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let's go.
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What's up everybody?
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It's uh, wait a minute, I'll jack that up.
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Hold on.
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What's my intro.
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What's up everybody, and welcome once again to the alert podcast.
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Yeah, that's right, I'm your host, ruth abigail aka ra what's up, friends?
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it's your girl, jaquita yo, and this is indeed the podcast that is helping you to gain the courage to change your mind so that you, yes, you, yes, you experience just hallelujah.
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Yes, lord, freedom.
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All right, all right, all right, all right, all right, all right.
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So we're in a series, we're talking about unlearning personality, we're using different assessments to talk about this particular topic.
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So far, well, dang Ruth, no check in, I'm jumping in.
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You know what I'm saying.
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I feel like we, okay, all right, the water.
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If the water is stirring, you know what I'm saying.
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If the water is stirring, we're going to get there.
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You know what I'm saying.
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In the water, we were going to get there.
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You know what I'm saying.
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We were going to get to the check in, but I was just trying to, like you know, recap, set them up.
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Go ahead and set them up, recap.
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So we unlearned about personalities, and so this week we'll talk about a particular assessment that a lot of you may have taken maybe have not, but before we get there, how are you, jaquita?
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I'm doing fantastic.
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Thank you for asking.
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It's been, you know, a good week, but definitely, you know, these personality conversations have been coming in handy because starting a new job, oh yeah, and being at this middle adult age, let me tell y'all something starting a new job at 37, almost 38, is way different than when I was in my 20s, that's fair, you know.
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First of all, all that excitement and rah, rah, rah, it's like, hey, what do I need to do?
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Let me tell you something.
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Let me tell you something.
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Hello, friends, people that I work with, I don't need no family.
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Let me get in.
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Let me get in and get a job done and get home okay, you know, not a family, we ain't gotta do all that listen, listen, listen, listen.
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But you know what my new workplace is so much quieter than my last one.
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Anyway, like everybody, and I went from working in a space where there was a lot of young adults and three middle adults and now it's a few middle adults and grown, grown folk.
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Like they, grown, grown, like some of them like hey, about to retire in a few years.
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You know, I started meeting with all of the directors because I'm a director in this space.
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I was meeting with all the other directors and it was like was like yeah, close to retirement, thank you, man.
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And I'm like I have arrived, conversations have changed, and so knowing my personality and where I sit on all these assessments has been really helpful, because I can tell you exactly who I am.
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Well, listen, it ain't going to do that.
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Well, it ain't gonna take two years to learn me here.
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Here it is, here I go, I know that's right, like for real yeah um all right.
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How have you been, ruth?
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I've been good.
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You know I'm saying um, I've been good, I I have my tea on this, this particular come on here recording so we got a little tea.
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On one of the recordings we uh, I didn't have my tea and you got to listen to it to know why.
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But um, now I do and I feel better.
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Immediately I think I've taken four sips.
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I thought that's not good.
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You know, I'm saying like that's not good.
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I should be able to just be who I need to be with with a drink of water and some.
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You know well, you know good rest, but not so, not so.
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Let me tell you something I told.
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I told the people I'm about to be a coffee drinker, like I'm.
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I say, yeah, I'm about to, I'm about to start a coffee habit, like I'm about to start a habit.
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Because, listen, listen, it's getting harder and harder to know live without the things.
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And somebody was like ask me.
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They was like so wait, you don't, you have no caffeine habits.
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No, I don't have to have soda.
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No, tea no, no, it's not no, because I'd be tired the first two hours of every day.
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That's a good thing that's a good thing man um water ain't enough probably just need more electrolytes that's probably what it is honestly.
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So, quita, what?
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What assessment are we talking about today?
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listen, we're talking about the assessment that put the workplaces on fire.
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Okay, immediately, it had us all looking at each other like, oh so that's why you the way you is, that's why you get on my nerves.
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All right, Everybody, we're talking about the disc assessment.
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All right, Y'all.
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Some of you may remember taking it, all right, Listen, I know for me.
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I was working at Girl Scouts when I took it and we were all side-eyeing each other like that makes sense, that's funny set the workplace on fire?
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it does, I think that.
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So we, if you haven't watched it yet, check out our our talk about strength finders, which is also used a lot in the workplace.
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But it's a very different test.
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That strength finders is really about.
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You kind of um you being about like gifts and skill sets yeah, gifts and skill sets.
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This test is about behaviors and temperament and and it it's very the, the, the context of this is communal, right, and it's not like.
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It's not that these others aren't, but this is where, like when it comes to your personality and particularly your, your personality when it comes to um, a lot of times in the work environment, it is a communal assessment.
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So you understanding you is also you understanding how you behave around other different types, and it's what makes it, as Jaquita said, on fire.
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It's what makes it set on fire because you start to realize like, oh man, like, anyway, we'll get into it.
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It's crazy.
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So, if you haven't heard of it, disc it stands for four different words Dominant, influencing, steady and conscientious.
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Okay, dominant, influencing, steady and conscientious, disc.
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So when you take it, you will be rated with those four different words and you'll kind of be rated like from a scale of high style to low style, right, and it kind of it rates you in between.
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So we're going to tell you what we are and once again, let's not uh, spoiler alert we are the exact opposite of course, in everything and everything it is actually kind of wild.
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So I am a high d, meaning when I I am actually yeah, I'm a very high d, I'm not just, I'm a very on the scale.
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It goes from high, very high to high style.
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I'm a very high d.
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So I am like in the red.
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That means that I have my.
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That D stands for dominant.
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Okay, and we'll go over what that means.
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I'll tell you, when I first took it, I did not appreciate it.
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I was like who, dominant, who like that?
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I feel that I feel I feel attacked, like I, you know, and I didn't appreciate it.
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So I'm a high D and I'm also a high C, all right.
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So I'm a high D and I'm also a high C.
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My Lord, all right.
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So what are you?
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Listen, I'm a high, I OK, I am.
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We are enthusiastic, we are energy driven because we are trying to influence atmospheres and influence kind of like the mood of a room and like the mood of the people.
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Like we want to inspire, we want to motivate, we want to pump people up, and so that's very much where I sit most of the time.
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And what do you know?
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What your second one is?
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My second one is S, which is kind of the one that is really focused on, like, building structures, making plans right, we're steady, all right.
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Slow and steady, all right.
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We like to kind of, you know, build and think through and ideate and like, but we're not quick to move, but we're quick, we're, we're really good at building, kind of the underpinning of a thing.
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That's really good, that's really good.
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So as a d?
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Um I am.
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So what, what it?
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What it how it describes the d is work towards achieving goals and results.
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Absolutely, uh, they function best in active and challenging environments.
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100, that describes me very well.
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When I read it I was like all right, fine, I have to take that fine, I'll be this and then conscientious is.
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It says work towards doing things right and focus on detail, and they function best in structured and early environments.
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And so I definitely have both of those I I.
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At first I identified more with the conscientious than the dominant, because, in my mind, dominant.
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I'll be totally honest with y'all and let me preface this by saying my mom is one of my biggest role models.
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I love her so much but growing up I just was like I don't, my mom is a, my mom, I'm a high d.
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My mom is the highest d.
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She's way higher than I am on that scale, and I don't know that she has another letter.
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Pretty sure that's the only letter she's got.
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So I, growing up, it was like my mom was very, she was very dominant.
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It was very much like you know all the things about a D.
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She was at the top of and I was like yo, like I don't want to be like that.
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Like you know, you know, especially as a kid, you always get in trouble or you know you're getting criticized for something or you need to do this better, we need to make this so, but you know, be here on time, or whatever you know, and it was just like uh-uh.
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No, I don't want to do that, but you are who you come from, amen it is just what it is.
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It shows up, it's just what it is, and so I've realized.
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But I also realized that, like, a lot of why she was that way is because she, she, cares so much about us being well, and it's like you know that it, this, this is what it's going to take for you to be well, for the house to be well, for the house to be well, for everybody around us to be well, even if you don't like it.
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I'm okay with that.
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I'm doing this for your best good, and I began to realize that so like.
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But so when I read this, I associate that particular trait with my mother and I rejected it immediately.
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I am not my mom, this is me.
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it can't be and then I read it and I was like, oh man, I definitely am.
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Uh, my dad is also a high d, they're both, they're both.
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They're both very so.
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I, it comes on us.
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Just like I can't.
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It's just like I can't help it, would you say what do you know?
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Can you see where yours comes from?
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like um I would say I think my mom is a d.
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I think my mom has more, though, more of that dominance characteristic, but I think that she also has, like some of the s, like I think that she is steady, structured and you know s is, I think, tend to be a little bit more mild, tempered um, and I think can, like, exude, kindness and care for sure, in that way um, and so I definitely think I see some of that.
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I don't know about my dad.
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My dad is so reserved sometimes it's hard, not definitely not dominant um, I can see my dad having, maybe, like he probably has some eye, like he, he, I think, but I think he does it very intellectually, which is me too, you know, but I have way more energy than my dad.
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Like I'm a, I'm a pump up a crowd.
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My dad is like I said what I said go be inspired.
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I said it three minutes ago.
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I have nothing else, you know.
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So, like I definitely think that that there there are.
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But I, what I have learned, and which may be the first thing that I've unlearned, is kind of like than previous, because I had to take charge, and when I get into, especially like when I walk up to an event and things are not right immediately I engaging like hosts and, like you know, like leads of events and things, and I was telling them that I went to this one event and we thought it was going to be 200 people and there were 400.
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And it was like goat yoga.
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So we got the goats people grabbing goats, carrying goats all over the place it's 400 people.
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They're there an hour and a half early, like standing in line waiting to do goat yoga, and I was just like I went into full like dominant mode, like I was in the mic.
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I was like, excuse me, if you holding a goat, I need you back in the fence.
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Like I was not playing.
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And then I had to go back and like bring out my eyeself and like so, after I like gave all these rules and stuff, I came, came back and I was like who's ready to have some fun?
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Huh, who's ready for a good time?
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Right, yeah, thank y'all.
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But it's like an event mode.
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I switch and like we say that in the office that I was in previously, like there is like you have like your regular person, and then you have event Jaquita.
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So you have Jaquita, like you have office Jaquita.
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Then you have event Jaquita and you have to get to know event Jaquita, cause she, she different, she different.
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So you make the.
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I'm so glad you did that because you make a very this is brings us into a very um, you know important understanding about this.
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So when you take this test, you actually depending on the level of test you take right?
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I happen to take it in a leadership development course and so they really broke down every I mean, I have a 46 page document right.
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The two things that it measured were your natural style and your adaptive style, and what Queda was talking about was the difference between her natural style and adaptive style.
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So you'll see that you naturally, naturally, you adapt right.
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Especially again and I always want to draw this back because, again, those of you that are listening to this podcast if you are an unlearner, okay, then you are interested in growing and maturing and getting better and moving to the next level.
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Your mindset, like you, want a mindset shift in order to gain the freedom in the season that you're in.
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That's going to take some unlearning, which means you're growing right, and so, naturally, that type of person is going to learn and wants to learn how to adapt into their situation and adapt into what it is that they're doing.
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So you are probably adapting a lot in this season of your life which is going to be different than who you would be if you were in a, you know, just in your natural kind of laid back state where you didn't have any real expectations of you, there was nothing that you were tasked to do.
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There's, you know, you don't have a real high level leadership role or whatever that might be.
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If you're in that area at Thanksgiving, right, you may not be the person who's getting the food together, versus at your job, you may have a leadership role, but at Thanksgiving I say in my situation, my aunt is the leader.
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She does that.
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I chill, I walk in the house, I sit back, I eat food.
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I don't have any decisions I got to make, I don't have any orders I have to give, I don't have to check in with nobody.
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I could just be me.
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So a lot of how I am in the workplace is totally different in a situation where somebody else is in charge.
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But when I'm in charge, I look different, right?
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Like Queda was saying, when she's in charge she looks different, versus when she's not in charge, she looks different.
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So your style is either you adapt to your adaptive style, your natural style.
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So I happen to have mine in front of me.
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I'll give you an example of, like my, the D and the C, which are my top ones, don't change really much, like they're still at the top.
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But for the I, cuida's highest is my lowest.
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So for for me, the, the I is very low in my natural style, very low in my natural style.
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I am not, you know, that idea of creating, you know, social synergy and you know I'm, you know life of the enthusiasm high that that ain't me right.
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That's not who I am, but in a my adaptive style, because of the role I have of leading an organization, I got to have a little bit of that.
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It's still not high, but it's higher than I would be just as plain old with Abigail at her house.
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Right and same for the S.
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The S is lower.
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I actually am.
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I am perfectly fine with going with the flow.
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Most days I don't have to have a plan like we can just move days I don't have to have a plan like we can just move, but it when as a leader, that's not, that's not the case, like I have to have a plan, right, I gotta have a structure.
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You have to be able to communicate that structure.
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Again, it's, it's much higher than just in my, in my, in my lowest, you know, in my regular state.
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So is quita, what I think, what you described is exactly what that is, exactly what that was like.
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You know, jacquita versus office, jacquita versus at home jacquita right like listen.
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Totally, at home, jacquita is so chill, you know, um, I I think there's something about, like the social setting that just like turns things on.
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Yeah, you know, like, like and like.
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I think that, like as you, it's kind of like as you enter into different environments, like it is like hitting buttons on the inside of you.
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Um, because when I get to work, it is immediately like I was especially in my last position where there were so many young adults, young leaders.
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Um, there were so many young adults, young leaders.
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I was constantly like in encouraging mode and hyping them up and helping them to sit down, think through the problems, come up with strategies, you know, but at home, jaquita is like we chilling, like, and I have spent all my energy and I don't feel the need to do those things.
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There's also nobody at home.
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Ain't nobody here, okay, so there's nobody to turn anything on for.
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So, um, but I would say, like with my friends, like I don't feel the need to inspire y'all, you know, like I'm not, like I'm sorry sometimes.
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First of all, we need inspiration y'all be all right, but I don't feel like it's not something that always just turns on like.
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I'm more so thinking through life with you.
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You know and and pondering, and, and I think I pull more on my s?
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Like.
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I think that that's more of like, my S like.
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Let's think through, let's engage.
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You know thoughts and you know figure out the structure of things.
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Versus, when I am in a place where performance is expected, I immediately turn into that I, and when there is, when I'm in a space where there is a larger thing at stake, I can be a little controlling.
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But up until then, I think I think anybody who has ever worked for me will tell you that, like yo, she really let me have it Like my ideas, the things that I wanted to do.
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Like she let me do it Like.
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I was never like pushing, pushy when it came to them making their plans, amir, what do you want to do, tiana, what you want to do?
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You know, darby, what you doing.
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You know, like, and they would just sit down and like, detail out to me what they want to do and I was kind of not critiquing it, but helping them to like give shape to their ideas.
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It wasn't until I got to the thing that I was like all right, all the things haven't been you know, sure you know, and it wasn't even that they hadn't thought of things.
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It's just my mind, I think.
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In the fight or flight mode I think I have more fight than I than I previously realized.
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Like, when things happen, I'm like yo, what we doing?
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Yeah, like I rarely run unless it's an animal, but otherwise y'all, there was a frog in my garage, yeah oh my gosh, it was like no, it wasn't even.
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It doesn't matter.
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It doesn't matter.
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I have not parked in my garage, oh, in months.
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Okay, because the idea of getting out of my car and that frog being near my feet stressed me out.
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Okay, my car in the driveway right now.
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Okay, because I can't do it.
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I cannot do it.
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Animals just freak me out.
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I haven't been in my backyard in years just because there's a creek that runs back.
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I don't know what's out there.
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I let the yard man deal with that.
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Don't even tell me.
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No, that frog stressed me out and my neighbor and her three-year-old were walking around my garage trying to get it and I was just standing back there like y'all got it, I can't do it, I cannot do it.
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I can't, I can't do it, I just I cannot do it.
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A three-year-old yeah.
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She was like come on, you've held a frog before and the little three-year-old was running around and I was like I'm so grateful but nevertheless, nevertheless, like I have learned that like my fight or flight mode is fight and I think that, like when I get in those situations and there's a lot going on or there's like a critical emergency or something is happening, I had a student, we were at an event and this student was about to pass out and immediately I went into let's take care of it mode, Like and it was so funny because I walked on her and I was trying to get her to a chair and she just fell on me like in my arms, was like I'm so tired and I was like mama here, baby, mama here you're really making me.
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So this is, this is interesting because and I'm scrolling through because I want to I want to make sure there's a, there's a particular um, I think that's.