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Nov. 19, 2024

Talks With Middle Adults: Unlocking Team Potential Through The Working Genius Assessment, Leveraging Strengths for Success, and Fostering Authentic Leadership

Talks With Middle Adults: Unlocking Team Potential Through The Working Genius Assessment, Leveraging Strengths for Success, and Fostering Authentic Leadership
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Unlock the secrets to maximizing your unique talents with us on the UnlearnT Podcast, where we explore the transformative power of the Working Genius Assessment by Patrick Lencioni. We promise you'll gain a fresh perspective on how to harness your strengths to boost teamwork and productivity, whether in professional settings or organizing personal projects. Through engaging stories from our own experiences, we illustrate how recognizing and leveraging individual "geniuses" can lead to more successful collaborations and remarkable outcomes.


Chapters

00:04 - Discovery of Working Geniuses

09:35 - Navigating Working Geniuses in Teamwork

21:28 - Nurturing Team Geniuses for Success

31:44 - Fostering Genius in Team Leadership

43:05 - Empowering Team Members to Shine

48:55 - Seizing Your Moment of Genius

52:15 - Embracing and Nurturing Team Geniuses

01:03:07 - Building Trust and Balancing Geniuses

Transcript
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well, hello everybody, and welcome once again to the unlearned podcast.

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I'm your host, ruth abigail aka ra what up, peeps?

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it's your girl, jaquita and this is the podcast that is helping you gain the courage to change your mind so that you can experience more freedom.

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And and, yeah, we are in our series on learning personality and look, we've gotten a lot of good feedback from you all.

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We've got some really good, I think, thoughts and conversations and comments.

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So y'all keep liking and commenting and sharing and subscribing and following to the unlearned podcast 're really, really appreciative of that.

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if you watch youtube, make sure to like the video.

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It helps get the video out so that other people, new people, can catch it, uh, and so, yeah, man, like this is we, we are, we're in this thing with y'all, we really appreciate y'all, so we just we want to, we want you, um to uh continue to let us know what, what, what you're thinking about, what we're doing, what we're talking about.

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For sure, and it's always.

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It helps us to learn more about what's connecting with people and like, where are, like, high points in the conversation?

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Are, like, the points that are really, like you know, resonating with the community?

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You know we're part of the community too, so we know what's resonating with us.

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Correct, but you know we want to know what's resonating with you guys.

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Correct Um, alright, so Queda, what's up you doing?

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Alright, I'm doing pretty good, ruth.

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Abigail, I'm doing pretty good.

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Ready to dig deeper?

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Okay, ready to dig and learn and grow Learn and grow.

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Dig learn and grow.

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Dig learn and grow.

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And so, okay, we've been in this Learning Personality Series and we've been using personality assessments to have the conversation around.

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Wait, what just happened?

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We just lost it.

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I don't know what happened, joy if you could just edit that.

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No, I don't know what happened.

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We absolutely cannot edit it out.

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No, it's okay, move on.

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Excellent, very good, okay, good.

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So so, yes, so yes, we're, we're doing personality and we're doing assessments and we have done um several so far.

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So if you haven't, if you haven't listened to any, go back and listen to some, but today we're this is, I think, our newest one like newest, newest kid on the block.

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As far as the assessment is concerned, yes, I don't.

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I mean, a lot of people may not have heard about it.

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It is brand new, like it's only like.

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I would like to say I consider myself to be an expert in personality assessments and I had not heard of this one, so y'all are, y'all are getting this one fresh off the press yeah, this is new press.

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This is new.

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I was introduced to it through through a podcast that I listened to called the Art of Leadership Podcast with Carrie Newhoff Excellent podcast and an author and speaker his name is Patrick Lencioni has introduced this to the world.

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It is called the Working Genius Assessment the working genius um assessment, and so what it assesses is six working geniuses that everybody has.

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Uh, this is what we've talked a lot about.

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Um, uh, a lot of the assessments, and most assessments are really, uh, looking at how, how you as an individual works, looking into just the way that you are, your strengths, your personality, the way that you communicate, the way that you handle conflict and all these things, and so this is really designed to help people understand how they work in the context of a team, and particularly how they work in the context of a team, and particularly how they work in the context of a team that is working towards something right, that is doing something uh specific.

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So the the core focus is really helping people um understand how they fit in a team setting, and so you can really see this clearly when you're looking at, like, like you're working on a project right together and you're trying to accomplish something, and these working, you can see these working geniuses in that.

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So this is not just for work, right, I mean, this could be.

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You, could, you could.

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This could be useful for planning, planning a vacation, right.

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Planning planning a vacation right.

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Uh, we, we, my, my group of friends, um, of which quita is a part, uh, we try to do some version of a trip every year and try, try being the operative word this is tough and even in this, even in this moment, I'm thinking like I wonder if we all take this and then apply it, I wonder if we'll actually get the trip done.

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Yo, let's do it like for real.

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Yeah, I really think that could work because I think that could make for an amazing time like yeah because we've been trying to do a group, we haven't done a full group trip in like what a long number of years since before people had kids.

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So yeah, oh, shoot, that's probably six years.

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So we gotta figure this out.

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So, like, it can be used for that.

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It can be used for that.

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It can be used for family stuff.

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It can be used.

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It can obviously be used for work.

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It can be used for something that you want to.

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You know, maybe you're planning a conference with your church, or maybe you have an idea that you want to see put out into the world.

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This podcast is a great example.

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Like all, like the three of us, you know who work on this thing.

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Um, we all have working geniuses in order to produce this podcast, right, and so we all find ourselves in our, in our space, and we, we, we bring it to the table, and then there is a uh something at the end that we could see the tangible that we all worked for.

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So that's really what this particular assessment helps you to do.

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How do you work in the context of a team that's trying to get something done?

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Um, so there are six different geniuses that, uh, that this assessment, um, tries to lay out.

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All right, so I'm going to go through all of them and then, for each one, when you take it, you'll basically get a dominant and a secondary, uh, and, and then we'll we'll go from there and then we'll share with what you take it.

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You'll basically get a dominant and a secondary, and then we'll go from there.

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Then we'll share with what ours are.

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So you have the first one wonder, okay, wonder.

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The description of that is people with the genius wonder I'm sorry, genius of wonder are naturally curious, asking big questions.

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They see potential spots, gaps, and envision what can be improved.

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They're the people that like to think of the big idea right.

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Then you have invention.

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Right, you have people that love creating solutions.

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These are your problem solvers, who really are going to take that idea and say, okay, this is how we're going to get there, this is the thing that needs to happen in order to do what it is.

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You're thinking about All right, and then you have discernment the people who have a strong sense of intuition and judgment.

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They evaluate ideas and decisions quickly.

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They see what will and won't work.

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Then you have galvanizing.

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These are the people that get the team excited about doing the thing.

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Okay, they are rallying people, they generate energy and they inspire action.

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And then you have enablement.

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These are the people that want to actually make the thing happen.

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These are your ground workers.

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These are your.

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Give me the scissors.

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Let me cut up the letters.

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These are the.

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You know I'm going to do this right.

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You need those people, you need those people right.

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They are ready to support the, the, the, the vision.

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They want to.

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They want to put their hands to something.

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Um, and then you have the tenacity.

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These are the people that make sure it gets done.

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These are the people that that that aren't going to let you stop in the middle of the project.

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They're going to remind you of the deadline.

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They're going to say, hey, y'all we have, this is due on on on November 12th.

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It is now November 8th.

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When?

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How are we going to get this done?

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Right, they are committed to finishing the project, all right.

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So those are your, those are your six.

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So, queda, tweet up.

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Which ones are you?

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All right, friends, let me tell you which one I am.

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I am not that tenacity person.

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I'm not reminding nobody, no, deadline.

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Usually, you know, when I had a team I no longer have a team, which is a very different place to be when I had a team they were the ones reminding me there's a hey, you know, we got this thing.

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I'm like oh yeah, we got the thing.

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But I am the discerner right, so naturally gifted to use intuition and instincts to like.

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And it was interesting because I was like no, I'm an ideator, like I'm really good at you know, creating ideas.

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No, I'm really good at assessing ideas.

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I'm really good at seeing what's on the table and figuring out what to do.

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Like my ideas are sparked by what's already there.

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Like I don't just sit in a void and be like you know what?

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I want to create a podcast.

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That would be Ruth Abigail.

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Okay, what I'm good at doing is saying here's how we're going to make that thing work and here's some things we can do once we get in there.

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So discernment and then galvanizing, I'm going to make that thing work and here's some things we can do once we get in there.

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So discernment and then galvanizing.

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I'm going to get you energized about it.

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I'm going to inspire and motivate the people.

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All right, everybody's going to leave pumped.

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You know what they used to have.

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So when you work in higher ed, right, every higher ed place I've worked at and nonprofit place I've worked at the United Way campaign is like a huge deal, like where United Way is going to all of the partner agencies and like getting them to raise money from their staff.

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When Girl Scouts figured out that I could be the one to get the money out of people's pockets, oh, they were like Jaquita, go do the thing thing.

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And I was like I want to show you guys a video a woman on the street crashed over by the waves, you know, and by the end of it, tears.

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Okay, by the end of me doing my plea for people to bring that money out of their pockets, they were, they were galvanized, okay, so, yeah, those are definitely my two.

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And then so, like you have, like your working genius and then your working competency, I can and am capable of doing the innovation piece or the invention piece and the enablement, and then wonder absolutely not that curiosity piece, that's all.

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Ruth, abigail, you want somebody who's curious?

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Call Ruth Do me I'm not curious for sure, and so, once again, we uh the only one that we don't have between us, the only one that is like a solid, uh, working, uh, like one that's just very frustrating, so like she's a working genius, working, compet, and then things that just frustrate you, that tenacity part is not.

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We need neither one of us have that at all.

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I ain't got time for that Because we're millennials.

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I told y'all about the.

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I told y'all last week about the millennial managers.

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Okay, but there are.

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It is necessary, like all these different geniuses are are essential, right that that's like, if you didn't have the tenacious people, we just be floating out here with unfinished products and unfinished ideas and just moving on to the next thing and that's not helping anybody and so we gotta have that it.

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But it doesn't represent like so we have to have that person and, quite frankly, y'all have been introduced to producer joy.

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I'm pretty sure producer joy is that uh, you know what?

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you know what which is absolutely oh wait a minute, the light bulbs are firing off.

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Absolutely.

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Let me tell y'all something joy gets so frustrated when we come on here.

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We're like, okay, we're just gonna freestyle joy's like you.

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You will not, you trifling so and so, through this and no here's the plan and here's what you're actually gonna do here's how long we listen and she lets us know how long we have and how long we've been into the podcast, and she'll make sure that we're aware that, so that we can at some point this thing has to be done like what y'all don't know is that joy also gives us a grade after every she does, after every taping she's like.

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We rarely get a's minus.

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Yeah, yeah, me and ruth abigail, we'll leave.

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That was the one, that was the.

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We changed the game with that, enjoy.

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She does.

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We love you, joy, we love Joy, and we love it because it's so necessary.

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It all works together.

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Now, it is not always easy, right, because we're very different, and we'll get into this later in the conversation, but you have to allow.

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You have to allow.

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Joy is loving this later in the conversation.

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But, like you have to allow, you have to allow.

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Joy is loving this, by the way.

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She's absolutely loving the fact that we are talking about her and she can't respond, and so we and so you have to allow everybody's genius to work right, because it's what makes the thing that you're trying to put out the best right.

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And so.

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I am.

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One wonder in my two top two geniuses is wonder and invention.

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I am, I am, I am the starter, I am the one who comes up with the idea, I'm the one who says, okay, um, like, like, this podcast is a great example, I want to start a podcast and let's, and this is what the podcast is going to be about.

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And and you know, like I've gotten, I had notes and notes of ideas and different ways to think about it, and every day I'm going back and I'm I'm writing things down and I'm rephrasing stuff, I'm just thinking about it.

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I'm listening to other podcasts and getting ideas from them and you know all those things, right.

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And then the invention part comes with what, what does this, how this podcast is going to look?

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What, what, what are the nuances of this versus that?

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Like, what is it that I really want to talk about?

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What is it that we really want to?

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You know, kind of, try to change in the world, right, um, and how are we going to use the podcast to do that?

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Uh, the other, you know what, what are the I come, I come.

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I've told, I've mentioned several times to joy, it's like we want to.

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You know all these different other ideas like let's do uh, there are certain things with the podcast that I want to do.

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I'm not gonna give them away today, but there's certain things with the podcast that I would like to do that I have thrown out there that I know are I'm.

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It's gonna need other geniuses to really move it along, because at my best, I'm coming up with the idea, I'm communicating it and I'm, a lot of times, framing it in a way that makes sense.

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My working competencies are the discernment and galvanizing.

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I can do that.

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That is something I'm able to do, and the frustrating pieces for me are the enablement.

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I am not the person to cut the paper.

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Don't ask me to do that.

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I am not that.

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Don't ask me to do that, like I, I am not that I am.

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The other day, uh, we were writing thank you notes for, um, our, our donors, right For the luncheon that we had and I had my job.

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Like art was like okay, we got to get these thank you notes out.

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Uh, I want the kids to write some of the thank you notes.

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Um, and we thank you notes and we I've used some templates we used in the past and all this stuff, and I had to kind of like everybody did their part.

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By the time we got to the, to the center, to do the thank you notes, I started writing a note and I was like I have about one and a half minutes before I get distracted and think about something else and have somebody else come finish these notes.

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I'm not going to be able to do this for long.

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Like so the kid.

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I was like, hey, because I was going to write some of them and then the kids were going to write some, I said no, the kids going to write them all.

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Because I'm not going to be able to do it.

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And it's not that I don't want to do it, it's that my brain just doesn't stay there long enough to get it done.

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And I'm going to get a phone call or I'm going to remember I have to go send an email.

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I have to.

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You know I'm going to think about something that's going to distract me and those things aren't going to get finished.

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So you just have to know where you belong.

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I don't belong cutting paper or writing notes.

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That's not where you want me.

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You don't want me there.

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You really stuck on that cutting paper.

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I don't know.

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I feel like we need to branch out what that one looks like when I think about enabling like scissors and construction paper.

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No, that's what I think about.

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You know, I'm saying like, when I it's like excellent, it's literally they're excellent supporters.

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They're gonna like the tasks that need to get done to do the thing.

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They're the people to do that right.

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And sometimes I don't know.

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I look at that.

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I'm like man, am I a bad person?

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Because that's not.

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I'm not a good supporter like I would.

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I was like yo, like if somebody asked me to just go and hey, will you go and stuff these bags with like, and I'm like, uh, I mean, yeah, and I want to be someone who's like, of course I will stuff six bags and then something else will happen and the bags will not get stuffed and I sometimes I feel bad about that Like, but then, but again, it's just not.

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It's not my genius, you know it's not what I do.

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The thought that immediately comes up for me is that little girls were told that, like you, have to be helpful.

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Man.

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And and be like and be the person that you have to be, like the homemaker, like the, the person who's always doing the things and always serving everybody else and like, whereas sometimes little boys are like pushed to be like, hey, you get to go think and innovate and go build and be in charge, you know Like, and so I think a part of it is just like the way we're groomed and so like the guilt is coming from like that societal expectation slash norm that is like making you feel like.

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But I don't think, cause I don't think like a man is like man.

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I feel bad.

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I'm not helping them cut these little pieces of paper.

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No, they're for sure not.

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Yeah, no, they're like, that's not my job.

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Right, right, not doing that.

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That's correct.

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No, I agree, and that's a good point.

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I've never, I don't think I considered that.

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Yeah, you're socialized to believe that you should be.

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I've never, I don't think I've considered that.

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Yeah, you're socialized to believe that you should be helpful.

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You know, like, when it's for some people, like that is really natural for them.

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Like you know, I think in my, in my world, like I am willing to do because I come from the eventing world, I am willing to do whatever it takes to make sure the event goes well.

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Also, I really care about aesthetics, so we're not going to look just any kind of way.

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So, if I got to put the decorations up, I'm putting the decorations up.

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If I got to organize the chips on the table instead of somebody just throwing them on the table, I'm going to sit there and I'm going to be organizing the chips.

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Right, you know so.

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Like for me, it's feeding a greater purpose.

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Right, you know so?

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Like, for me it's feeding a greater purpose, but doing it for the sake of doing it.

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That's why it's a competency and not a genius.

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Yeah, like that's a good point I'm not excited about it, I'm just.

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I want it to look a certain way, so I'm willing to do the work that I have had to unlearn about these geniuses is that my genius isn't genius in every situation.

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So, in other words, every situation doesn't call for wonderment and invention.

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There are, there's a time, a place for that, and sometimes there's a time and a place for we just need to get this done.

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I tell people I'm not the person you call in a crisis.

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I am the person you call after the crisis, because I'm going to help you think through how do I resettle in my new reality?

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to help you think through.

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How do I settle, how do I resettle in my new reality?

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I'm not the person who's going to be able to think quickly and like, okay, we should go do this.

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This isn't this, because.

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I'm way too.

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I've got too many things going on in my head now again.

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It's not that I can't do it, but there are better people to call, like if you, if you Like, if your house is on fire, there are firefighters, and then there are constructors.

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I'm a constructor, I'm a builder, I'm not the firefighter Right, and I have to realize that, and I think it's important to know that my building brain is no good when your house is on fire.

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That's good.

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That's good Because I think that that's how we get messed up a lot of times into thinking that our gifts don't have real place and positionality, because you showed up at the fire and it's taking you a minute to move, where the people who are naturally firefighters run straight into the fire.

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They got and they got the equipment, they know what to do with their equipment, and you sitting there with a hammer and you know, and like some nails, and you're like, tell me when to go.

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And it's like tomorrow, tomorrow, come back tomorrow, you know, um, but I think, even as leaders, when we don't, when we sometimes we get so caught up in fighting the fires that we don't give place to the other people on our team that serve, that serve for pieces of the solution.

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Like, the solution is not just stop the fire.

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Right, there are some there's.

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Somebody has to be able to give CPR, somebody has to be able to, you know, to to call other resources and be able to connect people.

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Some somebody has to be able to rebuild the house.

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Somebody has to be able to call insurance, you know.

00:22:22.406 --> 00:22:46.932
But I think that that's such a a really, really good example of how, how genius works, right, like I think, uh, when you and I were talking about this earlier, we were talking about like, kind of like, when you think about a genius, it is a really profoundly and exceptionally gifted person who is like has like a real niche, right.

00:22:46.932 --> 00:22:54.692
Like when we think about like Mozart right, like he was a genius on the piano, like a genius in music.

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When we think about Serena Williams a genius on the tennis court right, if we take Serena and put her at a piano, we're not going to get a Mozart level performance.

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That's good, even if she took her time and learned her scales and learned how to play even just a little bit.

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She's not a genius at it.

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That's good, right.

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And so we get it's a full spectrum of how people are able to contribute in their genius, spectrum of how people are able to contribute in their genius.

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But we need to be mindful that it's important for us to realize that me being a genius means that I'm going to be really good in one area, but I need other people around me to catch my blind spots.

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That's correct, right.

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Like I'm not, like you know, I'm not the firefighter, I am the person that can build the house means that I need to be really mindful that I got firefighters on my team.

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That's right.

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And I don't need to be standing in their way when it's time for them to run into the fire and to get the fire going.

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I don't need to be in their way because I'm like hey guys, we need to be building, ma'am, the building's on fire.

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That's correct.

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And we stand, you know, and we stand in each other's way a lot, because we don't support each other in our genius.

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We try to teach our team hey guys, this is how you build a house.

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Hey guys, this is how you make a blueprint.

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Hey guys.

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But when the fire comes and the people who are natural firefighters comes up to you and say, hey, we need to move quickly and do this and do that, and then they just start moving, we get upset.

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That's good, but that's not your genius.

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Yes, and you need them.

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Yes, the house about to burn down.

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Yes, that's it, the whole house about to burn down.

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But you don't want to listen, don't stand in the way of your firefighters.

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Don't stand in the way of your firefighters, and that is, you know.

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I don't know if it's too early to get into this, but this leadership thing, right, what you just described, we're there now, people who are in leadership positions, who have that kind of decision-making authority and whatever your, whatever the context is, are taught often let me not say taught, are are encouraged, right, I think, sometimes unintentionally, I just you's almost as if you need to be the everything.

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You need to have all six of these, and not you need to have all six and you need to be able to direct people in all six.

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Truly the best leaders, to your point, get out of the way to let other people's geniuses work.

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Those are the best leaders to your point get out of the way to let other people's geniuses work.

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Those are the best leaders.

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But see, that does not come without having a level of respect and acknowledgement for the different gifts of the people on your team.

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That's right.

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And I will tell you the honest truth In previous work experiences I have felt one of the most difficult things to overcome was knowing that the genius are my level of discernment, especially discernment.

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People love galvanizing.

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Oh, jaquita, you're so energetic.

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Oh, jaquita, you really just pump up the crowd.

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Oh, you really just make events and things so fun and exciting.

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But when it came to me discerning and saying, hey, here are the flaws, here are the things that can cause us to crumble, my mind is working overtime, going into the future, saying, hey, this is a threat, this is a threat, this is an opportunity, this is a threat, this is an opportunity.

00:26:52.596 --> 00:26:57.755
Like, I'm constantly in that flow and I'm constantly communicating to people.

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Hey, I see threats and opportunities all around.

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We have an opportunity to take this thing 10 times farther than where it is right now.

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But here are the things that are going to threaten our progress.

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Right, that's natural for me to operate in that realm when I'm constantly giving feedback and I'm constantly pointing to the things that need to change.

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Not only am I pointing to the things I'm saying, here's what we need to do, here's the move.

00:27:24.984 --> 00:27:25.678
I'm telling you we here's what we need to do, here's the move.

00:27:25.678 --> 00:27:30.592
I'm telling you we going left when we need to cut straight and then take a right, yep, right.

00:27:30.592 --> 00:27:39.270
I'm telling you what we need to do and I'm sure that thing, yeah, and you don't listen, I gots to go.

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You get what I'm saying Because you don't acknowledge and or respect what I have to offer.

00:27:46.545 --> 00:27:56.825
And a lot of times we don't realize when you see people start leaving your organization or leaving from under your leadership and they are unwilling to follow.

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A lot of times we blame that on personality differences.

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A lot of times we blame that on personality differences.

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We blame that on their ability to adjust to the environment.

00:28:06.435 --> 00:28:10.079
Right, like, oh, they just really couldn't get with it.

00:28:10.079 --> 00:28:11.161
They didn't see the vision.

00:28:11.161 --> 00:28:15.122
Or maybe you didn't see them.

00:28:15.122 --> 00:28:17.290
Come on, oh, maybe you, maybe you didn't recognize and relate to what was inside of them.

00:28:17.290 --> 00:28:22.744
Maybe you didn't recognize and relate to what was inside of them, that's right.

00:28:22.744 --> 00:28:32.402
And maybe you stood in their way of them either developing in or being able to express their genius on your team.

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That's good man, wow.

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And so I think, as middle adults who are now a lot of us are supervising somebody, or we are in some type of leadership role or we have some level of influence, because that's what being a middle adult is.

00:28:48.636 --> 00:28:53.494
When you turn 35, you start looking you'd be like dang, people need me.

00:28:53.494 --> 00:28:57.710
Huh, let me get up and see what I can do.

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Let me get up and do me.

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Get up and do something Correct.

00:29:00.875 --> 00:29:03.707
Right, you have got to start, you have got.

00:29:03.707 --> 00:29:12.753
If you are going in thinking, ah, I just need to teach everybody how to, how to be a grownup, I need to teach everybody how to be a professional.

00:29:12.753 --> 00:29:14.771
I need to teach everybody how to.

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You know how to, how to finish things and how to create things.

00:29:18.567 --> 00:29:30.433
If that's your mindset, you are going to miss out on the important element of being able to support and foster and nurture the genius of the people who follow you.

00:29:32.246 --> 00:29:40.574
So when I came onto Angel Street, I'd always you know, I'm a co-founder, so I've been a part for the full life of it.

00:29:40.724 --> 00:29:52.413
But when I came on the full-time staff as the executive director, um, and the um outgoing executive director, jill, who's the um, you know, uh, what's up?

00:29:52.452 --> 00:30:06.059
Jill shout out to Jill Dyson uh, amazing person, um, and she was still on the team and she, like, we had had, we were, we had a kind of a three person executive situation, which was a beautiful partnership.

00:30:06.059 --> 00:30:19.053
And so I remember at the time we had two locations and I came in, we had a program director, we had two locations and I came in and my job, we wanted to just build out what we were doing.

00:30:19.053 --> 00:30:30.107
And so I came in January of 2020 and we had started this process and we were I was kind of we, we started the building process, I was in my bag and I was ready.

00:30:30.107 --> 00:30:56.047
And then March hits right, really, around February, and and Jill, I remember she sent, I remember us talking about it, about this, you know COVID and this, you know this coronavirus, this disease, whatever and at the time it was mostly in the nursing homes and you know it kind of spiked in China, but it wasn't.

00:30:56.186 --> 00:31:05.679
You know, it was like me being me, and she jokes a lot of times because she says her husband and me are very similar.

00:31:05.679 --> 00:31:10.711
We're very much like, hey, it ain't going to be that big of a deal, like, let's not trip too much.

00:31:10.711 --> 00:31:13.512
One of Jill's is discernment, okay.

00:31:13.512 --> 00:31:19.851
And she said, I think we need to pay attention to this, I think we're going to need to get ready.

00:31:19.851 --> 00:31:22.593
I said, jill, I don't think it's going to be a big deal.

00:31:23.085 --> 00:31:23.926
I remember her very.

00:31:23.926 --> 00:31:30.753
I remember very vividly an email that she sent and it was with an article, and she said we need to get ready.

00:31:30.753 --> 00:31:36.758
Like it was a, it was past, a, you know, like I, I think we ought to pay attention.

00:31:36.758 --> 00:31:38.732
It was very much, we need to get ready.

00:31:38.732 --> 00:31:50.699
And I remember being like, okay, now, in that moment I could have chosen to continue to ignore her genius and I'm telling you right now, if I had, we wouldn't be here.

00:31:50.699 --> 00:31:59.751
Angel Street just wouldn't be around, because, jill, it switched from me being in my bag to Jill being in hers, because Jill is a firefighter you hear me.

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She is going to do it.

00:32:02.117 --> 00:32:15.269
And so I had to have enough humility to say I got to step back and I need to just become, I need to just basically whatever Jill tells me to do, I'm going to have to do it right.

00:32:15.269 --> 00:32:19.314
And when I said this, she was right.

00:32:20.268 --> 00:32:28.115
And we got ahead of the game in a lot of ways because Jill said we need to start preparing right now, and it it became crisis mode.

00:32:28.115 --> 00:32:31.528
Right, we and we honestly we raised a lot of money.

00:32:31.528 --> 00:32:33.795
She got us all the loans we needed.

00:32:33.795 --> 00:32:44.892
She got us all the stuff, all the ppp's, anything you could get she got talking about yes and and I when I tell we did a whole campaign, we couldn't do our fundraising event that year, she, she galvanized.

00:32:44.892 --> 00:32:46.715
She's a galvanizer, I think she, she's.

00:32:47.037 --> 00:32:52.088
I think she's the same as yours um, I'm gonna say me and jill are very similar you're very similar, but she galvanized people.

00:32:52.128 --> 00:32:59.371
We did this whole campaign and, when I tell you and I took a real back seat I was very I didn't know what to do.

00:32:59.371 --> 00:33:02.676
Um, but one thing that I did, right.

00:33:02.676 --> 00:33:03.077
So.

00:33:03.077 --> 00:33:10.038
So she worked there and she got there and my job was to sit and think what, what does Angel Street look like now?

00:33:10.038 --> 00:33:15.194
So I got to be in my building bag, but it wasn't necessarily.

00:33:15.194 --> 00:33:18.688
And I got to be in my wonder bag, but there was no action on it.

00:33:18.688 --> 00:33:21.534
She was doing the action and I was doing the wondering.

00:33:21.534 --> 00:33:23.719
So then, when the action stopped, we knew what we needed to do.

00:33:23.719 --> 00:33:25.631
Here's where I think we need to go.

00:33:26.385 --> 00:33:33.577
I did a lot of thinking, I did a lot of planning, I did a lot of looking at stuff and like, and I had time to do it Right.

00:33:33.577 --> 00:33:42.199
This is, I think, and, as you were talking, this is a great example, even to me in this moment, of how geniuses work together, when you allow the geniuses to work.

00:33:42.199 --> 00:33:57.087
But at any point, either one of us could have prevented the other's genius from working and angel straight as an organization, I I'm just it would not have survived.

00:33:57.087 --> 00:33:59.348
Like, let me tell you something?

00:33:59.930 --> 00:34:14.458
No, that part I'm reminded of when COVID hit for me and I was working in student life, student activities, and they were like, yeah, we've got to shut the college down and money and they need to cut positions.

00:34:14.458 --> 00:34:37.791
I have to move this from being a in-person you know fun thing I got to move this into being something that's sustainable.

00:34:37.791 --> 00:34:45.771
Online and online programming was never really a big thing and I told them I remember I was sitting at a table.

00:34:45.771 --> 00:34:47.940
It was the last in-person meeting we had.

00:34:47.940 --> 00:34:50.367
We were all sitting at a table, at a big table.

00:34:50.367 --> 00:34:56.829
It was like six of us with three chairs in between everybody, and I remember they was like, well, what's campus like?

00:34:56.829 --> 00:35:05.786
They were like going around and each person was saying what their office was going to do and I was just sitting there and I was just like they were like Jaquita, what you're going to do with campus life?

00:35:05.786 --> 00:35:08.192
I said we're going to do quarantine TV.

00:35:08.192 --> 00:35:19.954
I said we are going to do a TV show every Friday featuring student programming we're going to do, and I just started listening and it like we're going to do.

00:35:19.954 --> 00:35:22.338
And I just started listening and it like, literally I didn't have any time.

00:35:22.338 --> 00:35:29.327
But even in this conversation.

00:35:29.347 --> 00:35:36.867
I I don't think, before taking this assessment, I would have ever like deemed myself to be a firefighter, but I work so well under pressure yeah, like a lot.

00:35:36.867 --> 00:35:47.132
Sometimes I wait for the pressure to come so I can be like let's go Go time, all right, I got you All right, don't even worry about it, it's going to be amazing.

00:35:47.132 --> 00:35:51.664
But it was in that moment I discerned really quickly.

00:35:51.664 --> 00:35:55.954
I was like there's a threat here that I need to turn into an opportunity.

00:35:55.954 --> 00:35:57.038
That's good.

00:35:58.246 --> 00:36:01.956
And I think that that's what the genius of discernment really is.

00:36:01.956 --> 00:36:05.835
It really is something here could go really wrong.

00:36:05.835 --> 00:36:07.911
Here's how we make it go really right.

00:36:07.911 --> 00:36:10.170
Yeah, like it does not have to.

00:36:10.766 --> 00:36:24.034
And the other thing I had to learn was that I remember I was working with someone to help them pull off a conference and as they were like throwing out the ideas, I was like, yeah, but what about this and this could happen and that could happen.

00:36:24.034 --> 00:36:35.190
And you know, I was just saying all this stuff and they were like you know, jaquita, you really are negative and you know you don't really speak life and speak life into things, are you?

00:36:35.190 --> 00:36:38.277
You make things seem like they're not going to work out.

00:36:38.277 --> 00:36:47.786
And I realized, looking back now, I realized I was only using one side of my gift, because I didn't.

00:36:47.786 --> 00:37:03.023
I was seeing the threats, but because I wasn't really, I was just insecure about proposing the ideas and the opportunities, because I didn't, I didn't think they would be accepted.

00:37:03.023 --> 00:37:03.445
That's really good.

00:37:03.445 --> 00:37:07.505
And so I just offered threats because I was like well, think about this, I don't want this to go wrong.

00:37:07.505 --> 00:37:19.398
So I'm going to give you the threat and let you figure out the opportunity when we make people feel really comfortable in who they are and in what they bring to the table.

00:37:19.398 --> 00:37:26.050
You will get the totality of their gift versus what they're just willing to give you.

00:37:26.050 --> 00:37:28.666
And they're not willing to give you all of it because they're afraid.

00:37:28.666 --> 00:37:38.862
They're afraid of the judgment, they're afraid of not being accepted, they're afraid that you're going to call what they're saying, you know, inadequate or insufficient.

00:37:38.862 --> 00:37:51.295
You know like people are afraid to show their full genius and the way that we, as leaders, support people fully growing in who they are is we act like.

00:37:51.876 --> 00:37:53.719
You have to be able to discern.

00:37:53.719 --> 00:37:58.135
Sorry, everybody's not a discerner, but you got to be able to discern what's in your people.

00:37:58.135 --> 00:38:07.217
You got to be able like if you take this assessment, I just really encourage listen, I've taken a lot of assessments in my day.

00:38:07.217 --> 00:38:09.063
You know I love assessments.

00:38:09.063 --> 00:38:10.806
This one was very new for me.

00:38:10.806 --> 00:38:12.210
I really enjoyed it.

00:38:12.210 --> 00:38:18.429
So, as a person that takes a lot of assessments and that knows the good from the bad, that can weed them out.

00:38:18.971 --> 00:38:33.891
This is a good one because you need to be able to notice who in your team is doing what Right and you need to notice like you could have taken Jill, being like hey, you know we ain't got time for you know.

00:38:33.891 --> 00:38:36.157
You know we need to be preparing for COVID.

00:38:36.157 --> 00:38:51.576
You could have taken that, as that's really going to stop progress, like we're building right now, like you know we're on our way to something, and you could have ignored her warning that it's like if we don't move, it's going to crumble.

00:38:51.576 --> 00:38:56.034
And when we don't step back.

00:38:56.034 --> 00:39:11.733
But see that, when you trust each other, though and that do you know what that did for Jill to know that, like you followed her and when leaders follow leaders and man, it's a different, it's a different ballgame.

00:39:12.025 --> 00:39:15.010
And you know, there's a couple of other things that I think are important in that.

00:39:15.010 --> 00:39:20.739
You know that I'm thinking I was, you know, there there could have been again.

00:39:20.739 --> 00:39:34.289
That trust is important, humility is important, um, and you, what I, what I could have very easily thought, was she.

00:39:34.289 --> 00:39:39.105
She doesn't, she doesn't respect my leadership, right, especially coming into that position and her leaving that position.

00:39:39.105 --> 00:39:48.018
Right, it was a very that could have been a very intense thing, and so I could have had that mindset, but it's not about in that moment.

00:39:48.018 --> 00:39:54.989
And this is we make leadership about authority.

00:39:54.989 --> 00:39:56.860
In that moment, it's not about authority, it's about gift.

00:39:56.860 --> 00:39:59.101
The authority is not the point, it's about the gift.

00:39:59.101 --> 00:40:10.085
So one of the things I think about leadership that we don't we we that it's a different perspective on leadership that I think most people like the in the traditional sense we don't see it.

00:40:10.387 --> 00:40:20.960
In the traditional sense, we see leadership as a hierarchical ladder, right, um and that has been the way it's been modeled for most of us, right?

00:40:20.960 --> 00:40:25.952
Is you have the top people who make the decisions and the people underneath them follow those particular decisions.

00:40:25.952 --> 00:40:29.829
Um, I don't think that's the best leadership model.

00:40:29.829 --> 00:40:33.356
Uh, I think that a better leadership model is real.

00:40:33.356 --> 00:40:35.829
It's not, it's not a ladder or it's not any.

00:40:35.829 --> 00:40:41.271
It's not a, uh, a vertical situation, right, it is more of a circular situation.

00:40:41.733 --> 00:40:58.427
Everyone has the opportunity to lead when it's time for their genius to show up, and so, if you are a leader that has authority, the best way you can use your authority is to open the door for people to use their genius when it's time.

00:40:58.427 --> 00:41:07.612
And so, to your point, you know, allow people like, create the environment for your genius to work when it's time.

00:41:07.612 --> 00:41:25.309
And, as a leader that has some level of decision-making authority, what you cannot do is feel threatened because your genius isn't on display, and I think, a lot of times, people in decision making, you feel threatened because it's not my genius at play.

00:41:25.309 --> 00:41:37.481
Well, if your genius, if, if the builder is called, or you, if you insist that you show up to the fire with a hammer, that house is going to burn down.

00:41:37.481 --> 00:41:43.235
And now you as you you as the leader, are now looked at crazy.

00:41:43.235 --> 00:41:46.146
Why didn't you just call the firefighters?

00:41:46.146 --> 00:41:47.088
Why'd you?

00:41:47.128 --> 00:41:48.572
feel like you had to come and do it.

00:41:49.152 --> 00:41:51.056
Girl, this is helping me.

00:41:51.056 --> 00:41:52.927
This is helping me.

00:41:52.927 --> 00:42:06.811
Let me tell you, I feel, like in previous work situations, like I've noted that I think that the genius of a couple of people that I worked with was definitely that tenacity.

00:42:06.811 --> 00:42:13.028
It was, hey, guys, we got deadlines and very task oriented and very we got to do the things.

00:42:13.028 --> 00:42:22.876
And I was in the background saying, hey, hey, like we're not you paying attention to the task and your people are not motivated.

00:42:22.876 --> 00:42:28.231
They don't believe in the work anymore, they don't believe in you, they don't believe in us.

00:42:28.231 --> 00:43:05.420
Like we need to spend time really pouring into our team, ours about to crumble, and I'm like, and then like when it started being like the doors closing for me to give input, yeah, right, and it was like it was like, instead of hearing Jaquita say, hey, things are really getting out of control, it's we're just not going to invite Jaquita to the conversation, and I was like noted, yeah, if I, you know what I'm saying.

00:43:05.420 --> 00:43:20.586
And so, like, we have to create the, the image that came up for me when you were saying, like you know, allowing people to shine when it's their time, like is a training camp, like you have got to make sure.

00:43:20.586 --> 00:43:39.010
Like when you even like, when you think about any like armed services, like they all go to basic training, but after basic training they have specialties and they are in training for those specialties and when it's their time to operate in a specialty, they ready to go Right.

00:43:39.505 --> 00:43:47.639
And you have to see leadership as what am I doing to foster the development of people who are not me?

00:43:47.639 --> 00:43:59.407
Come on, that's it.

00:43:59.407 --> 00:44:09.713
What am I doing to foster the development of people whose geniuses may not look like mine, may not always agree with mine, your genius may not always agree with mine, even in, like this podcast, like we have different geniuses that don't always agree.

00:44:09.713 --> 00:44:19.333
It's not going to always agree, but we have to be subservient to each other to say, hey, ruth has the lead right now, because that's who needs to be in front, right, right.

00:44:19.393 --> 00:44:27.284
Like if we were to do like some type of campaign where we were like out in the street, if we were to do like some type of campaign where we were like out in the street and we were like going up to people and like, hey, we want to create.

00:44:27.284 --> 00:44:28.849
Okay, then, jaquita, take lead.

00:44:28.849 --> 00:44:37.614
Because, like, we need a galvanizer here, right, right, if we need to like create like a schedule of when we're going to get everything done and how we're going to do it.

00:44:37.614 --> 00:44:38.416
And dah, dah, dah, dah dah.

00:44:38.416 --> 00:44:44.349
Joy, yep, we need you up Right If we need to figure out what's the vision, what's the direction.

00:44:44.349 --> 00:44:46.474
You know what can we do next.

00:44:46.474 --> 00:44:47.846
You know who all can we.

00:44:47.846 --> 00:44:49.769
You know, ruth, you up next.

00:44:49.769 --> 00:45:00.793
But you gotta be willing to give in when it's time, but you also gotta be ready to go when it's your time you get what I'm saying.

00:45:00.914 --> 00:45:33.478
One of the things that I had to unlearn was that, when it comes to you operating in your genius, there is a difference between timidity and humility, and somebody at one point in our lives told us that to be humble meant to be mild, it meant to hold back, to not show people everything you could do and to not operate at full capacity, but to come in and kind of halfway do something.

00:45:33.478 --> 00:45:36.568
No, baby, show up in all your.

00:45:36.568 --> 00:45:38.471
It's your moment.

00:45:38.471 --> 00:45:41.856
Show up and show out.

00:45:41.856 --> 00:45:44.480
We need you right here.

00:45:45.221 --> 00:45:59.668
If I, as a galvanizer, showed up and because I didn't want to seem like you know I'm trying to be timid because I don't want to seem like the person that needs to be center of attention, or the person that needs to hog the mic, or the person that da, da, da, da da.

00:45:59.668 --> 00:46:02.936
That is necessary for me to operate in my genius.

00:46:02.936 --> 00:46:05.990
The microphone is necessary for me.

00:46:05.990 --> 00:46:13.777
It is not that I need to be center of attention, it is not that I believe that I need to be the one on the stage and that only I can do it.

00:46:13.777 --> 00:46:20.896
It is because it is a necessary tool in order for me to do what it is that that I want.

00:46:20.896 --> 00:46:23.000
It's necessary for me to work in my genius.

00:46:23.164 --> 00:46:23.552
That's good.

00:46:23.552 --> 00:46:24.865
That's good, it doesn't.

00:46:24.865 --> 00:46:38.186
It doesn't mean that, um, but we have made it seem like people who get up and speak, or who get up and are talking in a crowd of people think that they somebody, baby, first of all, it ain't that easy.

00:46:38.186 --> 00:46:41.231
It ain't as easy as it looks, and that's for all of these.

00:46:41.231 --> 00:46:42.373
You know what I'm saying.

00:46:42.373 --> 00:46:44.637
Like Ruth Abigail is an executive director.

00:46:44.637 --> 00:46:52.635
It's not as easy as it looks, amen, you get what I'm saying Right Like, but we cannot show up timidly.

00:46:53.036 --> 00:46:54.878
Yes, you show up timidly.

00:46:54.878 --> 00:46:58.115
Let me tell you something them people will run over you.

00:46:58.135 --> 00:46:59.260
You're going to get run over.

00:47:03.045 --> 00:47:03.628
You're going to get run over.

00:47:03.648 --> 00:47:06.876
Yes, yes run over in a place that you were supposed to be leading and shining, or when it's your time, you'll be, you'll be, you'll be.

00:47:06.876 --> 00:47:21.313
Um, disregard, like disregarded or dismissed, and and, and the thing is, you're needed, like you have, you're needed and so, and, if you don't know that, then nobody else.

00:47:21.313 --> 00:47:46.472
If, if you're in a situation and this is why I think it's so important this G and I love the word genius, because it assumes that, um, everyone is at the top of their game at something, and so it's like you're all on a team, everybody's got, everybody's at the top, like they're not you're, you know nobody's, so you're, you're all in this at the same level, right, you're, you know nobody's, so you're, you're all in this at the same level, right, yeah?

00:47:46.472 --> 00:47:49.402
And so you're playing, you, you, you're playing with people, who, who you can match with.

00:47:49.422 --> 00:47:57.778
If I'm, if we're on a team and I'm the best shot on the team, then when I get the ball, your job is to shoot the ball.

00:47:57.778 --> 00:48:02.757
Shoot the ball like don't, don't sit here like I want to seem like a ball hog.

00:48:02.757 --> 00:48:05.170
I want to seem like I'm scoring all the points.

00:48:05.170 --> 00:48:06.054
Man, I don't.

00:48:07.889 --> 00:48:11.557
I'm not a shooter, shoot the ball, I'm a defender.

00:48:11.557 --> 00:48:35.833
Exactly, if you're a defender and you like, look, don't sit here and just act, don't be calling for the ball all the time, get ready to go get the rebound, or go get ready to get back to the other side of the court so that when the team rebounds, you're prepared to stop them, like, stop trying to be who it is you think other people need or want you to be.

00:48:35.833 --> 00:48:37.210
Be who you need to be.

00:48:37.210 --> 00:48:48.534
Be who you are because you're needed, and this is again why this assessment is so good, because we don't operate in silos.

00:48:48.534 --> 00:48:54.692
Let me say it like this we do operate in silos, but if you want something done well, you can't operate in a silo.

00:48:55.585 --> 00:49:01.967
The best things, the things that we all love and admire, the things that we look at and you see, it's like man, that is amazing.

00:49:01.967 --> 00:49:03.829
That was not done by one person.

00:49:03.829 --> 00:49:09.715
It was not done but with with one, in one way that there were.

00:49:09.715 --> 00:49:14.121
There were a lot of things that were contributing to that thing being produced.

00:49:14.121 --> 00:49:24.128
Everybody had a genius at work at some point in producing what it is that you admire, and so if you want to be a part of that, then you got to show up.

00:49:24.128 --> 00:49:31.092
I love that You've got to show up Like I don't one of the things that I think you know, and even this, this podcast.

00:49:31.092 --> 00:49:36.907
But even just like anytime I'm in a room and I've learned how to um.

00:49:36.907 --> 00:49:43.931
I've learned I don't do this as much as anymore, but I struggle.

00:49:43.931 --> 00:49:44.550
I've learned that.

00:49:44.570 --> 00:50:17.322
I've struggled with people thinking that I needed to earn my like I'm the youngest in a lot of rooms I'm in these days with any level of authority in something feels, especially when it's counter to what's being said or when it's a different idea or when it's something that I feel like is missing from a conversation that other people around the table aren't probably going to say.

00:50:17.322 --> 00:50:19.606
I'm like, I sometimes second guess myself.

00:50:19.606 --> 00:50:51.572
It's like I'm new to the table, I'm young, you know, and I'm young, but also I look younger than I actually am and so you know, it's like I don't know that I have the right to speak and I struggle with that sometimes because a lot of times, what I say, because of the genius and I, this wonder and invention genius, working together together, it's going to bring an idea to the table that's going to shift the conversation a lot of times and what, what we were going to do and I I call it like throwing a wrench, like can I throw a wrench in this?

00:50:51.572 --> 00:50:53.157
Because now, what?

00:50:53.177 --> 00:51:07.911
When I say what I'm about to say, it might shift how we move and I, and it might take us to on a different course, it might have us think about a different thing, it might make the thing bigger than it is that we are talking about, and I always get nervous about that.

00:51:07.911 --> 00:51:36.018
But if I don't do that, then I have to live with the fact that because I was quiet and because I didn't speak up and because I didn't show up, the thing that we all wanted it to be, it won't be that at its fullest and that's on me and I have to, I have to walk away from the table, leaving that and also understand if you don't take your moment, you probably won't get it back, like it's not coming back, right.

00:51:36.018 --> 00:51:39.811
So when it's time for your genius to come up, take it, if you.

00:51:39.811 --> 00:51:42.557
If you don't, if you miss it, you've missed it.

00:51:43.065 --> 00:51:48.289
Listen, ain't nothing worse than seeing somebody else do what you were supposed to do?

00:51:48.289 --> 00:51:53.728
Ain't nothing worse than it, man, look you know where?

00:51:53.728 --> 00:51:54.108
I learned that?

00:51:54.108 --> 00:52:06.813
At Church, because you would be hearing the Lord tell you to go do something and you'd be like I'm just going to fall back, and then you see somebody else do exactly what the Lord told you to do.

00:52:06.813 --> 00:52:11.434
It only takes a few times for you to be like all right, let me get myself up.

00:52:11.454 --> 00:52:15.186
That's what happened to Saul Like you know what I'm saying.

00:52:15.186 --> 00:52:17.811
Like you, you get nervous and you don't.

00:52:17.811 --> 00:52:23.320
But you, you let me tell you, I promise y'all it is there.

00:52:23.320 --> 00:52:28.275
You are not served by not getting out and shining.

00:52:28.275 --> 00:52:28.998
That's right.

00:52:28.998 --> 00:52:35.679
Even if, even if you get out there and you go do your thing and it's not fully received, are you stumble?

00:52:35.679 --> 00:52:38.012
You need, you need that.

00:52:38.012 --> 00:52:39.027
That's what you know.

00:52:39.027 --> 00:52:40.010
Like it's I'm.

00:52:40.170 --> 00:52:42.856
I'm imagining like a calf when it's first born.

00:52:42.856 --> 00:52:51.998
The legs might be a little shaky but you got to stand up on those legs in order for them to be strengthened enough to carry the weight of who you are.

00:52:51.998 --> 00:52:52.719
That's right.

00:52:52.719 --> 00:52:55.179
You're going to have to walk a little bit.

00:52:55.179 --> 00:52:55.925
I'm getting country.

00:52:55.925 --> 00:52:58.411
I got to really rein that in.

00:52:58.411 --> 00:53:04.226
You're gone, what you're gone doing, you know.

00:53:04.246 --> 00:53:22.396
But seriously, seriously, like you, really, you have to give yourself opportunity and that's why I'm saying I'm imagining a training camp, because, as a leader, you need to be, you need to be, uh, developing low profile opportunities for your people to be practicing their gifts.

00:53:22.396 --> 00:53:35.148
Especially if you are a middle adult who is leading and developing young leaders, you need to be creating low risk opportunities for them.

00:53:35.148 --> 00:53:46.626
If you know somebody is a galvanizer, you're not going to put them you know what I'm saying Like Ruth Abigail is not going to put them at the celebrity luncheon fundraiser and being like, all right, run it, you know.

00:53:46.626 --> 00:53:52.315
But what opportunities can you give them that are low profile?

00:53:52.315 --> 00:53:57.311
Hey, you're going to, you're going to introduce the team at the beginning of our next show.

00:53:57.311 --> 00:53:59.978
You know, we want you to.

00:54:00.077 --> 00:54:03.094
You know, do a little excerpt at the beginning of it.

00:54:03.094 --> 00:54:05.528
You know, like you know, here's a little speech.

00:54:05.528 --> 00:54:11.688
I want you, you know, develop a speech that you know, but give them some low profile opportunities.

00:54:11.688 --> 00:54:18.168
If you know that you have a person who's an ideation person, like and they are the, um, what is it?

00:54:18.168 --> 00:54:19.411
The inventor, the?

00:54:19.411 --> 00:54:20.072
The inventor.

00:54:20.673 --> 00:54:21.376
Yeah, invention.

00:54:21.836 --> 00:54:27.155
Right, if you know they have invention, invite them into the rooms where y'all are coming up with ideas.

00:54:27.155 --> 00:54:27.577
That's it.

00:54:27.577 --> 00:54:28.907
Yes, absolutely.

00:54:28.907 --> 00:54:34.038
Let them sit at the table and learn and then encourage their input.

00:54:34.038 --> 00:54:34.704
That's good.

00:54:34.704 --> 00:54:36.626
Say, hey, you know you.

00:54:36.626 --> 00:54:39.809
Inventor Eric, what do you think that's right?

00:54:39.809 --> 00:54:41.530
Inventor Eric, what do you think that's?

00:54:41.550 --> 00:54:41.650
right.

00:54:41.690 --> 00:54:42.331
You know what I'm saying.

00:54:42.351 --> 00:55:04.927
Like you need to be cultivating what you see in other people and then, when their moment comes, literally get out of their way, get out of their way, especially if it's not your gift man and if you are mentoring people who have the same gifts as you, you should not make assumptions that their gift is going to show up the ways that yours does.

00:55:04.927 --> 00:55:09.034
You shouldn't make assumptions.

00:55:09.034 --> 00:55:11.559
I think that something that has.

00:55:11.559 --> 00:55:21.679
I think I'm a person that mentors a lot of different people Not as much anymore, but I mentor, I mentor.

00:55:21.679 --> 00:55:23.306
It's something I'm really passionate about.

00:55:24.768 --> 00:55:27.032
I have, you know, I have one mentee.

00:55:27.032 --> 00:55:30.360
You know, she, my baby, she, my little.

00:55:30.360 --> 00:55:38.068
I used to call her my mini me and I used to be like whatever, whatever ways you guys expect me to show up, she's going to show up.

00:55:38.068 --> 00:55:44.027
What I have learned in the last year is that she's so, she's going to show up.

00:55:44.027 --> 00:56:15.416
What I have learned in the last year is that she's so much better at me than things in certain areas, like we have similar areas of giftedness, but she actually she got me on some stuff and I'm sitting back watching like, well dang, I thought I was a discerner, but this girl is good and she's confident and she's sure in who she is and what she's showing up, as it would be so easy for me to go in and say you know what you really need to show up like this, because this is how our gift works.

00:56:15.958 --> 00:56:20.048
Wow, this is how our things work, and so I need you.

00:56:20.048 --> 00:56:32.039
No, there's areas where I can offer counsel, there's areas I can offer guidance, but I should not be quenching the fire that's inside of her.

00:56:32.039 --> 00:56:32.820
That is correct.

00:56:33.481 --> 00:56:53.864
That is correct and I love that you said that, because I but even when you have the same genius, the other things about you inform how that shows up, right, the knowledge base you have, the experiences, you have the confidence that you have right.

00:56:53.864 --> 00:56:55.266
I mean, it's all going to.

00:56:55.266 --> 00:57:08.422
It's all that is also going to play a role in how that genius actually shows itself, and it won't be the same right, it's not going to be the same as other people and as people that have that same genius.

00:57:08.422 --> 00:57:09.880
I think that's so key.

00:57:09.880 --> 00:57:39.780
I think one of the other things I've learned about this and about thinking about this is I'll phrase it like this a genius that if there is something that frustrates you, um, about another person, uh, unlearning that the most important thing about that is that it frustrates you.

00:57:39.780 --> 00:57:45.152
Instead turn it around and ask yourself what this is.

00:57:45.152 --> 00:57:49.309
Is this frustrating because it's frustrating or is this frustrating because it rubs against?

00:57:49.309 --> 00:57:54.485
It's their genius rubbing up against mine, like we've talked about tenacity?

00:57:54.485 --> 00:57:56.150
I think because both of us.

00:57:56.532 --> 00:58:12.835
I think that is a genius that rubs against, but it is a genius, it is not just a frustrating trait or personality trait that doesn't match with mine, like it's a genius, right, I, I, I do because of my genius and wonderment and invention.

00:58:12.835 --> 00:58:23.106
These things are not deadline oriented, like you have to have room to create and change and think and ponder and like it, I, I won, I don't.

00:58:23.106 --> 00:58:31.735
There's some things it's like I can't tell you exactly when I'm going to have this to you, but then there are things that require a deadline.

00:58:31.735 --> 00:58:34.724
It's like we can't keep looking over this.

00:58:34.724 --> 00:58:36.943
This is not the time to bring up a new idea.

00:58:36.943 --> 00:58:38.882
This has to be finished, right.

00:58:38.882 --> 00:58:41.563
And it's like, no, but I just.

00:58:41.563 --> 00:58:48.206
But last night I was just thinking, I was like, shoot, I know this is due tomorrow, but this would be really cool.

00:58:48.206 --> 00:58:51.356
And it's like, hey, the time for really cool was two weeks ago.

00:58:51.777 --> 00:58:57.228
Yeah, there's no more really cool and if I'm not careful I'll feel offended by that.

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I'll feel I'll feel like, you know, um, squashed down by that, and if I am, if I have a level of decision making authority in the situation, I can usurp that moment and say, no, we're going to do it this way, push the deadline back, which then, to your point, squashes and squelches the genius and and of of the person that has tenacity, that that would be a bad idea.

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Um, and so you know, I'm saying, and so it's like, okay, in that moment, you have to, we have to, like my genius works when it works and then other people's doesn't.

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Like we have a uh, we're about to put out a uh annual report which is like a big annual newsletter we do for the organization.

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We're going to send it out this week.

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It's getting finalized in the next couple of days.

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Believe me when I say I've thought about 10 million things I'd want to do differently, communicate differently.

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You know we have.

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You know maybe we do this and let's do all this stuff right.

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At the end of the day, this thing has to get printed on Tuesday.

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Guess what With Abigail's new ideas?

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Cut them, I don't.

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You don't.

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Get a new idea right now.

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Yeah we're editing, we're taking things away, we're not adding anything else.

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Right, there's.

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It's not the time, and I have to tell myself that, and let the other people who, who have a better eye for that stuff, speak into it, right?

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So when you, when you find yourself rubbing up against and when you find yourself frustrated by another person's uh, personality trait, it might be their genius at work and and the best thing to do is to let their genius work, take your back seat, let it work, because it's not about, it's not about you, and I think this is, this is an assessment that makes it so clear Every moment ain't about you and who you are and your personality and your gifts.

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It has to work together, like the thing that you're looking for, the thing that's coming, the thing that is in your head that you want to see come alive, won't happen with just what you're able to do.

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It has to be.

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You have to have that moment, those moments of contribution from other people.

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It becomes a shared experience and we don't like sharing because we like the credit and we like the, we like the authority and we like the, we like feeling like we're on top and we want, we want the thing on our resume.

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We want to be able to say I did that, that it doesn't work that way.

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I mean you could do that, but whatever it is you do is going to be incomplete and uninspiring because it it was all about you and people can smell that, right, you can smell it from all the way.

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And I think, see, I just feel the need to bring a point of clarity for the saints right.

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A lot of times when we dismiss this idea of it being all about us because we see ourselves as oh no, but I was helping and I was, you know, and I was serving and you know I was, I was just making sure everybody was okay and you, you, you, you and you, when what you really needed to do, you were, you were, when what you really needed to do you were the one at the fire sitting out, handing out brownies Correct Saying but I'm helping, yeah, and you know I'm making sure people feel good and you know it's really.

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You know I'm the one who gave the firefighters a bottle of water.

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Yeah, because they were thirsty, and it's like it wasn't your moment.

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Yes, it wasn't your moment.

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It wasn't your moment.

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It is so much more and I think and this is something I had to learn, you know to build leadership around the idea of making other people great, versus me walking in and being like hello everyone, jaquita's here, yes, thank you, thank you.

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Hold your applause, everyone.

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Hold your applause.

01:03:06.440 --> 01:03:07.041
Right.

01:03:07.041 --> 01:03:10.617
And my last role my team was out here killing it.

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You hear what I'm saying?

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They was out here killing it and I was just in the background.

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You want to know what's so funny?

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Cause I work in a different position at the same college, right?

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Every time my new boss introduces me, she's like and I'm sure you guys already know her because she was working at Clemson before but here's Jaquita, and the people are looking at me like who are you?

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Because I was a background leader.

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I was not sitting there like, oh, I got to get in the front of that.

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And Ooh, oh, they're doing that.

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I need to make sure I'm there, I need to make sure I'm seen, I need to.

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I.

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I was like oh, oh, you really good at that.

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Do your thing.

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I got your back.

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You know, like I was really that person the only time people saw me was when it was, oh, somebody who said what, add me to the email, you know.

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Oh, okay, wait a minute, that's too big for you and I'm gonna take that off your plate because you be focused on your genius and I'm gonna handle this Right.

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And so, like a lot of people, I'm realizing now that I am in a point where I'm having to build relationships.

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Even though I've been at Clemson almost three years, I'm just now having to build relationships because I it wasn't, it wasn't where I was, I was supporting my team, I was letting them shine.

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But you know, I think, when it comes to this idea of of working together in a team where you recognize, you know, in my previous job we had like three directors who were all like older millennials.

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They were between like we were between like 36 and 42, you know.

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And then we had like nine directors who were all 25, some 26, maybe 127, you know.

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And so they used to call us the adults.

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They were like y'all are the adults and we are, you know, your kids, apparently.

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And so like, if everybody, if all of the adults were out of the office, they'd be like hey, there's no adults here today, but what I, what I, what I think they came to realize was we all have our specialty, and so it is not the adults and the children, it is everybody working together to really push this thing forward.

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And so I think that, regardless of how old you are in a workspace, you have to believe in your genius.

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Absolutely, you have to believe in your genius.

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If you coming in and you're 25 and you're just now learning who you are, whatever you learn about yourself, you gotta believe in it and go full force, go full force.

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It's a you, you go full force, you have to come, you gotta come, correct you gotta come correct, all right, so we probably should have done this a little earlier.

01:05:56.938 --> 01:06:03.702
But just so you know, like they're the um, the, the patrick lincione and his team called the the table group.

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They've kind of done a little research and this is kind of the breakdown as of right now.

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Again, this is new, so more as more people take this, these probably will shift.

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But, um, for the percentages of people that are, uh, that that are these particular things.

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So, if you're a wonder, it's about 10 percent of wonder being, 10 percent of people are kind of in% of wonder being.

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10% of people are kind of in that wonder space.

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10% of people are in galvanizing space and the rest invention, discernment, enablement and tenacity.

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It's about 20% each right.

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So I think that's interesting.

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10% of you know that's.

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That's probably that's kind of what the breakdown is, and so I I agree.

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I think this assessment can be really really helpful for you, for us, to understand how we work together as a team, how to allow people to shine when they shine and how to.

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How do you step up when it's time for you to step up and watching what that, what it does right, like you really have to have this mindset of this isn't about me, it's about the thing, it's about the cause, it's about the thing that we're building.

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It's about the thing that we're trying to accomplish, and so if you have that mindset going in, then the beauty comes.

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When you see what the result is, you're like, oh man, that's amazing, I would have never, thought that it would have been able to get there.

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And that tension of the genius is going to is what is what's going to make those?

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Make that thing great, but don't run away from the, from the tension.

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Don't run away from the friction, work through it, right, it's, it's, it's, it's OK's, okay.

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Again, the things you're gonna need to do that.

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You're gonna need trust, you're gonna need humility, otherwise things can fall apart real quick, real quick, right, so, uh, so, so, so what does it look like to build trust?

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What does it look like for you to be to come humble to the, to the space, not timid but humble.

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Know when it's your turn.

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If it's not your turn, step back.

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If it is your turn, step up.

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And so just understanding that and I think the things that we again want to see out in the world will be so much better, the way that we approach leadership will be so much better if we can learn to respect and accept the geniuses of other people and let them, let them do their thing in the moments it's time to do their thing um sure so all right what you think we do.

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Come on, can I?

01:08:37.846 --> 01:08:39.576
I want to add one more thing, please.

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Um, there was one more thing I unlearned and I just feel like it's really important to note.

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Yes, I am a person that would have described myself in my twenties as being very passion driven, and when I felt like I wasn't passionate about something, I felt like I wasn't supposed to be in that space anymore.

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Right, and this assessment talks about the difference between your working geniuses and your working competencies and your genius.

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Working in your genius actually gives you energy and energizes you, and working in your competencies requires a level of sacrifice.

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It's I can do it, but it's going to require a sacrifice.

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It's going to require me to give energy rather than necessarily receiving it In order to continue growing.

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You are going to have to learn to balance the idea that some days, you're going to be receiving energy from what you do and some days, you the other to be the primary focus of your work.

01:09:44.076 --> 01:10:15.765
And so, as you guys are continuing to grow in your fields and grow in what you're doing, and sometimes we experience burnout, and a lot of times you're experiencing burnout because you are no longer receiving energy or satisfaction or life from what you're doing you need to take a step back and reevaluate Am I operating in my genius, am I operating in a competency, and how do I balance this so that I can be re-energized in the work that I'm doing?

01:10:17.454 --> 01:10:18.015
That's good.

01:10:18.015 --> 01:10:22.543
I'm glad you said that that's good.

01:10:22.543 --> 01:10:24.528
That's good, man, all right.

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So I think we're done, are we?

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done, we're done.

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We're done.

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Hey, I'm proud of us, I am too.

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I am too.

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This is good, All right y'all.

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