and I've had to learn how to do that, Even if they're not a decision maker I've got somebody on my team right now.

00:56:23.793 --> 00:56:32.251
She's not technically a decision maker, but she understands the value of of growth and development as a team and she'll.

00:56:32.251 --> 00:56:33.175
She asked me the other day.

00:56:33.175 --> 00:56:35.695
She was like when are we going to do our next team, our next retreat?

00:56:35.695 --> 00:56:40.942
I'll tell you right now, the retreat is the last thing on my mind.

00:56:41.692 --> 00:56:45.242
I mean it really, I don't even go through the year thinking about it until somebody brings it up.

00:56:45.242 --> 00:56:51.112
So I've said hey, if you can.

00:56:51.112 --> 00:56:52.717
So even we were together the past earlier this week.

00:56:52.717 --> 00:56:56.086
You know what are some ideas you have.

00:56:56.086 --> 00:57:03.413
Well, we talked about it, I, and I said I need you to help me with that because it's not going to be something that's top of mind for me.

00:57:03.413 --> 00:57:13.050
She said I got you, give them that right, give them that responsibility, let them help you.

00:57:13.050 --> 00:57:15.172
Don't feel like you're less of a leader for that.

00:57:15.193 --> 00:57:18.202
And those are just things I've had to unlearn about being in this role and be having that kind of dominant personality.

00:57:18.202 --> 00:57:21.476
Like, just because you have a dominant personality doesn't mean you're the best at everything.

00:57:21.476 --> 00:57:26.760
Like, and that can kind of you know it, can, it can be perceived that way.

00:57:26.760 --> 00:57:37.597
You also can run people over to where they don't think that they have the voice that you have, and sometimes you got to pull back so that that people can realize, no, no, no, I want you.

00:57:37.597 --> 00:57:43.081
It's not just that I'm, I need you to do this, I want you to do this Like, have like.

00:57:43.081 --> 00:57:55.802
That affirmation is very important, but I just that was that's for my people who are like me and if you in leadership position, it is more than likely that's probably a little bit how you are.

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Well, and and I feel like I want to give like a little message to the people who are like me, you know, because I think that one of the I think the thing that ultimately held me back for such a long time was that I was stuck in this victim, villain motif where I was so felt, so constricted and refined and kind of pushed down by, like, really, the D and the C, the D, you know, and um, and so I took on this victim personality and I made all of my conversations were about how I was a victim of, of not being understood, or I was a victim of not being, you know, valued or prioritized.

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And when you live in that space, because sometimes when you are a person that is constantly thinking about how to make people better, it is really hard for you to understand how to make yourself better, like that is not something that you, that you naturally do, and so it's much easier to focus on the people that you feel like you can't help, on the people that you feel like you can't help.

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And I think for me that became such a huge thing because I could not get these dominant personalities around me, and there were many.

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I could not get them to listen to me and I could not get them to see how, like you are missing like a whole spectrum of understanding, people and community and engagement.

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Like you are missing it.

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But because I felt like I was constantly under attack and I saw them.

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I didn't see them as villains, but if I was the victim, they was going to be the villain.

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You know what I'm saying.

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And so I saw myself as being beat down, run down.

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You know all of these things.

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It was difficult until I gave myself the empowerment of Jaquita.

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You are not a victim.

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Like you have the ability like, forget all of that.

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Like these people do not have as much control and input into who you are as you are giving them.

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You are giving it away.

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And sometimes people with that dominant personality, it's easy to just give in.

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It's easy to be like, oh okay, cool, you don't want to do a retreat, we don't need no retreat.

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It's easy.

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It's easy.

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You know what I'm saying.

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If you were in a different phase of your life, you could have said we're too busy for a retreat.

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You know, we'll look at next year.

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You know, and people of my personality types it is difficult to stand up to that sometimes, and so you have to when you see yourself as I'm not a victim, you know, I am a person who brings value and adds to this community and to the project and to the productivity and to the task Like what I'm doing adds value to the task.

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When you see yourself like that, you will be able to stand in your full authority and say hey, no, it's necessary that we do this.

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Let me tell you why.

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And say hey, no, it's necessary that we do this.

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Let me tell you why.

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When you don't see them as the villain or as the bad guy, but as the hey, no, we really need to work together.

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Let me step up.

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And sometimes, with a person who has a dominant personality, you do have to learn how to step up.

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Yeah, because they're not going to stop being dominant.

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That's right.

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And if you just giving everything away and giving in and giving in and never adding your input and never letting your voice be heard and never saying, what about the people?

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What about this, what about that?

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That you are preventing that person from growing?

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That's right from growing.

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That's right.

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By being quiet and by just giving in, you prevent that person from the necessary refinement that they need.

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And so drop that villain, victim mentality and step into everything that you're supposed to and be your full, authentic self and let your light shine.

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Come on, let your light shine.

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That's good, I knew it was coming.

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I knew it was coming.

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I'm going to let it shine.

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I knew it was coming.

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Very good, this, this has been really good.

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I this is actually again.

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This has helped me, man.

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Like I'm sitting here and I'm like, okay, all right, I got to.

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I do need to work on some.

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I still got things to work on.

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You know Me too, and and knowing that it's it is okay, like we still got to, I love.

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I love what you said.

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All right, queena, you have to skedaddle, so we are going to be finished, hey but before I go, all right, y'all listen to it.

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You were uplifted, you were made better.

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All right, don't keep it to yourself.

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All right, go ahead.

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We need y'all to like the post.

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All right, give us the little heart.

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Okay, what the young folk be doing?

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They be doing, they be throwing up gang signs and stuff.

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Okay, just a simple heart.

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You see how that's hard.

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That's all you need, right, like, share, subscribe, comment.

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We want to hear from you guys, you know, and if you see us in the street, say what's up.

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You know I love talking to y'all for real yep, like y'all.

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Y'all already do that.

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Um, all right y'all.

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So catch us next week for another uh unlearning personality session with uh ra and jaquita.

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But until then, we will keep unlearning together so that we together can experience more freedom.

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We'll see y'all later Peace.

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